"I'm tired of being the only real friend in a FAKE friendship!"

Yeah, I have friends kinda similar to that. I have a nice group of friends but they tend to have favorites and don't treat everyone equally. I try to tolerate and not let it bother me but right now, I'm simply growing tired of it. There is one friend in my group who doesn't get treated very well by my other friends just because they don't like her very much. I treat all my friends the same but they some of them don't really do the same and it does annoy me sometimes. But that's how some people are, it's up to them to change.

Hi acey, It truly dosen't sound like friendship...It dosen't even sound like a good fake friend.. When friends are REAL, you don't have to question motivies or actions..Friends know how to treat each other and not use each other at anytime.. It really terribele when people act like friends just to get that they can from the other... I have always tried to teach my children and grandsons, to pick their friends and not let their friends pick them,,,think about it... You can't be everything to everybody...But you can surely be the best friend at anyone has ever had...

I think that if you want a friendship with somebody, both of you have to make sure that you put the same amount of effort into the friendship otherwise it will either fail or one of you will not feel as though you have been satisfied from it. I have had many friendships like this in my past, however I have managed to get out of them and am now in friendships that are good for both me and the person who I am friends with. I have three very close friends who have always been there for me, and I would imagine that they're going to be there for me for the rest of my life with a little bit of luck.

Then she should directly confront her friend. Do you have to prove it always just to know that you are friendship. Friendship can't be measure by the time that you spent together, but it is on how long you are going to take a risk.

It will be a difficult situation in a friendship cos the time get in touch with friends is the time to be the real of real our self. there is no afraid at all to hide whatever our weakness or to act as superhero in front of her all the time. So, it is better to talk with her heart to heart and find the best solution from this friendship cos it is hard to find best friend right now

well many a times in our life we are in a fake friendship even without our knowing about it. if you are asking about fake friendship i would also like to mention that nowadays even "fake relationship" is common. people are compelled to enter such relationship or friendship for their own benefits and gains. in my life i have seen many such friendship as well as relationship that can be termd as "FAKE". people at times are not even aware what kind of friendship they are in or what their partner or friends are up too. many a times because of our own mistake we make ourselves vulnerable to others to take us as "granted". so better judge a person personally before making him/her your part of life.

I'd think that maybe they aren't really my friend? While friendship isn't about what you get, I'm always aware that if a person wants to be my friend, they'll show it somehowly. Obviously if they are going through a rough time, they might not be able to pay a lot of attention to what is going on in my life, but they'll at least show appreciation for my friendship.

well yes i think there are a lot of instances that shows this one. a lot of things we say sometimes we do not mean them... and i think this is what my "friend" told me... and i thought she meant it but never got back to me when i told her of my problem.. she did not even ask how i was, how i am...

hi acey, Actually, I can really relate to your post. This day started with me being so upset with my friend. I was with him through thick and thin. I listen to him whenever he wants and need it. I patiently listen and talk to him whenever there is a problem with his job or with his family. I support him on his dreams and always stay on his back to push him whenever he is losing hope. However, this day, I started to be fed up. I asked him of a very simple thing and he treated me like I am not his friend. I said sorry after he rejected a simple favor from me. I really felt hurt with his. I don't know why he is so careless whenever he give some words as if I have no feelings. Before, whenever he has some problems or we have some misunderstandings, he always deleted me on his account. It hurts because I feel he rejected and despised me, but I try my best to understand him. It happened for 2 to 3 times. But now, after what happened, I give up. I deleted him. i forgive him but to be like a friend like I was to him before is a thing that is difficult to give again.

Friendship is a give and take thing. And if she feels that her friend is not doing that, depending on the relation they have she can either ask her what´s the matter and confront her or she can just move on.

That is the point where I reevaulate the friendship and terminate it right away. There are times where sometimes, it is obvious that person really does seem to be not too serious about maintaining the friendship. A lot of people tend to maintain the illusion of being friends, but that mask will slip and slide over a small amount of time. I'll be honest, as picky as I am with my friendships any more, I think that it is easier to sniff out the people who are going to be false friends. And there are going to be many in this day and age sadly. People have a real "what can you do for me" attitude and there are times where it is just a waste of time. There are times where what you think may be a friendship really is not a friendship.

Absolutely! I find there are two types of friends in this world. The type that will use and abuse and only care about themselves and the second type is a friend that actually does care and thinks about their friends well being. The second type is very far and few between. If you find this kind of friend, treasure them forever! =)

Making real close friends that know how to behave like friends is hard because good friends are rare. It takes some emotional inteligence and social inteligence to be a good friend. I sometimes try to see things from the eye of the other person who I'm being friend with.I can understand then if there something that I need to tell him. I have some friends on facebook that barely answer my messages even if I get hurt from them. I think the technology made us confused about what's the important things in life. I think we can change that by showing the cards on the table , be honest with everyone , tell them what's important to us and ask what's important to them. As a society , we have to teach some social skills and emotional ones.We actually can do it and it has a good effect. Some special schools in my country started to develope better ways of teaching. I hope it will spread to many other schools in my country.

That is not even a friendship at all! True friends will always be there for you through thick and thin.Support you all the way in facing challenges in your down moments! A true friend is not a parasite, He/she is someone who can give you a mutual goodness and benefits without expecting something in return! A friend will not even fight back on you instead they will give you comfort!

I only had friends like that. At a certain point you find out you are the only one investing in it. And if they don't hear from you for some days they are even angry if you call or show up (not asking once how you are doing). So stop investing in this friendship/relationship. Quit with it and invest all this time, energy etc in yourself. You don't need anyone to make you feel unhappy, you are able to do that yourself as well. Just delete them!