Do you have a positive or negative approach to life?

I'm actually quite a pessimistic person, I always think negatively and get paranoid of how people think of me. Pretty much I don't tend to take a positive or optimistic approach as I don't want to be disappointed. It's not a great feeling when you're very confident only to have it thrown back at your face. So I tend to be pessimistic and always think the worse and when something good happens, I feel really happy and elated or if the bad happens, I was already expecting it. I don't show that I'm upset or angry, I tend to keep it to myself. I don't show my pessimism as it pretty much makes you a very depressing person to be around with.

Hi there magickat.. Well as much as possible I'd like to be more optimistic in life nowadays coz I don't want to make myself gloomy by thinking of negative things.I'd like to accomplish many things in my life and being pessimistic won't help me accomplish anything.I'd rather stay positive coz nothing good will happen if I continue entertaining bad thoughts.

Does your husband suffer from depression? I suppose many people have it but don't realise. However, Mum has bouts of it but blames the weather! I reckon she had that Seasonal Affective Disorder so she'll be OK when the spring comes. As for whether I'm positive or negative..well, I'd LIKE to think I'm positive. I can give out positive advice on here at times as I don't like to see anyone who is sad on MyLot BUT it's very hard for ME to take advice in the real world. I tend to go my own way and being a hard-headed, stubborn Aries person I can become irritable at times although I'm much more level-headed than I was as I'm older and (hopefully) wiser too. I'm learning all the time as life is a learning process in itself, it seems to me. I suppose it depends on circumstances. I adapt to them. It's no good feeling depressed about being out of work because moping about the house doesn't help ME..do you know what I mean? Bit of a waste of time and energy to be sad 24 hours a day, although I do sympathise with those that find it very hard to think or behave in a positive way.

I don't really care if I take the positive or negative mentality with life. I can cross the road nearly hit by vehicles yet I'm alive. Like in anything else in life, a person can put himself to danger or ease as long as it is well worth it.

I used to be a negative person but I am slowly trying to become more positive. Things have been tough for us but Im trying to look for good in all my situations. My husband is a very positive person which helps me.

Trying to be positive, but it is so hard. Many events can turn my mood into negative clouds. So I often need to seek a relaxation. It is actually waste of time. If we can get positive wave every time, it will be wonderful world. But, life is always has positive and negative, as we always have day and night.

I think its important to try being positive as often as we can be now. Most people like to be around people that are upbeat about life. We all have times that things are going wrong, so at times we will be grumpy and unhappy, so people should understand that we all are human.

I feel we have to see the positive or brighter side of life.Otherwise we'll slip into an abyss from which it is difficult to return.I like to be positive while keeping realities or the ground situation in mind while taking decisions.Sometimes others moods and outlook have a bearing on our life and the decisions we make,hence they ought to be kept in mind before we decide on something.But always a sunny attitude and positive outlook helps.

we always have the option to view life in its brighter side. everyone has his/her own challenges to face but we should use it as a motivation to be better.

being negative will never help us in coming up in our life. negative thoughts will suppress us and it wont allow us to achieve our dream. so i will be always optimistic and think positively. if something went wrong,i wont keep on sitting and crying. i will analyse the situation and will try to get a better solution for that problem.

nowadays ..im more positive.. about 75 percent positive..and logically negative ..the rest of the 25percent. ..lol

Both. I do have positive and negative approach when it comes to life. Why did I said that? It's because it usually depends on my mood. Sometimes when i am so down, I feel so negative about life. When I am happy, I have a positive thoughts. but above all, I do believe that it should be the positive thought that would matter. As they've said life is so short to waste it in things that is so useless.

I am not always smiling and joking but I do have an optimistic positive approach to life. I am a fighter not someone who just sits down complaining how unfair life is (although I hav plenty to complain about if it comes to that). It also doesn't help me to complain since it won't change anything. Some people feel better if they complain, or it's just a habbit the way they are even they don't mean it that way. But true is it takes a lot of positive energy away from other people. I ignore those people their complaining. It's not worth even answering it. Perhaps your husband has kind of depressions? There are way more people who have it without even knowing it. So you can't always help it. Vitamine D might help.

I being a sceptic fail to see how anyone born into working class with no financial backing can be optimistic. When anything goes wrong financially in the country you live in it will always be the people at the bottom that pick up the tab. You can improve your position by hard work but usually it is down to being in the right place at the right time. Knowing the people that can help you also helps. Being pessimistic and looking on the black side makes me aware of what can go wrong which helps to make the right decisions.

As much as possible, I don't really think being negative because I believe when everything goes wrong, everything follows. I don't want deal with those seriously instead I face them with full courage and end it peacefully. I accept any challenges in life because that is a test to us by God. Being optimistic in life is something that is I am grateful in life.