Younger sibling heading down the wrong path....
By moakamsg
@moakamsg (114)
January 27, 2012 7:42am CST
Hello fellow myLotters!
I have had alot on my mind lately because my younger sister who is 17 yrs. old has been worked hard to take extra classes to become a senior this school year...which she accomplished! However, she is going down the wrong path and I never thought in a million years that she would make such poor decisions in life.
It all started 3 weeks ago when she apparently took alcohol to school for her friend and got caught which resulted in 10 days of suspension from school, both her and her BFF...FIRST MISTAKE!
During her suspension was exam time and her school was going to allow her to come and take her exams so that she wouldn't fail and all her hard work wouldn't go down the drain. I then felt because her and my mother have such a rocky relationship due to her constant lies and not wanting to follow rules I should step in as her sister and try to talk some since into her...of course that didn't work...she didn't listen to a word!!!!!
Another week has passed and she has basically dropped out of school and doesn't have any intention of returning and she has been living with her friend the entire 3 weeks and this is just ridiculous and stressing my mom out. Any advice guys??? I don't know what else to do.
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3 responses
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
27 Jan 12
Hi Moakamsg,
I hate to say it but there is not much you can do at this point. Your little sister is out of control. I went through this with one of my girls when she was that age and what a nightmare! I made myself sick with worry and trying to get her on the right path. It was a cop who actually told me to let her fall and let her suffer the consequences of her choices. I did and it was hard to watch but it worked. She is 25 now and doing better. Of course she is still paying for some of those choices but at least she is striving to turn things around whereas before, she just continued on that downward spiral.
@moakamsg (114)
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27 Jan 12
Hello sid556,
I know deep down inside I have to let her find out things the hard way...just as we all have done. I am just trying to look out for her as her older sister. It has caused my mom so much stress and she has high blood pressure among other issues so my mom is indeed showing her some tough love in hopes that she will get the picture. I just don't want her to end up pregnant or something and then have to struggle through life trying to take of a child.
That is good news that your daughter is turning her life around for the better...hopefully reality will set in with my sister and she will realize she's only hurting herself.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
28 Jan 12
Oh, I know. I worried so much about those things with my daughter too. I seriously at one point could not see her turning around. It felt so hopeless and it was an extremely stressful time. I didn't see a good ending at all and I was worried sick over her. Seemed like whenever she started to do better and I'd get my hopes up, she'd turn around and do something crazy. Her turn around was very gradual but it did happen. I hope it does for your sister too. If it's any consolation, most teens that go through these things do turn around in time. I hope your sister will and I think she probably will with such a caring sister and mom looking out for her! Hang in there!
@HeresTheScoop (748)
• United States
27 Jan 12
Oh man! Sounds too familiar! I have 2 sons, the oldest graduated and the youngest started having problems in 10th grade. He has a problem with authority, teachers telling him what to do. Which is not like his dad, myself (his mom), or older brother. It's one of those things that we never expected, never even thought would happen. It just kept going downhill and he never graduated. What added to the problem was none of the teachers or school administrators would help. Then he turned 17 and dropped out because he found out this state's law does not require 17 yr olds to stay in school. I think that's ridiculous since almost everyone is 18 when they graduate. What age does your state require children to stay in school til?
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
27 Jan 12
I can only advice you this: let her go. Let her make her own mistakes. It's clear something happend that she changed suddenly so much and gave up everything she worked for. The harder you all try to rule her life the more resistence she will give and the more stress you all will get from it.
@moakamsg (114)
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27 Jan 12
Amen!
I really want to know what is going on with her. She has been angry, rude, and disrespectful for the last few years and things have only gotten worse. It has put a strain on my mom and I don't like it at all. She has burned so many bridges with everyone...we have all pretty much decided that yes she we have to let her make on mistakes but its breaking my mom's heart.
