what would determine you to move on?

Well for me, i think he should give your friend some space and time. If its true that he loves her so much, then he must find a way to win her back not now, but maybe in the coming months or so... Let her heal first, we all know that a woman's heart is fragile but still has the ability to forgive in a hearbeat... Moving on is different from moving forward...

Hi Swissheart,, maybe it's time for him(your friend) to say her 'SORRY' very seriously.. By seriously I mean he should buy her a very expensive gift like a diamond or a brand new car and then take her to a 5 star for dinner for a month and finally he must listen to whatever she says and obey.. this may sound like being a slave, but trust me it's lot less than that. I think if he does all this he will win the girl.. If the plan does not work tell him to go find a new girl.... that's it.. Complicated issue simplified :)

I am sorry that this is hurting him so much. The thing is maybe he should have consulted with mylot before he told her. I mean its not that its a great thing to hid from someone. But if its only a one time thing its better to just not say anything. Its a mistake and things happen. He should stop trying to get her back and just wait to see if she comes to him later. She might, but a lot of time the constant pressure to get her back can push someone away. And once he leaves her alone then he will start to heal from the heartbreak.

i think your friend would need to let her know that he is willing to lie low a bit for now until she realizes that he is sincere with what he is trying to do now, and that is to win her trust back. i think when you love someone you should really be fighting for that love... people makes mistakes and she will have to understand that no one is perfect... at least he admitted it to her and though she has not taken it with consideration... that is because she lost her trust on him... Maybe when she is already so open in not accepting her.. then that is really the time she moves on...

That friend of yours is so honest. How I wish that all the guys in the world are the same. If that friend of yours, loves her girlfriend so much he should do his best to regain the trust of his girlfriend. As woman, It would be so hard for me to trust again my partner, but If only I see his effort then I will know that he is now regretting for his mistake.

I am sorry to say to but I don't believe he loves her. It's just he can't stand the idea she doesn't want you anymore. If you love someone you don't cheat. We all, already since ages, know what the results are if you cheat. How come men suddenly forget at the moment they are cheating? It has to do with being an adult, being responsible for your own deeds. it was his decision to cheat and he had to pay a price for that. I don't see any problem in her seeing other guys. They don't have a relationship anymore and ex = EXIT. He better go on with his life instead of being focused and fixated on that he (suddnely) loves her sooo much and she is the only one. He never proved to her she is, he proved the opposite. Let's hope he learned something from it and won't do this to his next girlfriend (who has to live with the knowledge that he cheated.. once a cheater always..)

He should give up on her. If he wanted to be with her he should not have cheated. Or he should have just kept his mouth shut. She has already expressed that she doesnt want to be with him. I cant really blame her. Ive been in her shoes before. Where i took the cheater back but dated others after that.

If several months have gone by and she doesn't want to take him back then he needs to forget about her. He could be spending his time looking for someone new but instead he is wasting his time moaning over this woman who no longer wants him. She does not love him if she said that even if she did go back with him she would see other people anyway. Why would he want such a woman.

hi:) tell your friend to lie-low first, the girl won't forgive him now because the pain is still fresh, but if she also love your friend she will realize that in time that he maybe don't have intention to hurt her and that's the reason why he told her what happened for the first place.