Prenuptial Agreements

In my country where cultural tradtion are very strong,such agreements on cold hard facts are relatively unknown.Here people are quite conservative and marriage is considered to be sacred.Yes,before anything happens there is a lot of research done to ensure that the groom is well-off and can take care of his bride but also his offspring,in the future.There is no written agreement as such but everything is done with faith and trust.Of course many times situations do arise where things can go wrong and do.Usually both partners do open joint bank accounts so that money can be withdrawn by either partner whenever needed.Marriage is not looked upon as a business proposal but as a union of two minds and bodies.I have yet to come across such a situation here and as for myself i do not think i will subscribe to it.

That's a difficult one. I agree that it's very unfair the way wealth is distributed in some divorces, but on the other hand when you have shared a life together for many yeas I think it's only fair that both parties share equally. It's going to depend on the individuals concerned and the circumstances. What may feel fair on day one may feel very unfair after thirty years of marriage though.

This is hard but maybe i won't.. well from my point of view now, there aint no reason to sign any. lol But then let us say i will marry someone rich...maybe i wont. Marriage and wealth mix together is very hard matter to deal with.

Well, I don't want to sign an agreement if that prenuptial is not about love but because the person want to marry me is about money or anything else. I don't a relationship full of deceit and full material thing. I want a relationship that even it create a difficult life but full of happiness and pure relationship that no doubt of everything...but full of confidence that both of us did not do something against each other

No I wouldn't sign anything. A marriage is meant to share everything. If he doesn't want to share anything with me then ita not meant to be together rich or not.

All marrying couples have a “prenuptial agreement” – it is known as “divorce law.” However, a lot of people are unhappy with the way divorce law works, and prefer to take control of their lives, rather than leave it in the hands of the government. In these cases, it makes a lot of sense to get a customized prenup. When you remarry, your legal and financial concerns are often very different than in your first marriage. You may have children from a previous marriage, support obligations, and own a home or other significant assets. A prenuptial agreement can ensure that when you pass away, your assets are distributed according to your wishes, and that neither your first family, nor your new family are cut off.

It would depend what it was about. If it was all about money, then no. But if there were children from a previous marriage, or property that had been inherited, then yes, I would. When my husband and I married, we joined together all of what we had. It doesn't matter if one of us had more than the other. But if other people might have been effected, I'd probably have seen it as important.

I am not sure what prenupital agreement exactly is, Sarah.. But I see the drift of it... If a girl asks me to marrry her for money, I won't consider the money part of it... I'll only check her looks and character.. thsoe are the most important things... Money, we can earn it, right??? For me, it would great thing to marry a good looking and devoted-to-me girl... :)

Yes I would....and it would have to say that I leave with what I also have....or something comprobale.....like I own my house etc...I wouldn't want to give that up for someone and they change their mind and take what I have worked for either.

Hi there Sarah, Yes, I would definitly sign one. In fact, I think regardless of whether or not one is wealthy, one should be signed. In fact, I'll go a step further and say that even if you are just in a living arrangement, a contract should be drawn up, signed by both parties and notorized in the event of a break-up. I know that isn't very romantic because we always enter into these relationships feeling as if they are going to be the "one" that stands the test of time. When I got divorced, my husband got pretty much everything...furniture, electronics etc. It really didn't have that much monetary value but trust me, when you have start up over from scratch as a single parent....every utensil, appliance, piece of furniture...it counts. Then my girls and I lived with a man who I had at one point considered marrying. He is the father of my youngest daughter. All went well for a few years and then ....I really don't know just what happened but it all fell apart. When we decided to part ways, this man whom I had always thought to be fair and considerate suddenly turned very mean and vindictive. I lost everything except for our personal clothing. Yes...even the kid's beds! Once again, I had to start up over from scratch. I would never, ever ever so much as live with another person again without a contract as to how things are going to be just in case things don't work out. And I would have the contract renewed and upgraded every year or so. Great discussion, Sarah!

While I don't think that such an agreement is the most romantic things that you could be talking about at the beginning of a marriage, I do think that they are important because at the end of the day you just don't know what might happen to you in the future, and you might find that you need a divorce. If you have not signed something to say that your partner has no right to your property, then you might find that a divorce could be very costly to you. So therefore, although it might not be a nice thing to have to think about, I do think that they are certainly worth it in the long term.

Oh yes..I would too. They have actually become very common and I don't see anything wrong with them although some people are offended by them. I have worked very hard for the things I have and although there is nowhere near a million dollar estate I sure wouldn't want to give half of it away if the marriage didn't work out.

No I would never sign a prenupital agreement unless I marry someone rich. I think it is not necessary for must couples but if you are loaded yes! Alot of movie stars,tv stars,pro athletes and people like Donald Trump do. They would be stupid if they didn't.

I would sign one because the money would have no meaning to me. By signing I am just proving why I am really there for the person. I wouldn't want anyone thinking anything else if that person had alot of assests or something. I guess it must be a personal thing but for me hand me the pen and I'll sign.

So in this scenario, you would only marry a rich guy if their was a pre-nup that benefits you. If he thought that wasn't fair and stipulated you get nothing...would you still marry him? Are you saying you would only marry him for the pre-nup that benefits you? It all sounds a bit one sided to me. I reckon that's why there are pre-nups...so things are not one sided and each partner partner gets to keep what they started with and each partner gets the same percentage of what they contributed to make more money. You come in with nothing, you leave with nothing. You contribute nothing you get nothing.

I would sign it. There is nothing wrong with it, and would ensure both rights as well. This is common with high society people and is working fine.

You can also consider that there is the law of the country : In my country , israel , if one of the spouses didn't have to work during marriage , he didn't develop skills to work and to be independant. No matter what the pre-marriage agreement says , the working spouse will have to pay a monthly fee to the one that doesn't work ( but it will have to be done with the court and lawyers , the spouse will have to consult them and not just follow the agreement). If I ever get to know a girl that I love and we will get married , I will save money for her and for the kids every month and I will be a good husband and a good friend first of all. And I will sign a pre-marriage agreement.

I think there are all kind of reasons why you can sign such an agreement, not only getting married to a richer person can be a good reason. I would not mind to sign it. If you are faithfull, believe in yourself, know the reason why you get married there is no reason to shout this is a sign of not trusting someone or not loving someone. I agree in every relationship there should be (ground)rules, the only problem is to get your right, even if an agreement is signed.

Prenup is important nowadays. Not only for money matters, but it could cover many things concerned for the marriage. Most people refuse to sign a prenup because it shows that we are not "love" him/her enough and even distrust, but I think better to prepare for heavy weather in the future, as like decision about kids that would be produced from the marriage; arrangement for their education and so on. The prenup also protect the money/property that owned by the wife for if there anything happens to the husband namely lost in the game, business or even in the gambling and booze... the wife's properties will be safe from taken over of the law or debt collector. Indeed, prenup is just a way to protect women actually.

Dispite contrary belief, if both sides of the marriage agree to a prenuptual agreement, it gives peace of mind on both parties.