Sometimes I'm Like This....

Hi xien2xien! You are not alone coz I am also like that! Not only to my friends but even to family members. My mom always gets mad at me whenever I started to keep quiet and don't want to talk with anybody, she said that she feels bad coz she didn't know what I am thinking and the reason behind my silence...hehe but that was before, now, I think she knows me better already that's why whenever I am quiet they just let me and wait when my good mood comes back, they didn't try to force me to talk anymore when I don't like coz they know that they will not get a decent answer from me...haha I am also like this with my husband and to other people, what I just don't like with this kind of attitude with me is that sometimes I have tendency to include other people with my bad mood, but I'm working on it now to change for the better. I don't usually said the reason for my silence or bad mood coz sometimes its just really petty. hehe

I keep it to myself. I prefer to do it rather than making a commotion on our friendship. I do believe that they have a reason on why they said those kinds of words.

Sometimes it is better to be quiet while other times it's better to speak up whether or not it's hard to deal with. I guess the friends that want you to stay quiet don't like to hear your anger, but those who want to know what is on your mind, want you to get it off your chest.

I usually tell them how I feel but only once, and I ask them to not talk about it since my emotions are still high at that moment. And then I keep silent. I realized that this is effective to avoid having further arguments and also prevents the issue from blowing out of proportion.

I'm also like that. When I get upset over things that me and my mom argued for, or just random things that makes me upset, I go quiet! You should also try to open doors. Try sharing what you feel to people you are close with so they will have an idea what you are feeling and probably can help you solve it. Its not all the time you can keep it to yourself. What's the purpose of your friends then if you wouldn't share it to them? Even if they are the reason of you being upset, you should try to open up with them. I'd tried already and it will make you feel good! :) Hope that helps!

Have you ever heard a saying "Silence Is Golden"? :) There's even a song name after this. I prefer to keep things to myself everytime something happens. If it's a problem, I would prefer to settle it fast and without many people realize; if I'm upset or unhappy, I would spend time to myself and try not to trouble others. I'm not sure if this is healthy, or a right way to do, but I know clearly that this is who I am... Cheers:)

If it is a small issue I would make certain the other party knows of my disappointment, but if it is a big issue that I know would get into a quarrel, I would keep it to myself and try to rationalize everything before confronting the other.

I do that too. Its a way of calming yourself down. Sometimes we need that time to assess why we are upset, is it worth being upset, and to see a bigger picture. There have been plenty of times my ex said something and id get really defensive and mad but later on I thought of the way I reacted and realized that it was stupid and I could see where he was coming from. You should tell them whats wrong but if it starts an argument let them know that is usually why you get quiet when your upset. Let them know you don't want to have the argument and so if your going to tell them they need to hear you and think about it before they say anything.