bride or wife

I agree in a sense. I am married and one of the things both my husband and I had agreed on before walking down the aisle was to live together. I had one kid from a previous relationship and we have one together. When we moved in together, we stopped thinking as my money or his money and started to get us working together financially. We both equally took care of the kids, household, and all other things. As we got more in living together, the roles became a bit more defined. I do the accounting and he works. We both still share housecleaning, cooking when he's home since we both like to cook and create food and responsibilities with the kids so we don't really have any issues since we focused on our lives together before the wedding. I do think so many more people are focused on the whole bride and her gown and things like you mentioned at the beginning and they don't really think of the duties of being someone's wife and so things seem so much harder.

true. all the people see is the perfect bride on the wedding day then after the wedding the imperfect wife comes out. but that imperfections makes a wife a better wife and the best mother to her future children. they say its just a ceremony but that's every woman's dream. so i guess let the woman be the perfect bride on that day because soon she will face the big responsibility of taking care of her family and of course the greatest opportunity of being a mother.