I'm free. I'm single.

Being in a relationship can certainly hinder the normal life activities since we often invest all attention to the partner but when the relationship is lost, we recover our sanity and discover that there is still a world outside of the relationship. However, the pain still lingers deep inside that no matter how much fun is found in the environment with friends and family, the memories of the relationship still lingers in the mind. You are just lucky for being able to move on since some of us still feel the loneliness of a broken relationship.

That's really the best attitude we should have after breakups. It really isn't the end of the world. We have our family and friends out there who have been missing more of our company for quite some time. Besides, like they say, there's still plenty of fish out there. And you may eventually catch that person who's yours to keep :)

Some people can take being single a lot better then others. I am not sure what to make of it myself. I don't like being alone, I've not been used to it, but then again I don't want to date either.

if you do not feel good about it then it is time to move on, however this might not be the real test yet as V day is coming and you would feel the lost. But be strong remember why you choose to end the relationship

That's the result of being positive thinking. I never have a boyfriend since my last breakup 8 years ago. But i still live my life to the fullest. Yea, having your boyfriend (i mean ex-boy) closer always make you in a dilemma and keep pushing you farther from others. I hope you are always in good mood after this and keep up the good lifestyle. and you are right, there's no reason to be lonely and cry the whole day. :)

Wellcome to freedom as you said! Girlfriends or boyfriends is nice and cool untill the relationship becomes a problematic one with the routine coming in as a real problem. The best way is to have a partner and change him or her when real problems arrive. this is at young age, when we get older like in our 30 something it is time to have a long lasting partner relationship if we have the chance to find the right one!

hi tess, Being single doesn't mean that life will be boring. It is just a time in which we can spend more time to those people who never get much attention from us during those days that we have a serious relationship with someone. I also felt lonely after breaking up with my ex-boyfriend. However, with the help of my true friends, I realise that there is so much out there that is worth giving attention for. I do not need to have a boyfriend just to find happiness.

hi there tess_quinain, with reference to what you have posted, well, indeed being single is not a terrible life at all. as i am also proud to be one. really, there are a lot of activities that can make you happy. things that you can enjoy while you are only with yourself. and it is not true that when you are single, you will not have someone to talk to. especially if you have a lot of friends to whom you can turn to when you need somebody to chat with. also, here in mylot, for sure, you have a lot of friends here, though, some of them were not met personally. well, just continue to enjoy your life, after all, it is your own happiness. and no one is allowed to ruin it. have a nice day friend.

Being in a relationship certainly needs you to sacrifice somethings. But it does not mean that you need to sacrifice all of your freedom. As for my experience, when me and my wife are still in BF/GF relationship, our freedom that we have during the time that we are single still exists. My wife still used to go out with her friends. She also had time with her family. She still did the things she use to do. As for me, I also had time doing the hings that I used to do. The only thing that we had stopped doing is dating other people. I think it is all about how you handle your relationship. You can have BF and still have freedom for yourself. You just need to talk about it.

I agree with your view. Even i too realized the same thing when i was with my girlfriend. I hardly spent times with my friends and family members. Its a kind of pain. There is a lot of differences between happy and peace. Happiness is a temporary and peace is a permanent. I felt more happy when i was with my girlfriend, but equally i had lot of pains.. When she not not called me or texted me via mobile then i will started to feel depressed. Everyone is becoming more possessive when they started to live in relationship. Not only this, I faced some more bitter experiences in life and now i realized peaceful life is heaven than a happy life. I have lot of responsibilities and tasks to do.. I'm seeing this world after i started to live as single. Really a very Inspirational Topic you have raised

Hi tess, I remember that you're the one in a long distance relationship, right? So what happened? I guess like mine, it didn't work out too.. Guess what, I am free and single too! I guess it is better to be like this that always stress myself out and wait for someone - can't see my future with him anymore...

I confused attention with time in past. so i couldn't keep one relationship forever. but in my next relationship, i will pay all my attention on my boyfriend, meanwhile, enjoy time with my family and friends.