Persistence or giving up?

Don't! Please go on with your life and make your own plan. I had a relationship with a guy like that, always promises, never time, always sneaking out, we have 2 children together, he never accepted them. I had to force him to tell his parents he has children. After 8 years it was over for me. The kids don't care never really met him. Now it's 6 years later and suddenly he wants to marry. Now he left the other gf. Great for him but his turn is over. The best years of my life I spent waiting for nothing.

don't do it he's a loser!! why do you got to wait for? he must still love his wife or something. how do you know he ain't going to cheat on you when you both get married. you already know he not the faithful type. i hate when married men act like there single. this happen to me before my husband had this other girl for 2 years while he was married to me i found out this because i had his cell phone and i download something on his phone that would let me read his texts messages and listens to everyone he talking to. he was telling this girl that he wants to marry her and that he loves her he told her that he going to leave me because he don't love me.. well when i confronted him i let him listen to the recording he didnt know what to say he kept telling me sorry and he swears he loves me and that he only use her for one thing. so he was crying when i was trying to get a divorce from him. he calls me everyday and crys that he wants us back together and that he can't sleep. you should not wait for a cheater there are plenty of nice guys in this world. well good luck :-)

I would move on. For one thing, if he is already married, that means he is the type of person to lie to someone. And waiting three years means what? Why the wait?

Having been in a situation not the same, but fairly similar to that, and with hindsight helping me along, if it happened now I'd have to break off the relationship and get on with my life. That sounds like the same old scenario from the married man - asking the girl he's in love with to wait a few years for him...then when those years have passed, he's still married and has no intention of leaving his wife. He might mean it at the time he says it, but when the crunch comes he usually finds it too difficult to carry out, and if the girl on the side continues being available for him and believing him each time he asks for another three years to ponder it all over, then he's got his cake and is eating it too - a wife at home and a woman on the side to provide the excitement. If he has that, why would he want to leave his wife?

I will definitely tell him straight out that we need to break up. I won't wait for someone who had lied to me for the past 5 years. That's why marriage is out of the question. How in the world can someone allow themselves to get tied for years with a person who doesn't even value your right of knowing the truth? I know 5 years is a long time. But I've heard of 8 years and they were better off when they broke up. So, it's better to just let go of this toxic relationship and find someone who truly cares for you and treats you with respect. Enough said. :)

wow three years!!? i think it is ok, love can wait...

i would say trust your instincts, not your heart. there are many different situations where something like this happen and each have different solutions. go over the years that you were with him. are there hints there that says he loves you 101%? answer that question objectively, you can make a list of yes and no reasons then evaluate. and know the reason why he is leaving his wife. is the wife hurting because your relationship? or is it a mutual benefit for the both of them? if you're stepping on his wife's toes in any way, i would suggest stop the relationship. you'll never be happy if someone is crying because of you.

Gah! This boyfriend would have had to just said something about the marriage, because I wouldn't date a married man. At the risk of sounding impersonal, I've never believed in dating "used" goods. Also, if a man is married and also is dating me, I have to safely assume that it is likely he will also cheat on me. As well, I have to realize that it is because of me that a home is being broken up and wrecked if he actually does leave. Sure, his family is not mine, but if he actually leaves them, I am partially responsible for what that family goes through. I wouldn't waste time or stress over a married man. He's taken, he's married, he's not an option. Period. There is no way I would want to be his second choice, his back up plan, or just an option to him. Both my husband and I had little experience with relationships when we met, and that was the best thing that could have happened to us. Neither of us had wasted time or experiences with anyone else, and that is absolutely beautiful. In a situation with a woman dating a married man, there's nothing so special or beautiful about that. Is it sneaky? Yes. Morally wrong? Arguably so. Dishonest? To many people, yes. Why start a relationship with those qualifications?

If it would happen with me but than with a girlfriend i would jsut say to her that i would wait because if she really loves me she would not have an ather relationship i think. But i am happy that it is not happen by me, because it is a very difficult situation because ther are emoticons involved.

If that guy love me more than I love him, then I will wait. But If he's not sincere with it, then I will gave up. It's kinda bit a Forbidden Love, but I do believe that God blesses those who wait. If you really love your boyfriend and you are happy with it then go for it! BUT, If you find it to be a burden then it's time to gave up.

so sorry to hear this one jojo! this is pretty tough.. if it will happen in my case (i hope NEVER, help me GOD) i will GIVE THE F*UCK UP! seriously, i dont want to play games.. so u mean he's a married men since you met him or he accidently got married? I hope you will make the best decision pray to God.. praying for you

I am considering on to what degree would you love that boyfriend? If you love him more than enough that you can forget and forgive the lies and deception he committed to you, then stop giving up, and wait for him to be divorced and get happy with him. But if you were not so sure of having true love after loosing your trust for him, plus you have your conscience that you might break a family, then just give up. Stop being so stupid, think, he did it to his wife, then why not to you? Well, I say, it was up to an individual on how would she perceived about the situation.

If its me i will not wait,and I will try myself to forget him because I dont want to destroy other family.Maybe I could still find someone who is free.If I know him already break up with wife and I found outt hat he's married and not yet divorced,why he need to make it long before he will get,and be free.So i guess he love he's family and when he do has a kid its more complicated and I dont want complication in my life.

I know that you love him and have been together for awhile but just out of curiosity how can you even consider waiting? In my opinion you should be the number one thing on your guys mind no matter what. There should be NNNOOO other women and if he loved you like you love him he would already have at least filed for divorce and be ready to spend the rest of his with you. I really don't mean to burst your bubble of make you upset but from seeing this many many times before...you are just the other women to him. when he can't or doesn't get what he wants from his wife he turns to you. You deserve someone who will give up anything for you. Who will treat you like a princess and give you everything and anything he possibly can. You do not deserve to be the second women or to share you man. Look up this song... stay by sugarland http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WFZNYFUKk1w

Aw, that guy is just playing around. He should have told you before that he's married, but the fact the he didn't meant he's just having fun making a fool out of you. If I were you, I wouldn't waste my time waiting for another 3 years. Don't make him feel as if he's the luckiest guy because he's got his wife and he's got you, or maybe he's got another out there. I'm sure you really love him, but you'll have better future with the one who is really for you. Cheers!

I would have said a complete gudbye to him.The reason for me will be that first of all he had hurt me..second he has lied to me for last 5 years and whats the guarantee that he won't lie further and after 3 years he will marry me.. thirdly it may be that because of me he would have cheated his wife..if yes it may be that someday he can cheat me for some one else.. The person will lost my trust, my confidence in him.. yes love will take some time to go..