weeding? 1st year,2nd year,3rd year... gosh i can't take it,help.

We are currently on our 4th year of our marriage now but I can say that we are still on our adjustment period. Most says that when you passed the 5 year marriage, they say that you are already passed the adjustment periods. But for me, you will face different problems that you need to dealt with as you go on. So let youe partner know what you feel right now. Ask her if what she feels about your marriage right now, maybe she feels the same. Try to make some moves to improve your relationship and work-it out. Go on, talk to your wife...

I think you don't really love your partner, i think its just infatuation or you are not happy or not satisfied on you love life or in your partner that's why you are saying those things. Try to be apart from her and do something that you will enjoy. Try to do different life away from her. Or work in a place that will take a long time that before you can see her again. I think that can help to make you feel you miss her and while you apart from her,reminisce all the thing that both of you doing together before.

married life is not an easy one. there ups and downs, and the success of it depends on both you. i think there are many factors why you can't see your relationship is enough. but what i know, for almost 5 years of my marriage, God binds us together so we have a strong faith on Him. our marriage is not perfect, two years ago we had this problem that almost broke our covenant but thank God He is there and He did not allow us to broke apart. You know what, He even bless us with a son. So, find all the ways to keep your marriage on the go especially if its worth it.

Yes marriage and any long term relationship takes commitment. It is a lot of work and nothing like the love movies portray. But anything that is worth keeping or having takes time and working together. I have had so many problems in my marriage that at times I feel so overwhelmed and like I can't deal with it anymore. But every relationship will have it's ups and downs. And if a person gives up on the relationship they will just have to start over with another person. And starting over learning the faults of another person may be worse than what your dealing with now. So look for ways to improve your relationship. Work at it just as if you would work at it and give it your all when you first start dating a person. I hope your situation improves.

Hello ahsn, I have been married since 7 years and really it is not that easy to keep the relationship intact for so many years as we have to do lot of compromises,commitments and many more things which we may not like but for the sake of relationship we have to do it.We do argue/quarell for lot of things but at the end of the day we do get along.

Wellcome to the club! Marriage is a committment and an engagement for the good and the bad and I agree with you that after few years "the bad" seems to be the only thing remains of a marriage. Difficult very difficult, but still there is a way to deal with. If you have kids you must think about their happiness and educative example so be careful to quit your wife! If you do not have kids and you cannot take it anymore just quit or have a lover and be tranquil at home!

I have always looked at marriage as a big gamble, I know I am a deep thinker and feel that as we all keeping changing through life one never knows how either partner is going to change, I am a very independent person and I really don't like what I see within the marriages of my friends, so to me to stay independent seems attractive to me.