love or like
By daniel_chang
@daniel_chang (75)
Philippines
February 4, 2012 9:36pm CST
when do you consider it love and when do you consider it to be like?
i had this guy i liked him so much. We would laugh and get drunk. To the extend that he's like my brother. The thing is that during this days i had another guy. I love him because he is my lover. When i am with this lover of my mind would always think how i wish that the man i like would be here to see how happy i am. Not realizing that i am with the my lover which i love. When i hear the name of the guy i like my heart pumps as if it is loosing out of blood to pump, but when i hear my lover's name i feel fear rather than goose bumps. which is which and who i who.
i dont care about what both of them feel for me actually.
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9 responses
@anncherry (406)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
Hmm, the way you said it makes me think that you have it jumbled. The one you love is the one you said you like and vice versa. Because for me, love is when you feel comfortable with each other, although as ironically as feeling your heart beat so fast at the same time. But I can be wrong since what you told us is obviously not the whole story and I'm not with you all the time to observe you, so it may be just infatuation that you feel because of all the attention he showers you.
But then, why do you feel fear instead of bliss with the one you said you love? It's confusing. Are both of you going through difficulties right now?
@anncherry (406)
• Philippines
8 Feb 12
Maybe you feel that slight fear because you're afraid that person B will find out that your heart also beats for person A.
No matter what they say, loving someone is a choice. So it's still up to you who you choose, Person A or Person B. When you make a decision, you should act on your decision. Meaning that if you choose Person B (your lover), you will do all it takes to NOT nurture or even entertain the growth of your feelings for Person A. Or ideally, you should eliminate it. Because it's unfair for Person B, being the one that you chose. On the other hand, you should do the same if ever you choose Person A. It sounds simple, but it'll take a lot of willpower to do this. And don't worry, it doesn't have anything to do with being childish, so I think you can do this. :) After deciding, just do what's right. :)
@daniel_chang (75)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
let me put it this way.
Person A is the one i like and Person B is my lover. I recently know both of them but i gave my word to person B.
I feel chills and goose bumps to person A and feels comfortable with person B. But my heart pumps for both but matters in intensity. Person A makes my heart pumps stronger and faster than person B. I am quiet childish in a relationship so i let my partner take control of our relationship.
i just dont know why i feel fear, i am not guilty of cheating my lover. maybe its just confusion that i feel. Actually nope, i just asked to know who i really love the and what love really means. knowing the fact that i am childish.
@zaahro (748)
• Indonesia
5 Feb 12
Hii Daniel...
owww it's complicated 
. You remind me with one of Katy Pery's song, "Thinking of You".
Cz when I am with him I am thinking of you, thinking of you
Well I'll say that you like them both and love one of them ( it's clear ). I'll consider that it is love when I can't pass a day without thinking of him, he always run in my mind all the time and makes me laugh with no reasons just by remembering him. Is it love ? I think. 
. You remind me with one of Katy Pery's song, "Thinking of You".
Cz when I am with him I am thinking of you, thinking of you
Well I'll say that you like them both and love one of them ( it's clear ). I'll consider that it is love when I can't pass a day without thinking of him, he always run in my mind all the time and makes me laugh with no reasons just by remembering him. Is it love ? I think. @daniel_chang (75)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
Funny, that's my theme song for this situation of mine. The way you describe it is the way i feel for the person i like.is this love? am i cheating? i mean i didnt gave my word to the man i like but why do i feel this way.
@ColleenNM (47)
• United States
5 Feb 12
Hmmmmm... it doesn't seem as if you were interested in settling down with either one of them right now -- which is just fine.
When you are ready, find someone who makes you laugh.
In the meantime, enjoy the search!
~ angel
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
6 Feb 12
Hi daniel chang: I think that love is a deeper feeling compared with just liking someone. Ask yourself who is the person you want to live with for the rest of your life, who better compliments you as a person, etc. Maybe you are just feeling confused.
ALVARO
@SarahAlyx (181)
• United States
5 Feb 12
Interesting, I think you should be with the person that makes you truly happy that you can see yourself being with for a long time. If you feel fear when you think of your lover then maybe it's not to be.
It's all a matter of how you feel. Usually your best friend will be the guy to be there for you and love you for who you are not somebody they want you to be.
Hope this helps :)
@daniel_chang (75)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
actually both of them makes me happy every now and then. I just recently known them both too. I dont know why i feel fear when i hear my lovers name or its not fear i feel. I am not cheating my lover because i didnt commit any relationship to the guy i like. I even know imperfections about the guy i like and yet i still feel those goose bump when i remember him.
Yes, i agree on that. But who will i chose if the time comes that i myself has to choose.
@Heixyin (175)
• Malaysia
5 Feb 12
well, that's a tough question. haha! i personally believe that when you experience love, you will experience a sense of excitement for him. Quickened heart rate, every sense of yours, vision, taste, smell, sound, touch goes soaring. XD This would be a regular personal experience though. They say, in front of the person you love, your heart beats faster. In front of the person you like, you get happy. Or, in front of the person you love, winter seems like spring. Where as, in front of the person you like, winter is just beautiful winter. something like that. Sounds pretty cheesy dont you think? XD Sometimes,we tend to mix up who we actually like and love, due to auto suggetion. for example, you actually love guy A, but like guy B. Then, you question yourself or maybe under the influence of your friends who said, 'hey you love guy B right?' though you might say no at first, but were you to question yourself later, you might come to think that you actually love guy B too. So yea, think about this yourself. Choose one only.XD no offense!
@daniel_chang (75)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
well thats funny, i really did feel those. I actually feel those things to both of the guys what makes it different is the intensity of the feeling. It actually makes me feel this chilling feeling that makes me sweat, specially in front of the guy i like. i can hardly say a word or move, i just stare there and smile. when i am with my lover its just feel that i can be whoever i wanna be. I am comfortable in anyway and any position i could make. I am sort of childish in relationship. I like my partner will take control of our relationship.
men!!! this is a problem. can i have them both at the same time.lol
@tatzkie23 (770)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
Oh no that's just difficult to decide. But i hope that you'll able to make up your mind. Maybe you're just feeling this because you can't really enjoy things with your lover not like with the one you like. Before you make a decision, make sure that this person you like also like you. But what if she only likes you but not really love you? it's hard right? i hope that you'll choose who's best for you. 
@arianne_mae_2012 (243)
•
5 Feb 12
Hi daniel_chang! I experienced that before, i had bf that every time i am with him him i feel afraid and i feel that i am pretending like i am her perfect gf. At the same time i had this guy best friend that every time i am with him, i feel happy because i can show the real me. And you know what happen next?i didn't end up with my bf and i end up with my best friend and became my bf, we are already 5 years in the relationship and planning more together for the future :)
