Missing our Parents

@SIMPLYD (90721)
Philippines
January 30, 2012 4:50am CST
Sometimes out of the blue, i would suddenly think of my already old parents. They are in our hometown which is a 30 minute ride from the city where my family lives. I would really schedule my Saturday, and go there first thing in the morning. Simply seeing them well and happy, already makes me happy too. No need for any trimmings , but just talking with them fills the void i feel inside whenever i miss them. I guess, i am really getting old so i am already so sentimental. I also think, most of you don't feel that yet, because you are still young and still living with them. Oh, you will experience it someday when you get married and leave the parents' house.
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6 responses
changjiangzhibin89
@changjiangzhibin89 (16789)
• China
30 Jan 12
I understand how you feel.It doesn't bring home to us how much we owe to our parents until we have our own family.My Mum is 91 year old.At the sight of her senile appearance,my eyes may often be moist with tears.I dread to think that she will pass away one day.
rebel_woman06
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
31 Jan 12
That's true my friend. Seeing our parents old , yet still alive really brings tears in our eyes, because of happiness, pity for them and reminiscence of the times when they were taking care of us. They maybe old, but still we would like to see them always alive, as much as possible.
rebel_woman06
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
4 Feb 12
Correct! Giving them our time and our presence as much as we can, makes those remaining years worthy for them.
changjiangzhibin89
@changjiangzhibin89 (16789)
• China
31 Jan 12
However ,all mortals must die,which is independent of our will.All we must do is that do our best to let them spend their remaining years in happiness during they are still alive.
IcksanSTIE
@IcksanSTIE (45)
•
30 Jan 12
yes i will maried in the parent's house because my parents waited for the moment i go to married
rebel_woman06
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
31 Jan 12
What do you mean? Could you please clarify?
IcksanSTIE
@IcksanSTIE (45)
•
3 Feb 12
i think marriage is the most beautiful moment in life for parents...
lampar
@lampar (7584)
• United States
12 Mar 12
It is natural for you to think of your old parent and begin to miss them after got married and moved out of your childhood's house, i experience the same feeling too after a while. For the youngsters, many time they will also miss their parent after they are gone for a certain number of years outside their parent's home, with only a few recalcitrants and those rebelious types that won't miss their aging parent no matter how long they left their parent, they are just plain useless lot that make up the minority of people/ .
rebel_woman06
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
13 Mar 12
That's true my friend and i agree. Once you are out of the patriarchal house to start your own life, you will realize that you miss them . Specially when you undergo some difficulty, you will miss your good life with them. I wonder if there are children who really don't miss their parents at all. I gues that only happens to parents who are bad to their children. But that is a rarity, because parents are basically good to their children.
theSids
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Jan 12
Hi SimplyD Being Old and Sentimental - I fail to understand this relationship between the two because I am not that old but I am quite sentimental myself I feel happy reading this discussion. Today, here many parents dont get too many visits from their children when they grow up and I do not appreciate this. I love the parents and the time spent with them. I did not need to marry or stay away from home to realize this. I always was a home sick guy - even when I was at the hostel or working at different cities. Today, I am happy that I stay nearer to my parents and we do meet almost each weekend. This keeps mom busy no doubt but I too feel happy to spend the time with them
rebel_woman06
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
31 Jan 12
Well, you are right. One need not get married and stay away from home of parents , in able to feel how much we love them. I think, it's an innate quality of the children to feel this way to their parents. Much more if the parents are already getting old. It seems that they would like to give them happiness always in the days that they are still on earth. It pains me to see children who doesn't care for their parents.
nophie
@nophie (2336)
• Indonesia
30 Jan 12
i see..maybe you had become mother too , so you had understood the feeling of your old parents..how they always wait their kids for talking with them..right??
rebel_woman06
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
31 Jan 12
Yes, i am a mother. But i guess, anybody who becomes old too would really long to be with their old parents always. That way, they get to bond while they still have some days here on earth. Yes, they always want updates from their children.
fabsprecious
@fabsprecious (1565)
• United States
31 Jan 12
Luckily for me my mom leaves with me, hubby and her grandchildren. She loves it and so do I, I love having my mom near; me and her have been unseperable. My dad leaves a few minutes a way, so I normally see him twice a week or so as well. But I know exactly how you feel, I sometimes sit and stare at her and wonder what will be of me the day I can't get home and tell her everything that went on through my day and it is painful, just the thought alone. My hubby lost his mom at a young age and just recently a few years back he lost his dad due to cancer. And he sometimes tells me I wish I could just pick up the phone and talk and hear his voice. It must be difficult.
rebel_woman06
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
4 Feb 12
You are lucky to have your mom with you. At least you can always see and talk to her . That's true, even if we know that they would someday leave us , but still just the thought of it makes us so sad.