How could he ask me to accept the other woman?

You are being emotionally and mentally abused! Please, start preparing to leave this man, he is a self absorbed fool, and if the other woman thinks that he will be there for her, she is sadly mistaken. I've been in your situation, no amount of fighting, trying to prove your point, being there for the kids will change his mind. From my own experience, the other woman figured I was this pathetic, wouldn't let her man go, wouldn't move on person. Little did she realize she was being played and when she realized it, she actually contacted me and apologized for her poor behavior towards me. Now, we aren't friends, we aren't acquaintances. She has left my ex and moved on herself as have I. He married another, who not only looks like me, but has gone through the same as myself and the former mistress. She too has also contacted me to apologize for believing what she had been told about me. Do what's best for your children and yourself.

In all honesty, I think this is an absolute disrespect to you. You do not have to go on with his charades. If you think you have had enough, go on and make your life better without him. Life does not end without him. You deserve someone that will love you more than you could. Smile!

Hello, You don't have to take his behavior. Please respect yourself enough to know that his making that kind of request of you is unacceptable. Please make plans to leave this man. You and your children are in my prayers. Please keep us posted.

your husband s just honest to you to tell the truth to you. it might seem make you feel mad at him but it is the truth and he reveal it to your, rather than hiding it. i know it hurt you and it hurt so much if he hide it to you. it s better than you learn from him at earlier stages so you could both talk about your future and with your children if ever you have. then settle for a compromise, negotiate for the child support financially and emotionally. it is up to you if you could bear to become part of his life or break away from hm. it s up for you to decide to accept and live with it or have a separate lives.

It is so martyr if you accept the other woman of your husband when you are still living together. But as you said, you have realize that your relationship with him is over. So, you better set him free and try to move on. Moving on will make you happier and live with peace of mind. Just tell your self that it is not your lost, it is his.

I wouldn't let my husband do that if he wants another women he can have her but he doesn't get me I don't care where we live in the world that is a no no for me. Its me and no one else.

I think it's important that you demand respect from him. He cannot just do anything if he is in a committed relationship with you.

You should feel disbelief. Thats just ridiculous that he would even think to ask that of you. The fact that he is doing that does signal that your relationship is over. Seems like it has been for a long time. You dont have to allow that nonsense into your life. I hope that you are really understanding this. And chosing to take care of you. Tell him that its fine to have that girl and then Move Out. Break ups are hard, but living in constant heart ache is much much worse. The more distance you put between the two of you the easier it will get. All the best. ~C~

it's time to cut out. let her have him. one thing is for sure, what he's done to you, he'll eventually do to her. the sweetest revenge, is the one you don't have a hand in. just let her know that if she doesn't quit harassing you, you can press charges against her. what she's doing is illegal. it's never easy to start over and it's going to be rough in any circumstances. i wish you the best of luck. you and your children deserve to be treated a whole lot better.

Oh my, the guts to ask! Wow, I will surely kick him out of my sight

Marital relationship can go through thick and thin. But I guess its not a marital relationship but a solitary one. A one-sided love. A partner like yours for me is so narcissistic meaning so selfish. He wanted to do things for himself. I hated that kind of a personality of a man. Making you accept the other woman? If I were you, I will leave him. I just put a rock to hurt my head that time.

Sorry to say this but I think that guy is crazy. Maybe some women don't care about their guys having another woman, but you are clearly not one of them. He thinks it's okay as long as he is enjoying it, what a...

I found myself in the same situation as you a few years ago before we finally ended our marriage. The ex-husband wanted me to accept that he has another woman who is pregnant at that time. He was actually staying with the other woman and their affair has been going on for years without me knowing about it. I had my own job in another state which was quite far from their work and residence. He would just come for a visit every now and then but I trusted him so much. When I learned about the affair, he wanted me to accept it as it is. Since I had a lucrative job, I told him to get out of my life. It also hurt me but seems like it was my pride that was badly affected. He never sent child support since then. Think about it. Are you ready for such a situation? Can you handle it? Will you be happy in that situation? Ask yourself and consider your feelings if your love is stronger than the hurt and pain.

I haven't words. He is a terrible person if he ask you to accept his relationship (or what that are) with other woman. You should be disbelief! Can he stop that thinks? Because he has two children and he have to be a good father for they!

hi tasneem4 He is a total jerk and an a.s.s. do not put up with that as its debasing and demeaning to you. Are you married to him or just in a relationship? Either way he is way way off base. I would file for divorce if you are married if not just tell him its over, and move out, Do not let the door hit you too hard on leaving but do leave. Go to her and stay there.I am also in disbelief of what he is asking, the total jerk. tell him its over and mean it, You do not have to let him do this to you at all. its over tell h im and get him to leave. good luck and God bless .

I think you can laid down the last card first before making a conclusion. Try to talk to your husband once and for all. Perhaps he would still change his mind. Besides he need to think about you and your kids. You know, in a man's heart, his family is still important more than anything else. Then don't forget to pray also, consider this as trials in life. A challenge that we could triumph over it when we have the support and blessings of our God.

Then he isn't worth it. He isn't worth your worries. Go find your happiness.

Hi, Tasneem4, I'm sorry that you have to go through all this. But I feel that you will not give up. You are a woman and you are not born to suffer this way. You are lucky because you have your kids and you have a job, that means that you can be independent. It is not easy to bear your kids alone but you are young and still have chances in this life. Don't hesitate to take things into your hands. Good luck!

I am so sorry for what you are going through. There is no reason for anyone to have to put up with that. None at all. You can do SO much better than this! The man that is worth your tears won't make you cry! That is a true quote. You are worth so much more than the way he is treating you. Even being alone is better than what your going through! I hope you walk out the door and never look back. Find someone that will really love and cherish you. =)He is out there waiting for you.

I think if you love someone just let him do what he want to do but for your situation it is right to end up your relationship to him because it will also bad to see for your children that there father have another woman but it is just okay to their mom. SO i think you made a right choice. He must also realize that in a relationship there is only one woman and one man in a couple relationship. SO he must also choose in the two girls.