"possessiveness" have negative impact!! agree/disagree??

For some, it is is hard to strike a balance between "giving space" and "being possessive". I have a male friend who shared to me how his 6-year relationship ended due to this issue. He mentioned that the first time they broke up, his girlfriend claimed that she feels suffocated since her world revolves around him. She also said that her social life was nonexistent due to the fact that they are always together. After 3 months of separation, they got back together. He was then very careful not to have the same issue again so he encouraged his girlfriend to hang out with her friends. The bad thing is they grew apart and once again broke up. I think communication is vital. If you feel that something does not seem right, you should speak with your partner. There could be a lot of reasons behind the attitude and you will never find out unless you sit down and talk about it.

From my experience, It was a negative thing. I was possessive of my partner because I didn't have my own identity. I was really needy of him because i thought I'd loose myself if i lost him.. but this thought actually made me loose myself... or I was already lost to begin with because i needed something to fill in my 'missing space'. but after that relationship ended.. I've learned to think on my own and reflect on myself, not me with someone else, but just me. and that build confidence and self esteem. in the end, i was the one who can really provide me with happiness, no one else. possessiveness keeps me demanding for more and it was never enough.

I don't think that possessiveness is healthy in a relationship at all. posessiveness implies ownership, and no person can own another. and I don't think that possessiveness is a sign of love at all. you don't love someone if you view them as a possession.

As I know it shows of insecurities and can be a little bit harmful to relationship. I can say this because it happened to me. One of my friend told me I am sometimes possessive and it break our relationship. One time I realized my friend is right. My wholebeing eaten up with negative that leads to jealousy. Then the result was nothing but war and now ended with break up. So sad.. So let's not be so possessive. Just a little be okay.. :)

This depends on how possessive your partner is. There is that simple possessiveness that is healthy for any relationship but if it is overdone, then it becomes harmful to relationship. It is good to give freedom to each other.

"Possessiveness" have a negative impact, I totally agree with it.. I think you always have a possessive attitude then your partner definitely think you don't trust he him.. And i am sure it hamper your relation... But some time possessiveness make to feel happy that my partner care about me

Hi there! In my opinion, if its already too much then it will really create a negative impact in the relationship. I have been in such situation way back then and yeah, it don't make any good in my relationship with my bf. I think too much possessiveness will scare our partner...haha coz it will make them feel like we are holding them in their neck and sometimes it will make them feel that we don't trust them and we are not confident enough with our relationship with them... But no matter what, I still have that possessiveness feelings inside me, till now! haha but not as much as before coz maybe because my bf and I are already married and that he shows me that I don't have anything to worry about the status of our relationship and he makes me feel that he is only mine! lol!

Well, it will have a negative impact if it already sucks the life and love out of your relationship. Possessive is a very strong word, and again it will boil down to jealousy. Without assurance, there will always be jealousy and that whats makes a person sometimes possessive. This is something that you and your partner should addressed, you should meet half way always and must have a much constant and open communication.

I think that in a relationship you should be somewhat possessive, but not so possessive. I know being possessive have a negative impact in a relationship especially if this is the start of your fight, being angry all the time to the person, Always getting jealous to anyone. That sure is super possessiveness. As you said, it also shows some insecurities, they don't trust their partner. If you have this kind of relationship and it's not healthy anymore, then quit. simple as that.

Being possessive really shows insecurity but I think this should not exist in a relationship. If you really love each other you must trust each other and give other some space so that each one can also have some privacy. One should not feel the insecurity because he or she chooses you to be his or her partner. He or she should be proud that you have each other.