what will you do when your best friend hurt you deeply?
By dorothy172
@dorothy172 (984)
Malaysia
February 2, 2012 7:52pm CST
i found another interested story to share with all the myLotter. the story is like this:
there are 2 best friends travel around the desert. one day, they fight, one of the friend slapped on the other one. the friend that being slapped felt very angry, he squat down and wrote on the sand, TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ON ME. after he finish writing, they continue their journey.
not long after, they came to a swamp. the one that being slapped just now, accidentantly fall into the swamp, and almost drown in the swamp. luckily, his best friend safe him. he then take out a knife and wrote on the stone, TODAY MY BEST FRIEND HAD SAFE MY LIFE.
his best friend saw this, felt curious, and ask him, why after i slapped on you, you wrote it on the sand, and after i safe you, you wrote it on the stone?
the other one said, when some one hurt you, you must wrote it at the place that is easily been forgotten, i wrote it on the sand, because the wind will blow it away. but when some one help you, we must keep in memory forever, that's why i wrote it on the stone.
dear myLotter, what will you do when your best friend hurt you deeply? will you forgive them?
7 responses
@dorothy172 (984)
• Malaysia
3 Feb 12
in mandarin, there is a sentence which saying that 'angry is to punish ourselves'. when our friends hurt us, maybe we will feel angry with them, even try to revenge, but actually we are the one who lose, since they may not because we are angrying them and feel sad or affected their life. on the other hand, ourselves will feel unhappy too. so as you said, we should be kindness, kindness is the best revenge :)
@dorothy172 (984)
• Malaysia
3 Feb 12
i read it from book, i forgot which book already. but when i read something that good, i will try to copy it down. somemore the book that i read was in chinese, and i try to translate it myself, hope that myLotter can understand my english, since my primary language is not english. :) if next time i found other good story, i will try to share it again.
@GemmaR (8517)
•
3 Feb 12
I think that trust is one of the most important things in a friendship, and if that trust isn't there then there isn't really all that much that you're going to be able to do about it. I know that if a friend of mine did anything like that to me, there is no way that I would be able to forgive them for it, and I know that this would be the case. You should talk to them about the way that they have hurt you, and see if there is any way that you could come to a solution about it which is okay by both of you, even if that might mean ending your friendship which could be hard for you to do.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
3 Feb 12
a very subtle way of handling friendship, nice story.. getting hurt deeply caused by my best friend would mean a lot, time would surely be of importance to heal the wound and as mentioned, should be written in sands, to mend and make up would surely ensure the bonds bind more being able to go through such traumatic event.
@dorothy172 (984)
• Malaysia
3 Feb 12
ya, i agree that time could heal the wound, but cannot denied that the relationship between us cannot persist as before he/she hurt me. i think i can forgive the person hurt me, but i cant forget how did he/she hurt me. haha :)
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
11 Mar 13
this kind of scenario never happen to me ever since that my best friend will slap me or slapping my best friend,even how i am angry to my friend i will never do slapping them,if a friend of mine slapped me of course i will be angry but time will pass and i can forgive that person.
