My roommate is a drunken wreck!!!

@CODYMAC (1356)
San Diego, California
January 25, 2012 12:40am CST
Wow. I know that life is tough and I probably should give her a break seeing that her uncle is about to die of tumors on his liver, and kidney failure, but why does that make her think she has the right to drink and make my life misserable? I know that it may seem a little insensative for me to be this way, but its like every little problem that she has, it makes it ok for her to drink. Maybe not even a problem, but a good event as well. She was asked out on a date, and she drank saying that she was excited to know that someone wanted to date her. Then she felt like she was not worth anything and decided that she did not want to date, so she turned to drinking. She gets depressed and says, "I need a drink, and I will drink because I can". Then I sit next to her and listen to her problems because I am concerned. Then she gets angry with me because I ask her the next day if she feels better. Her exact words are, "why do you care?" So lately I have tried to avoid her while she drinks, and that has worked out somewhat, but this week was very hard for her. As I stated, her uncle has problems, and I stayed to listen because I really do care about people. I know that sometimes people need an ear to bend. What in the world should I do? I am a christian man who has tried to have conversations with her about hope and faith, but she hates god right now saying that he is taking her "father" who is a good man, when he should take her dad, who she says is worthless. I know that she is venting, and has to let it out but what do I need to do to make it a peaceful environment? This is the same roommate who was trying to kick me out because I said that my felony is holding me back from getting a job. I still want to be there to help her through these trying times, but my life is getting more and more difficult to deal with. I thank you for any advice. Have a great day. :{
1 response
@alicia812 (646)
• Australia
25 Jan 12
Hi Codymac. It seems like your roommate is really problematic, but it also seems to me that she's got an attitude problem as well. She should realize, if she is a person of normal thinking, that you were concerned when you asked how she was, but instead she answered in a very rude way. You can't help a person who is not willing in the first place to help herself and reconcile with her own attitudes and behavior. I would rather stay away, move in a different boarding house or apartment, if I were you. After all you have done for her, trying to listen and offer your concern for her, what is there left for you to do to help her is pray. We all have our own share of problems in this life, you have your own problems too, not just her...
@CODYMAC (1356)
• San Diego, California
25 Jan 12
I am greatful for your response. It makes it easier to deal. I also feel like I am whining, but I need to remedy this problem now before it gets worse. There was a time when she wasnt drinking and that was great. Now that her uncle is dying, it is a mess. I really feel for her, and you know, you may be right. I had this problem with her wanting to kick me out because I had this felony conviction. She was not very caring then and now is a little more understandable, but the same. I do pray that she can be nicer to her future roommates. I am fairly thick skinned, and can take alot, but I think that alot +1 is here. I do need to jump ship. I will keep my mylot people informed in the next few weeks about what takes place. Thank you for your response, and I am glad to know that there are people who can understand what I am going through. :{ Have a nice day. :)
• United States
26 Jan 12
Nothing will change about this living situation. No updates, needed.
• United States
26 Jan 12
I've already told CodyMac this SAME thing (in person), Alicia182, stated. Obviously, my words of intelligence, meant...nothing. CodyMac, is, smart, enough to figure out this living situation. Don't let him fool ya. ;)