First he was a snitch and now a cheater.
By tasneem4
@tasneem4 (68)
February 3, 2012 7:42pm CST
In my earlier discussion I mentioned how my kids father became an informant slash snitch. My kids and I were relocated because of it. Now I guess because he felt like I had no reason to be upset(which in my eyes I do), he cheated on me with another woman. He felt like I took my attention off him. This woman asked him what made us move and he told her because I was raped and he had to handle it. This was said in front of my kids. First he become a snitch and have us relocated and now he is cheating and has lied about why we are here and in front of my kids. Wow somebody give me some advice because I am at my wits end. I can understand not telling the truth why we here but its not fair to lie and make it seem like I'm the reason we here,
2 people like this
8 responses
@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
4 Feb 12
I wouldn't be upset at him for being s "snitch" as you call it. But if he were cheating and making it seem as though I had been the reason for the relocation I would get upset over that. Being someone who definitely supports doing the right thing even when it isn't easy I could support his decision to "snitch" on someone.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
4 Feb 12
i don't mean any harm but i don't have much appreciation for snitches. there are certain obvious conditions where snitching wouldn't b snitching, but just doing crime with ppl, then trying to rat to get off scott free? that i don't support.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
4 Feb 12
oh i see. it really a big mess. i don't think it's any reasons for your husband's actions, though. but i think you know that because you sound like a smart girl. it's just doing what you know your inner voice is telling is really hard sometimes. no matter what you end up deciding to do, it's just plain rough.
1 person likes this
@tammytwo (4298)
• United States
4 Feb 12
As a person who works closely with Law Enforcement as a 911 dispatcher I appreciate when people do the "right" thing. Therefore I don't believe that "snitching" is always bad. Many people call others "snitches" even when they just know something bad that happened and decide to tell Law Enforcement about it. Most people today don't care if others are doing things that are illegal because they don't think it hurts or effects anyone else. However, this is usually not the case.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
4 Feb 12
omg! you are going through alot right now. i understand. do you love him? why have you endured with him and why are you enduring with him when you have other options. now, this is where you will say that you don't have options. however, that is scientifically not true. there is ALWAYS an option, even if it's hard, rips you out of your "comfort zone" (bad or good), or not the one you really find easy to make. but you DO always have options. i am not saying to leave him. that is too easy to say without me knowing all the circumstances. i also know how hard it is just to up and leave a relationship, bad or good. just make sure that why ever you are there is because of love. love of THE UNIVERSE, self , and then love of him. in that order. if you can't come up with a yes to those questions. the next logical step may be to explore some other options....options that may be hard, not really wanted or expected. good luck to you and your family.
@tasneem4 (68)
•
4 Feb 12
I feel as though I have really been supportive with him and all his decision he makes on his own. I'm working and trying to find s life in a state I know nothing about. How dare him expect all this attention. My grandmother is very ill and she is my everything,but I'm here. This is asking for to much. Another woman all for some attention. And the lies he tell this woman. Yeah you right I do need to sit back and think of other options.
@angelwithkids (1256)
• United States
4 Feb 12
first off, how old are the kids?? if they are of an understanding age (which i'm hoping they are), i would sit with down with them and get their feelings on the situation. if they are with you, not happy with the way things are, then go with a united front and tell dad to straighten up and fly right or you'll leave. if it's at the point that all of you are ready to leave, then go to your agent and tell them you request a transfer. realize that once the transfer is approved, there will be no further contact between you and dad, dad and the kids. he's definitly in the wrong for lying and making you out to be the "bad guy". that's definitly selfish on his part.
@angelwithkids (1256)
• United States
7 Feb 12
for him to tell those kids adult things, goes to show how selfish he is. now that he's got this girl pregnant and devoting his time to her, that's nothing but selfishness. you and the kids are way better off without him.
@tasneem4 (68)
•
5 Feb 12
My kids are 5 and 4. No excuse for his behavior what so ever. They have heard to much from him. What is a trip is somethings they understand, and they are looking at him in a different way. That is not my fault. They are very smart. He is doing so much and it has caused this family so much heart ache and he don't even see that.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
4 Feb 12
Hi tasneen, I am so sorry, I did respond to your previous post
and to be very honest I was all for giving your hubby the benefit
of the doubt...I mean it really did sound like he made a legitimate
decision, but now do we know if he was even telling the truth about
anything he said...
To lie is bad enough but to lie on you is horrible...Why on earth
would make him say that unless he was trying to make an excuse to
the other woman to get next to her...
If he is cheating on you, you really need to rethink your marriage.
He has some nerve to relocate his family and then has the audacity
to cheat on you...how dare he...
@tatzkie23 (770)
• Philippines
4 Feb 12
Sorry to hear about that. Oh no i hate cheating! What he did to you is way to far my friend. If you can leave him, then do it. Let me hear if there's an update. I hope that you and your kids are just doing fine. I would also feel very hurt if my husband will cheat on me. 
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
6 Mar 12
I think when you feel the kids will fully understand all the reasons behind why you move,tell to them the real reason. It it better to get away from that man because now,he is doing that kind of frightening actions and word what more in the future. I think he really irresponsibly person. He is really bad person,sorry for my what i will say but i think base on what he said and he do he must be put in jail. I really hate that kind of man.
@SassyBrat (463)
• Canada
5 Feb 12
Your partner is someone who would rather blame someone else than be honest. I had an ex like this. He cheated on me twice (that I know of), first time I forgave him, second time I left him.
He won't change, your children are not foolish. It amazes me how people think that because children are small they are not wise to pick up on what adults do. Children are like sponges, they absorb everything!
If I may, I would encourage you to seek counselling, to help you gather your inner strength, to do what you need to do for you and your kids. They look to you for guidance and life lessons.
You know your strong, wise and beautiful woman. Never let a fool like this guy jerk you around, and take that away from you.
