is hard to become INDEPENDENT :[

We can do nothing but learn to be independent. Living alone, we may feel lonely and helpless without parents' care from time to time. Sometime we may think our life as a mess. But how can we live like this? Complaing every day? No. We have to confront with it because we're growing up no matter we accept it or not it's the truth. Believe it or not, you're not alone. There're thousands of children all around the world who leave their parents much ealier than you in oder to have better education. So try to be independent, you can make it. And if possible, make more friends and sometimes when you feel homesick, you can turn to them for help.

Yeah, Living on your own is difficult. I have tried that one too. You have to handle all the budgeting, preparations and details of living. It used to be your parent's problem, but now it is yours. Anyway, that is how life goes. Welcome to the real life! Just take it as a challenge for your growth and development. Try to use the opportunity of living on your own as part of your learning experience. You will have the advantage of experiencing it over others who haven't. Just always look at the positive side of things. Also, always remember that no man is an island. You should be able to seek help when you know that you need it. So you better start making connections with others other than your parent's and relatives. This is for you to have connections near you who can help you out and at the same time you can help out. Cheers to your independence!

I guess that is really the essence of being independent. You really have to be able to do things on your own. It's really hard at first but it will become easier as time goes by. But it doesn't mean that you can't ask for help from time to time. That's what family and friends are there for.

That's how you learn how to live life. In the future when you finally have your own family, this experience will be the very stuff that will give you strength. Just persevere and you will reap the fruits of your labor in the end.

You feel this way because a human was now made to live alone. You are one of the billions of people who live alone and miss having human contact at home. Do not worry, it is normal to feel like this beacuse it is not normal to live alone ;D

dear chum24, being independent is really hard when you are just starting...but you will get used to it as you go on...there will be moments that you will just cry because you will your family. maybe you need to budget your time wisely to do all the things you need to accomplish for the day...as well as with your money, learn to budget, just spend on what you have, avoid overspending to avoid "credit line." just be patient and strong, you will get through this kind of situation, just imagine this is just a training for you. this will be a big help for you especially when you start working:)

It seems we are all raised under different prevailing circumstances. There is a saying: "we get to know ourselves if we are not too fortunate..." There is also a saying: "There is hidden blessing in adversity.", Agree? If we are pushed into, or inclined into, taking life the hard way, there are hidden blessings that manifests as invisible strengths and capabilities ... It may be hard to believe at first ... those of us who undergo difficulty early in our lives are "invisibly" changed for the better. Later, we face the same difficulties but we feel these do not hold us down ... i.e. our perceptions adapt In the case mentioned, it seems what one can do is to face and thrive over difficulty ... Perhaps if it is a shortage of financial means, perhaps we do our best with the little that we have, to stay healthy and giving of what we can give - our kindness, our forgiveness ... I believe there is an Invisible Intelligence that makes all things possible ... that , in the final analysis, ready already gave us all that we need ... if we can learn to recognize it ... Amen. What do you think ?

Independence is one of those concepts where many people think it will a breeze if they have nothing tying them back, but when they actually achieve it, they are going to scramble trying to figure out what they need to do. I don't think many people get the full scope of what independence until they are thrown out there. Thrown out there to sink or swim. Where people are going to struggle with figuring out where to go next. Granted, there are just going to be many people out there that will be able to bounce back after some shakiness. It will be a long road, but the most valuable lessons are the most painful ones to say the very least. We don't truly know the meaning of something until it happens and the actual problems with independence occurs but it is a trial by fire.

It's hard for a student to be independent especially he or she was often living with his or her parents before.but people should learn how to be independent, as parents will not stay with their children forever.at the beginning being independent is difficult.After a while you will get used to it.Don't be worried and i think you will feel you are successful in being independent.Cheer up.

hello, In this situation you need to be strong enough because you have to face the consequences that you have to study even you are far from you parents. I did not experience being alone yet I want to be with my family all the time because without them I think I cant survive because I know to myself that I cant be alone. I am still holding in the support of my parents. You must be proud of yourself because you are doing great, you can actually stand by yourself but of course there are times you are missing them but put on your mind that you have to sacrifice for the better.

Friend, about your far from parents, hope you have far for some education from you native place, and one you will get success in your life. we only pray for you.

i agree on your point friend. we are still students and manage so many things. its really hard but on the sake of education we really learn lots of thing. we have to many advantages as well as disadvantages being independent. we have to take care of our own things.:(

It's only hard at first but you will get used to it. I've been independent since 16 years old. I went to school which is 8 hours away from work. it's a bit hard because I am not used to it. but i have grown to be more mature and can decide for myself. and i can manage now how to budget money for myself too!

Hmm, well I believe you are lacking of inspiration. Perhaps? For me, I would like to be in your boots. I personally believe that there are so many things to learn out there. And I believe it would be the time to step out from the so called comfort zone. Look at it in a different way, now it's a new start in your life, time for you to explore. I believe your in a different country, studying, am I wrong? Well, you said your far far away from your family. So, look out your window and enjoy everything. Haha, I believe that washing clothes and preparing breakfast are not as hard when you are inspired in living. I believe currently your not enjoying your life, or ou don't see the funofit. ( I assume) If and only if, I were you, I'd enjoy everything, cook my own meal,wash my own clothes, go out and look at the city, eat at shops, study in a new environment, checkout the designs and different culture in the new city and so on. At the Ensor the day, when I go back home, I can happily and confidently tell my family and friends about my enjoyable life in a new city. I can tell them how early I woke up to prepare breakfast, how significant the structure of the city is, how friendly the citizens are and so on. So yea. I hope you will look at life in a much more different way. Enjoy. Haha!