Do you expect the things that are discussed in your home to stay in your home?

What is discussed at home automatically falls into various categories. There are discussions that could be safely shared with others - for example children's achievement or the spouse's promotion and yet there are issues that need to stay indoors. These categories form by themselves unless there are enemies within in which case it is totally a different story when it takes a reverse turn!

If I want my husband to be quiet about something,I have to tell him specifically, "Shut up about this. " Otherwise, he will go tell somebody. Esp. before X-mas when I told him to be quiet until after X-mas about my health.

To me that should stay in the home Specially if you vented about something about the job! It shouldnt go on face book for sure her is another matter for no one really knows every one here unlless you have close freinds on here. BUt if you fented already then that should be it

what can be shared or what cannot be shared is a subjective thing. you and your partner or anybody at home has different levels of privacy concept. I may be thinking that what my partner told me is safe to disclose to my friend but for him, it is not. So it is important that when we don't want something to be disclosed to people outside the house, we say it clearly that we keep it to ourselves to avoid mistakes or honest mistakes.

Well, for me home is a place of comfort, trust and affection. So i would expect that things discussed inside no matter what it is, be it work, other people, or personal should not be shared outside. Although there are family matters that should be shared with the person concerned for good reasons, then maybe it should be shared. Personal matters should only be shared with somebody who is a part of your personal life; a husband maybe or for those who are not married, maybe their parents or siblings. Most important is, we know how to determine the kind of information to be shared and with whom it should be shared. That is how i see it.

how can they be at home if womens are always their, i do not know why is their general nature or some kind of curse they are having as they always keep discussing home based conversation publically and even with the negibours. the things we discussed as a family is no more personal as most of the time i have seen my little sister disclose them in the neighbours. i have talked to them several times over the issues. but all goes vain.

What happens in Vegas...stays in Vegas! What transpires in my home....other than innocuous banter, stays in my home! Privacy is tautamount in my life...don't know why, but it is! I used to be much more care-free....you know the old attitude, "if they're talking about me...they're leaving some-one else alone!" NOT so much, anymore! Possibly it's from flying "solo" this last decade..one reverts to introvercy..OR, not having some-one to share with, it becomes a hurdle to be an open-book! Familial matters MUST only reverberate within the confinement of my home, Jen! The intracacies of my life confined! BIG HUGZ!

Hi there Jen, I'm pretty much the same. If I have a conversation with someone and especially a partner, I don't expect it to be repeated elsewhere. Depending on the nature of the conversation, those kind of things can sometimes cause trouble. The meaning can get twisted. If it is a personal matter then you have to hope the the person that was told isn't going to turn around and tell someone else and of course the more things get passed on, the more chance for them to get all twisted up. It's how gossip starts. I especially hate it when someone walks in upon what is obviously a private conversation, hears just a little bit of it and then concludes what they "think" you are talking about. Rather than ask, they go off and tell others. And also, sometimes it is just "venting". A co-worker recently had an issue with one of our regular customers. I relayed to her an incident that I'd had with the same person. Well, she turned right around and went right back to that person and repeated what I'd said.

Don't have a partner, 'NUFF SAID, LOL.

There is nothing worse than a big old blabbermouth. What happens in vegas STAYS in vegas!

Being a private person myself, i don't understand why people tend to post all sorts of their personal business and Facebook seems to be the place where this is done most often I agree, a private conversation between you and your family should stay within the confines of your home and not be plastered all over a social network website for all to read.When you entrust a private matter with a loved one it should stay just that.doing otherwise can cause a lot of distrust and hurt feelings.

hi dear Jen, my husband has his own special load on his shoulders as he is disabled but he still wants to know what is happening with me so I tell him. I fully support it if he talks these things over with his close friends cause he feels helpless or doesnt know what to do, but I also know he wont blab it out anywhere else.

Wow , I got tired just from reading most of the first page of this discussion. I want to say that some private issues in the family are better be shared or even explode just to get out of a bad situation : think about two parents that one of them starts to cheat a lot , while the other is not aware of this. Time goes by , the cheated partner finds out about it and start suffering and becomes angry , he is obsessed and just can't let it go. After the kids grow up , he tell the kids all what the other partner did for many years and now the kids suffer too... The cheated partner expects the kids to be by his side and kick the other but they just can't because they love the cheating partner...he is the nice and gentle between them ( the cheated partner became an angry and frustrated , he just didn't want to let go and break up and he kept it as a secret for many years...) What do you think the kids would like to happen ? the cheated partner is manipulating the kids and they need to know some more opinions about that uncanny situation. Sharing others could maybe have an effect and could destroy the cheating partner's good name but they could also break up and get it over with... Maybe some people could intervene for the better of the kids or say who is responsible for that situation...Privacy can be a weapon for someone with bad intentions. Abusive husband , people must share those family problems and those must not be kept as secrets.

There are some instances to keep a family matter private specially if this topics will affect the children, family relationship and credibility. We limit things to the public for our protection to some sources of family conflicts and displacement. We must have to consider what is best for our family and for others to take advantage of it!

I live alone but sometimes, I do confide in friends. I don't expect my thoughts, ideas, impressions, facts and assumptions to be kept private so I always ask that the info I impart not be repeated. I get told things too and I know who of my friends is honest and telling me the truth and who is not honest and stretching the truth or lying. I have one close friend who has an idea about someone then tends to tell everyone as if it is a fact. It's a bad habit, not malicious but it has got him into trouble more than once. I'm just as bad because I'm quite gullible and still believe everything he says...I'm getting wiser though and will question him sometimes. I tend to think that in a small town, a person's privacy is anybody's business.

I'm so lucky. My guy Is my best friend. Whatever I tell him goes no further. I can tell him Anything. Anyone else? No I don't open up That much.

I would think that this would come under the heading of respect. If your partner respects you and knows you then he/she would not devulge information you have given them. I am very funny about my friends and who I call a friend. I feel that no matter how much i love a friend I also know how they are and i might not tell one something I would not worry about telling another. I think that Facebook is a haven for misdirected friendships. Loyalty goes out the window to some of these supposed 'friends' on there. I don't feel that Facebook is a forum for personal situations although it is certainly used as one. I think that in such situations we learn very quickly who our real friends are. And the real respect our close relationships afford us.

Hello Jen, I think privacy and trust are so important. In our family, what is talked about at home stays at home unless we are specifically given the okay to share something publicly. This is the way that I was raised. As for Facebook, I am extremely careful and mindful of anything I post online.

Yeah usually I expect the things that I talk about in our home to stay in our home. There really isn't a need for my husband to discuss other things with different people or family and friends. My husband is generally very good about this. And we respect what one another says in the privacy of our home.

it is quite irresponsible for a trusted family member or reveal such information to the public ,even when they have to do that they should use an alias