I Know Sh!t Happens But Why Does It Always Have To Happen To Us?

Thank you. Your right it does help and Im going to try that! It can't hurt anything that is for sure! Lol.

hi Janey in my now broken little family we called it the domino effect. you know how some can line angled dominos then hit the first one which falls over and so the ripple goes all down the lines until all the dominoes are toppled. well it makes quite a sight. but when one life is turned upside down the domino effect makes you cringe as each unpleasant little happening hits another one. picture two people looking at a house all packed up and ready to move or go in storage. then your son comes in and tell you {"Mom I hired a too small truck to take our stuff to the storage. He looked at me, with tears in his eyes" oh God I did not order a large eno ugh storage area." okay we had already had the first do mino, he was laid off, the second we ran iout of money and were served eviction notice. now we could not get all our stuff in storage and we hbad to out b y midnight that night. so our friends rallyed and took all they could to put in storage in their homes.then the fact we had no place to go to when my son called an internet friend who did live here in California so she said she had five bedrooms come on over you can stayh with uhs. okay for ten daywhile my son negotatied with the lady in England who said she wou ld sponsor us to an apt for three months in Antioch cal.but on my birthday we had had to move from the internet friend as her ho use sold out from under.we went back to stay with a friend and learned the final domino had fallen. the lady from England Claire called the apt complex manager and told him the deal was off. so we were now truly homeless. that was three years ago . we still are homeless in the middle class way of a no house or an apart,emt but I have a room here in the retirement center takes most all of my social security and ssi but I am not in the street at least. my son is in a rooming house with three room mates but he is just a few miles away. and he has a job not part time but not quite full time but a job doing what he has been trained for computer programming. so we are okay for now but when bad things happened,it seems they trigger others until you are overwhelmed, or you fight back and you survive.Janey like us you and hubby will survive you know that in spite of everything some of us are survivors and we will rise again.good luck and will pray things will get better and better for you both.

Hi Janey... I agree with you, things go wrong with us only when we are short of money. The troubles, they say, never come alone. They come together, hand in hand, to test our capability to survive; they say so... Sh!t happens only to those who are really struggling to make the both ends meet.. :( Unfair... sob...

You mentioned something about a car needing repairs... I was just thinking the same about my van. If there was some mechanical sh!t to happen about cars, it would surely happen to my van. I just paid $2200 to get the transmission fixed just over a month ago, and now the brakes are acting up. And it isn't really a surprise that it's happening this January when most of the money has already been allocated to bills.

That is they things happen. When it rains it pours. I know the feeling all to well, believe me. I just wish, just once things would go right for me. But I guess I am not one of the lucky ones. Getting upset is not they way to go. You have to stay as calm as possible. I have learned that staying calm and dealing with one thing at a time, things actually do get done easier. I know money is tight, so you would have to pick the one thing that is the worst and take care of that one. The others will fall into place. I hate January and February.

I'm sorry to hear that janey. Yes, $hit happens sometimes. Your going through a rough time, but i hope that everything's going to be ok soon. Money is all we need to do some stuff in life. Too bad, some people don't have.

I put aside money each week for my budget and that includes household and car repairs and maintenance. I'm on a very low income and I simply could not manage big bills otherwise. Trouble is, I don't have much of a life...

nah it happens to me too :) only they don't worry me anymore as I have learned to just deal with them the best I can. sometimes people understand I don't have much money they surprise me when I pay and not charged interest very true, nothing ever goes wrong when we have money. in fact people are kind when we do. but when we don't and need help, they mock.

Hi Janey! So the first month always give headache to you?? Don't worry it just a few days more. I hope yo can get through it very well. Don't be sad or cry , just laugh at it even it is the nonsense thing to do in that moment.(^^)

In real life,there are indeed some things hard to explain.Sometimes,"It never rains but it pours";sometimes ,"nothing succeeds like success."I think it is a fortuitous phenomena and has nothing to do with month.May good luck be yours soon.By your leave,I like January,because the Spring Festival also called Chinese New Year usually falls on this month.It is the season when whole family is reunited.We all feel the day went quickly.

Yep stuff happens alright. Although, for me, January has flown by. We are almost at the end of it now and it seems like it just got here for me. Stuff is happening here too… we need a $3,000 septic line put in to our property because the one that is there is broken. It was put in in 1971, so it’s really old. The only good thing is that we don’t have to pay for it. The landlord does. The landlord is family so it is on them… Not sure when it will get done, but we have been having lots of problems.

I really like laughing , it is healthy to do and we can do a favour to ourselves if we laugh everyday and have some fun , or even when things are not fun at all. About the shift that happens to us when we are skint , I heard a professional financial adviser say that there are no surprises in life : every once in a year or two we need to fix the car and spend thousands of dollars on it , many people get a medical issue that they have to spend a lot of money on it. We don't know when will it happen but the chance is high that it will happen so our budget must include those expansive situations too. I think he is right and we always have to save money for surprises.

this can be true for me as well. I really feel disappointed when you already thought of a solution to solve your current problems then all of a sudden, that solution would gone to waste. Too bad. You will think life is unfair but hey, that's what make life worth living. it would really depend on how you will handle it.

God will not give us problems we can't take. It's a challenge for us. :) As for my case, I'm 6 months pregnant. OB told me that it is a high-risk pregnancy, I have prenatal previa and a high blood sugar. I'm even 24 yrs old. I questioned God before, he gave this kid to me, why won't he give it 100% okay & healthy? But when I talked to my OB whom is also a Christian, she told me that it's not right to question God, all pains and sacrifices should be accepted as a challenge. GOd knows what we can handle. That really cleared my mind. Now, I'm laying up everything to Him. I know what he's giving me now is something I can cherish of and I know in return, all of these will be worth it. :) Cheers!

I used to always have issues with February, for such a short month it seemed to drag. We actually have issues year round, and if we have an emergency fund, the house figures it out and eats it. I have yet to find a money tree that will take care of all those emergencies.

I know what you mean about January being a bad month. I was really hoping that this year would be the year that things will look better for my husband and I. Well, was I ever wrong. On January 1st my husband's foot was swollen and we went to the VA hospital thinking that we were going to be given a cane. Well, it turns out that my husband has a serious foot condition called Charot's foot and has very weak bones. He is also Type 2 diabetic. With his foot being seriously hurt he is unable to work and is wheel chair bound. I am taking care of him full time because he cannot take care of himself. My mother is pressuring me to hire a nurse (which we do not have the money for) so I can work full time and pay her debt. I have my own debt to pay and I feel I already do more than my fair share. I cook three days a week and I also pay the heat bill. I also buy food. I wish you the best of luck.

I can so relate! Hubby is a self employed carpenter so, it's either feast or famine with us and this is the slow season. Oh, yea, I got served with papers the other day hubby is being sued for credit debts that he has been paying but I guess it wasn't fast enough. I just try to remember the saying that God doesn't give you more than you can handle. Or that which doesn't kill us makes us stronger. Although sometimes I think God has more faith in us than I do!

Hi! It really happens once in a while. I believe it is inevitable but we must face it with boldness. Whatever it is we can overcome it.:))

Yes friend, you are certainly right in this case. I do agree with your thought. It also same in here.

don't worry, after the sh!t, something good will come. then it will be repeated.