Making The Big Move

First of all I don't think you are not strong but you are realistic. You wrote down what is going on and what the situation is like. It's normal to be scared since you don't know what you can expect. It's useless to be angry because there is no health insurance or to speculate what, if you mother would be able to use these meds. There is also no guarantee that she would live up 10-15 years longer with meds. There is just too much that can happen if you have Lupus. Also ask yourself if it's about the quality of life or the quantity of life? What counts more? djshocker, the only thing I can advice you is to live by the day or even by the moment. Treasure the good moments and stay focused on that (not if you will make it or will break down). There is nothing wrong with showing your feelings or being sad or scared. These are feelings you should talk about, even with your mother if possible. Since this is something you have in common.

first thing is to pray to God. put everything in His hands. then help your mother get medicaid, since your father was laid off, she should qualify. find a motivation to keep her spirits up. if she's been walking in God's light, pray together. find a devotional book, read it everyday. i take care of a lady that was told that she'd be nothing but a vegeatable after her accident. it's been 4 years now, she's still on the road to recovery. we make improvements every day and we believe that God is healing her every day. that there's a reason for everything but is not ours to ask the why. it is for us to believe and have faith and trust in Him. I pray for you and your parents that God will heal and bless all of you.

I feel so very sorry for you, your mom and your dad. Well done for moving back to Texas to be with your poorly mom. She needs to have the medication but it sounds very expensive. It is very sad that your dad has lost his job. It is awful that the health insurance was linked to that job of his. Your mom should try to see a doctor less often and get her hands on as much of the medication to keep her alive as possible. It is terrible that medical appointments and medicine cost lots in America. I live in England and we have the National Health Scheme. Good luck. The best thing will be if your dad gets another job and you and him pay for your mom's medication.

Hey there djshoker, I feel for you man, if i am put in the same position with my mom i think i would also break down, but this will only be for an hour or 2 since you mom needs you to be strong for her and help her get through this you can do it man one step at a time and pray a lot!

hi there, I'm sorry to hear about your mom and your dad. I know something about Lupus, We studied it before, and yes, it will affect her body if this persist. I know that you are in a crisis now, but hold on to yourself. You are strong and you know that. You can handle this, just be there with your mom. Support her with all your efforts. You mother needs someone to lean on. So be there with her. I'll pray for you mom.