Mr. Right or Mr. Righteous?
By K31
@keihimekawa (2009)
Philippines
January 27, 2012 4:32am CST
Quite a lot of times people has been telling me that "Time will come and you will meet your Mr. Right" but nowadays, I think it's more practical for a woman to look for "Mr. Righteous" rather than "Mr. Right"
I have quite a lot of friends who either gets 2-timed by their boyfriends or friends who two-times their girlfriends. They tend to tell me that a certain person might be "Mr. Right" but in the end, he's not "Mr. Righteous"
What's your take on this? Me, for one, kinda agrees on this. Most women would think they finally found "Mr. Right" and gets into a relationship only to be fooled at the end. I'm not being bitter here. Just sharing my thoughts :P
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14 responses
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
27 Jan 12
I do know what you mean! I've been badly and suddenly hurt when my ex and I broke up and until now we don't have nay closure. I'm actively seeking but I'm taking my time :D I don't know... Maybe I'm not that ready to get into a relationship again :P
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@tatzkie23 (770)
• Philippines
28 Jan 12
I heard a saying that goes like this, collect and collect then select. LOL. Yes i think i'd agree with you. A lot of people will say that they found their mr.right with their current relationship. too bad, sometimes it ends. They tend to say it is mr.right, but actually it's the mr.you'vegotitallwrong. LOL. Sometimes, when you're tired in a relationship and you think it's not going to work out, people get separated. This happens mostly if gf/bf cheats, or something. But, anyways, i think i don't have find mr.right, because i'll already have the one. 
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
27 Jan 12
You have a point, Kei. But if the guy is Mr. Righteous, wouldn't he be Mr. Right already? Then again, I guess it would depend on the point of view of the girl. 
For me, I think Mr. Righteous can be my Mr. Right. At least I can be sure that the guy would be honest and kind. This thought is just bugging me, what if Mr. Righteous turned out to be a boring guy? I mean, a super kind person can get boring at some point, at least for me. I guess when that time comes, it's time for me to act.
For me, I think Mr. Righteous can be my Mr. Right. At least I can be sure that the guy would be honest and kind. This thought is just bugging me, what if Mr. Righteous turned out to be a boring guy? I mean, a super kind person can get boring at some point, at least for me. I guess when that time comes, it's time for me to act. 
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
27 Jan 12
hello kei,
You are right.
Find the righteous (of course no one is perfect) at least the least cheater (there's still few I am sure)
Forget the looks (duh)attitude matters most and good looks will follow :p
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
27 Jan 12
I think if you are really ready for a relationship you have to take your chance. Make a list with what you certainly don't like or what you like (and save it for the hard days in your relationship).
It's not that Mr Right doesn't exist but that most of us don't recognize him even if he is standing in front of us or already living with us for his whole life.
Also ask yourself if someone who might be different as what you wished for or expected isn't the right person for you to develop yourself.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
5 Feb 12
My Mr Right IS righteous! So long as he is not too virtuous.
I've been looking for ages, made a few wrong calls and so I've just about given up. Actually, I have given up. sad but true.
I've been looking for ages, made a few wrong calls and so I've just about given up. Actually, I have given up. sad but true.
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
27 Jan 12
well, the myth of mr. right assumes that he must be righteous too. a partner is not a package in which we cannot do anything for the better. relationship is borne out of negotiation. one is not detached from the other, although the two are not one. mr. right becomes mr. right because he is made to be by the other. he comes mr. righteous because of the same reason.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Jan 12
hi keihimekawa oh yes by all means as a selfish mr right is just
not what a woman needs., a righteous man on the other hand would be faithful to you and respect you and trust you as you would also
learn to trust and respect and love him too.just so he is not Mr.
self righteous which is a nightmare to live with
self righteous which is a nightmare to live with
@maezee (41988)
• United States
6 Feb 12
That seems reasonable. The person we might fall head over heels for might not be the more rational, realistic person we can see ourselves with forever. I guess I don't know. I've only met and dated a few guys and none of them have really fallen in either category. *shrugs*
@2004cqui (2812)
• United States
29 Jan 12
If something happened to my husband and I was single again I would do the same thing as I did before! I'd live my life for me and lay the path to my future without "looking" around for anyone! I think too many people spend too much time looking for something that is often elusive, taking away from the job at hand; working hard and playing hard. A man would have to admire me as much as I do him. That's when the connection begins. People are good at putting on an act rather than just be themselves. I know righteous people, most of them are pretty shallow.
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
14 Feb 12
That's just so true I do know some righteous people who are also a bit shallow but just to clear things a bit, the "righteous" that I tried to point out are those guys/girls who would not commit two-timing or something. Not the "righteous" general but "righteous" in a relationship :) Besides, it's always the same thing. People would commonly put in a list of characteristics in their "what I want in a partner" list but if they find the person which they think is "right", most characteristics in the list are thrown out of the window :P
@stringer321 (5644)
• Kiryat Ata, Israel
10 Feb 12
After the comment of 2004cqui , i'm not sure what is the mr.right and mr.rightous...
I can just define the perfect partner for a relationship as the one who is supportive , friendly , gentle , and many more things including being loyal.
Most of the people and espacially women , are all driven by emotions and the guy who brings up those emotions is sure good with bringing up those emotions for the girl who falls in love with him...It doesn't say that he is the perfect partner for her.
Only time can tell this.
I always try to be myself and be friendly , gentle , polite and nice but , so far , my pick up skills are not good and in fact are low :( ... I only know how to be a good friend.
@keihimekawa (2009)
• Philippines
14 Feb 12
That's just so true! As I've shared before, quite a lot of girls list down the criteria on what they look for in a guy. This would only end up in 3 things:
(1) They stick with their list and HOPEFULLY find someone who would fall in their criteria or;
(2) throw out their list out the window as soon as they saw/meet someone who can make their heart beat triple time or;
(3) they wait and find someone who's good enough for them but doesn't meet ALL their criteria
There really are a lot of guys who are great talkers and make girls feel real special and good but for them (the guy), it's just that he's being friendly and the girl kinda misunderstood the guy's actions.
For me, a person is "right" if you agreed to be in a relationship with and is willing to go through the future with that person. A person is "righteous" if he/she was able to go through the whole relationship without two-timing his/her partner. That's "righteous" enough for me. Lolz!
@Annrose21 (161)
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27 Jan 12
We cannot deny that many of us were liking a guy so attractive for us than those who were attracted to us. Us girls loves to be with a guy that we love and attracted to; especially when they begin to like us also and display any affection to us. We consider that guy to be the "right one"; which was not. Many of us were blinded by appearance and good looks. But when the guy we were attracted to commits to another girl, we tend to be bitter and hurt. If I can chose between the guy that I think is right and the guy that was righteous, stick to one or the one attracted to me more than I am attractive to him, I would chose the righteous one. Although you were not that satisfied treating him as the right one, but rest assured that he will not be able to fool around.
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@Annrose21 (161)
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27 Jan 12
We cannot deny that many of us were liking a guy so attractive for us than those who were attracted to us. Us girls loves to be with a guy that we love and attracted to; especially when they begin to like us also and display any affection to us. We consider that guy to be the "right one"; which was not. Many of us were blinded by appearance and good looks. But when the guy we were attracted to commits to another girl, we tend to be bitter and hurt. If I can chose between the guy that I think is right and the guy that was righteous, stick to one or the one attracted to me more than I am attractive to him, I would chose the righteous one. Although you were not that satisfied treating him as the right one, but resy assured that he will not be able to fool around.
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