Most young couples not rush to have babies, is that a trend?

I think many young couple can not manage the temptation, so they married. But they are not ready. They will not have plenty time for their selves after they have baby, and they are afraid of that. So it is not trend, but it is egoistic thinking. They forget the golden age of having baby. The older the age, the problematic pregnancy become obvious, and more risk to the fetus and to the mother. So it might be dangerous trend, which should be avoided.

If I were them, i will do the same. I will not rush things. But it should be according to the plan. I want to spend time with my husband, to be his wife, to support him, to make him happy and to love him. For sure I will not rush into being a mother abruptly. However, on the course of marriage and the when I found out that I am pregnant, I will not be bothered to be a mother because I will not be pregnant if this is not the right time anyway. I just hope that my husband likes that idea too because i prefer to do not rush things than forcing myself to have a baby right away after the wedding. Let me and my husband enjoy our wedding and honeymoon.

Each couple is different. Some couples have children sooner than others. I think that each couple want different things, have different goals and priorities, and such.

Why should people feel pressured to rush into having children? The human race is plenty. There's nothing to worry about. I think that society is just becoming more open and allowing more freedom to really do what we want with our lives.Plus, it is expensive to have a baby and young newly-weds are just starting out in life and aren't necessarily rolling in the big-bucks, especially if they just moved into a new house. People might not want to have a baby until they know that they have enough money to start saving for the kid's college and stuff like that. I think that it is a smart thing to wait, especially if they are young. I know a 22 year old that has already been married twice. I think that people rush into things before they are even sure of what they really want, and when they realize they want something different, of course it is going to complicate things and make a mess. Patience is a virtue.

I find it that most young people where I live tend to have babies as they think that it is the best way to get a council house.The thing that angers me is that there are people that have children young and tend to just not want to look after them.I feel that perhaps it is a good idea to wait until some people are more mature or older to settle down with a family.

I wouldn't call it a trend as such. Most young couple live apart until they get married. So it is natural for them to bond and have some fun together after marriage before settling into the idea of having a baby.

I don't know if it is a trend or not but I agree with their thinking. Too many couples rush to have kids before they even know if their marriage is going to work. Oh...wait..they rush to get married before they even know ...If it's a trend then it's a good one.

I have many friends who do not want have baby after they got married. For one reason, they do not have enough money to raise a baby, so they want to save some money. For another reason, some of my friends are so young and they were asked by their parents to get married, so they want to spend some years freely. Besides, there are many other reasons for their decision. In my opinion, I want to have a baby immediately after I get married.O(n_n)O~

Hi Kingparker. My sister and her hubby didnt rush having babies. It has been more than 7 years that they are married and finally, they want to have kids... the problem now is that.. my sister was diagnosed with br:ast cancer and it would take another 3 years for them to try having a kid. What age is my sister now? She is 38, so plus 3 years, she would be 41... i dont know if they would still be capable of having a baby though. My take on your subject... to young couples, once you get married, try to have a baby, dont even try delaying it. Just when you think that you are financially capable of having a kid, something is sure to come up that could block you from having a kid all your life.

It's kinda bit hard to tell. Some would get married because the girl is pregnant. I think that is just being wise on how they start to adjust in being married. Just because they got married it doesn't mean they have to had a child.

Well, I don't think it's a trend. Nowadays, people are smarter when it comes to having their own family to raise. Some were get married because the baby is in the womb already. Others do married but don't want to have baby then I think it's a choice of a couple to delay or prolonged their romance being two only. And also it is a good way of really knowing each other and you have enough time for each other. And most of all, you have enough time to save and prepare for your planning to have a baby. When having a baby, a couple should be ready in all aspects so whatever hindrances comes, they were able to surpass it.

hi! I don't think it's actually a trend, I believe they are mature enough to consider everything in having a family, If I were in their situation, I think I'll have the same decision, I would like to enjoy first being with my husband, and aside from that, I want to make sure that we are mature enough to have a baby, i want to be a good mother, so i as well have to prepare, and also, maybe they are thinking of their financial stability. Of course, if you would like to have a baby, you should consider your financial status so you can support him or her. Every parent wants the best for their kids. so why rush to have a baby if you are not yet financially stable? :)

yes i do believe that this is the trend which is common nowadays among young ,newly wed couples. these days we have lots of priorities to be set first before you are ready for parenthood and it is advisable that they should be prepared both mentally and physically to become parents.

Yes. Now a days the youngsters gives importance for their enjoyment. But i dont find any mistake from their point of view.

The average age of first time mothers in my city is 30. That's getting kind of high, but it seems to be working out because couples can get settled in their careers first.

I think they are smart. I wish my husband and I waited a little longer and I finished school first before we had our children. I am so happy I have my children, I just wish the timing was better. I wish that I could have been more financially sound when we had our first child... And my husband and I never had a date before we had our daughter! So, I do wish we waited and had some time together as a couple before we became mommy and daddy.

When a couple chooses to have children, if they decide to have any at all, is up to them. I understand their feelings of wanting to be free for some time and not have children right away. They just got married, so they want to enjoy married life without the responsibility of having children immediately. Another reason might be if they want to save some money for extra expenses a child would be. Yet another possible reason for waiting to have kids might be if a couple isn't sure if they definitely want to stay married. Some people get married on a whim and don't seem 100% sure they want to stay together. Having a child might make them feel forced to stay together, even if they don't want to.

It is good to take time and plan for a better future for your child. No need to hurry untill when one is emotionally, physicall and financially ready to have a child.

HI there, In our generation now, I think it is, cause for me. it's maybe because of crisis. although not that worst. I have a lot of married couples friends as well and until that's exactly the same words they are saying, that they have to some years of their time together, travelling perhaps, for they indeed can do it in a hard way if they have their babies. But i think some couples are not like that,having a baby is one reason to make the relationship more stronger, for couples do marry to make a home not a house.

Kingparker, I believe this is a trend in the U.S., and perhaps abroad. Baby-boomers were a able to earn a decent living with only a bachelor's degree, if not a high school one. Now, master's degrees are becoming commonplace. As school increases, people are delaying marriage longer and longer. The increased education also is causing increased debt among young couples. The debt, which adds financial stress, forces people to work, so there is less incentive to have kids. Young couples are spread thin, and do not think they can handle a child.