My kids father kept a horrible secret
By tasneem4
@tasneem4 (68)
February 2, 2012 10:18am CST
Hello I just want an opinion about a secret my kids father kept. He became an informant and in other words a snitch. Whats worst is because of this, we had to relocate. My kids and I were so upset to know that he would put us in this situation. What really hurts is that he did it to a friend. He swear he don't think he is not wrong for telling me. I think regardless he should have enlighten me in on what was going on. Am I wrong?
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8 responses
@eljayo (1105)
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
Hi! That is really a sad situation.I hope your family will be able to cope up and will be free from harm. He should have thought of your safety before working in that job especially since yu already have kids. I hope everything will be well with you.
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@tasneem4 (68)
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3 Feb 12
Thank you because that is my concern, our safety. Even more what's upsetting is the fact he did this and I know this sounds crazy , but for nothing. He was after one thing, and the law knew it. They used him to set up his friend. At the end he didn't get nothing but %5000 and plane tickets. Mind you #2000 went to the hotel until we found housing. I just don't get it.
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@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
3 Feb 12
Hi tasneem, it important to know who your husband is and what his
position is..Is it that he is a snitch or a legit informant..and
was it your friend or his friend.
Now I can only think that he had to be something big for him and
his family having to relocate...It such a dangerous position to
be in...
I just hope that you and your family will be safe where ever you are
and are not in a position that you have to keep running/relocating...
Good luck to you and your family.....
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@SassyBrat (463)
• Canada
3 Feb 12
Sometimes people tell to make themselves feel better, which is a selfish act in and of itself.
Keeping in mind, we don't know all the details, it is really difficult to assume what is best and what isn't.
@peavey (16936)
• United States
2 Feb 12
He might have been keeping you from danger, did you think of that?
To be an informant is not bad in the right situation. His friend might have been doing something illegal or dangerous to others. If he had told you, you might have said or done the wrong thing and caused harm to yourself.
Not knowing the complete situation only leaves us guessing, of course.
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@shaggin (71911)
• United States
3 Feb 12
That is unfortunate that you have to relocate now but if thats what it takes to keep you and your family safe then thats what you need to do. Either that or you can divorce him and sray there and possibly risk your life and those of your kids. Doesnt sound like a very good alternative to me. I think that him telling you was the right thing for him to do because our spouses should always be honest with us.
@shaggin (71911)
• United States
3 Feb 12
Oh wow that is a pretty awful way to find out then. There is always the possibilty that he was not allowed to tell you in case it made a problem in the investigation and possibly put you in more risk of danger. I dont know. Have you talked to him about this to find out why he didnt tell you and had to have you find out on your own. You must have been so shocked at that news.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
2 Feb 12
I don't know why he told you now, but I think it was the best NOT to tell you before.
Any idea what might happend if he told you before? What you don't know you can't tell So in some way he kept you all save.
@SpikeTheLobster (6403)
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2 Feb 12
So let me get this right... he does the right thing in reporting a friend for... well, whatever it is the friend did wrong. The situation is serious enough and dangerous enough that he has to relocate.
And you're upset with him because he informed on someone who's apparently dangerous.
Or are you just upset because you had to move?
Personally, I'd be rather proud if my partner stood up for justice like that. But hey, that's just me.
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
2 Feb 12
It's not clear if he stood up for justice or just did it for .. whatever.
It's only clear to me he did it to a friend and he did not tell it earlier.
As I also understand he did not tell it earlier till you all were relocated which means: you all were safe.
I think he being honest and also thinking about the safety of all of you is very positive (and a sign of love) too or?
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@ShyBear88 (59312)
• Sterling, Virginia
2 Feb 12
I don't think he as to tell you. In things like this the less the family knows the safer you are not to know why or what is going on. If my husband did that I would be okay some secrets about bad things need to be know and correct and the less I know and my children know the more I know they are safe and we will most likely not get hurt. My kids will learn to have to deal and when they are parents one day they will understand why my husband or even myself did what I had to do not only protect them but to make the world a little bit better.
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@214412611 (9)
• China
3 Feb 12
I think your husband love you and your kids very much. He kept his secret from you in order that you and your kids is safe!
@tasneem4 (68)
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3 Feb 12
I respect your opinion, but no he did it for himself. We would be safe if he could keep his mouth close. He the type that talks to much. With that being said he has already called himself making friends at our new location and is telling people where we moved from. That is a no no. So how safe are we really?
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
3 Feb 12
I'm sorry to hear that this has happened to you and your family. He should have told you especially when it's dangerous for you and your family. Your family could have been seriously hurt or attacked. And you wouldn't not have seen it coming or known why. So you are right.
@tasneem4 (68)
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3 Feb 12
Thank you so much because that is exactly how I feel. It really more hurtful considering the reason he did it. Like I said most people have a case or are in trouble when they decide to become an informant or as I say snitch. He was in no trouble with the law. So much is being lost from this.
