Is it good habit? To trust easily on online friends
By smilywomen
@surekharathi (14146)
India
February 5, 2012 1:14am CST
A very big tragedy news is that a boy who was rich and smart make online friends. Trust easily on them. The 4 friends make the friendship with him in orkut site. A Mumbai teenager boy the name is Adnan Patrawala four boys who was his online friends kidnapped him and murdering in 2007. Still accused are not punished.
They all four persons are meet with him on online social networking site orkut. But now accused are walking freely. I want to say dont trust on anybody without knowing them and dont go if they call you.
You can read full news here
http://www.ndtv.com/article/cities/adnan-murder-case-four-accused-walk-out-of-jail-171765
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28 responses
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
5 Feb 12
yes. it is sad that people take advantage from persons who believe them. Normally the phrase"trust begets trust" may not be valid in online activities.
We have to be guarded in giving information about us to others. Secret information should not be shared with others in forum or in person also. 
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
5 Feb 12
You are right uncle secret information like about working way, money, office issues not share with anybody. Because now jealous people are more than good people.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Feb 12
hi ravi a year or so back one of our young women mylotters formed an online romance with this young man she had never met, when he found money to come see her, she was turned off at once as he was pushy and acted like he wanted to control her. she refused to have any more to do with him, The few times they had gone out each time he had actually pushed her and the last time she refused to get engaged to him, he slapped her. So she refused to see him but he kept stalking her until her father had to take out a restraining order against this young creep.The restraining order did not work well so the father quietly moved his family to anot her state. We never heard from her again on mylot but I assumed she did not want to leave any traces of where she was in case he found out and came after her. I have never trusted anyone on line until I have met them and got to know them. My one meeting with a mylotter was just wonderful, she was just as warm and loving as in her discussions so was glad she stopped here to see me.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
5 Feb 12
surekha:
I am sure you will be more careful. Probably you believe everybody. By now you must have become more wise and intelligent to manage your affairs.
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@5mahi05 (666)
• India
5 Feb 12
Hello friend, it is never a good thing to trust anyone when you are dealing with online relationships. These are those people whom you do not know at all, or sometimes live so far from places where you never even heard off! Other than that, there is so much scope for people to cheat you because you never know how to believe them. One should be very careful about such things. Never risk your life so much! In these days, it is very hard to trust someone who is standing in front of you, I don;t understand how people go to the extent of trusting people whom they meet online.
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
5 Feb 12
Yes friend really this is not good to trust on online friend and if they call then go immediately because I watch daily at least one incident in crime petrol or daily news. Chatting is good but trust is not good never go alone if somebody calling.
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@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
5 Feb 12
It pays us all to be very careful. The sad thing is that online and offline there are dangerous people that we all come into contact with. I do not give a lot of personal or identifiable information out to many people either on or off line because it's sad - but you just can't trust people like you used to be able to...
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
6 Feb 12
Yes my sweet smile friend you are right we should careful and not provide the personal information to anyone specially about income. Because now jealous people are everywhere even some relatives may be jealous with us if the matter is related to income.
@malsrename (35)
• Indonesia
5 Feb 12
not all men behave like that, but we must guard against actions that could threaten our souls.
and appropriate solutions to find a friend that,should we first met and who it comes from nowhere.
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
5 Feb 12
Yes not all man but if one man also behave such then a innocent person lost the life. Now most of the persons are selfish and they cant watch the good thing about their friends.
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@thelmadacullo112659 (642)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
in my own opinion, it is not a good habit to trust friend whom uve meet them on net just for one time only.start trusting friends when u know it already in person or in net with several chattings.never trust them for ones chat only. try to chat them always coz as u go chattings with them everyday ,the more u know their chatac and thats the time u trust them.dont send anything if u ask to do so unless u know them much...
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
5 Feb 12
Yes friend it is not good habit to trust easily on online friend as well as offline friend also. Now most of the young boys are taking the benefit of those person who are easily trust on online friends. Now the big example of this adnan he lost his life he was only 16 years old.
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@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
• India
5 Feb 12
It actually depends on who your trusting even though when you can't really be sure who the person really is, i think it would be foolish to trust someone right away. Just like in real life growing trust for someone needs time, same goes for online relationship. I have heard about the Adnan murder case, it is really sad.
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@ColleenNM (47)
• United States
5 Feb 12
How sad that this happened.... but it happens among people who know each other off line as well ans online.
I have met many people online, some of whom have become dear friends to me in person as well. Of course, it is good to take precautions and be safe -- but over time, people prove themselves.
I have also had people who wanted to be my friend in the hope I would send them money. This was sad to me. Again, though, it could have happened with people I know as well.
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@Ganesh44 (5547)
• India
5 Feb 12
no never its not good to trust someone who become your online friend in few days since he or she may cheat you in the future making you feel betrayed the time we are living in is really not that easy to trust new friends easily unless we know them completely so we must not trust new friends whether online or offline to ensure our safety in all respect .............
Hare Krishna
Ganesh
@Bhadine (594)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
It is okay to make friends online but giving trust should be given with caution. Not all people can be trusted in this world. Even friends in person has the tendency to betray their friends. Trust should only be given to people whom you know from a very long time.
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
5 Feb 12
Yes you are right to make friend is not wrong but trust on them blindly is not good. Now the innocent boy lost his life only due to trust on his online friends who was accused.
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@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
Hello,
That is too sad that is why nowadays it really hqrd totrust people online beacuse we dont know who they really are. That is why my mo is really scared when i am having a chat to someone she keeps telling me that i should be careful always especially in trusting someone. Yes, i keep that in my kind qnd besides i dont meet them up. Haha i just chat for time. I know my mom has a point in thre but i cant even know how to trust those people. I am also scared.
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@surekharathi (14146)
• India
5 Feb 12
Yes friend now nobody can trust on girl or boy. Because both may be danger if somebody is calling you alone on any place then dont accept this offer. Dont trust easily on any online friends if you want to go then go with one more friend. Chatting is different but meeting is danger for life.
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@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
I can't consider it a habit. Habit has nothing to do with trust. I feel so sad for that teenage boy who easily trust someone easily. I think this should serve as a lesson for every one who have the habit of meeting someone online.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
5 Feb 12
Yes friend this is a big lesson for those people who wants to meet with online friend and close them. A good and innocent boy lost the life and he was only 16 years of age.
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@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
5 Feb 12
I think people easily trust someone on the internet because they frequently don't see that person. You are not able to read body language, hear the voice. Also it's considered as special if someone is taking the time to talk to you or write you. I don't think it's a good habit to trust people easily. No matter if it's online. I even think it's a bad habit to believe everything that is told. Also don't believe people who feel the need each time again that you can really trust them and they are not like..
I think it will be hard to know anyone at all. After 10 years your best friend can stab you in the back as well, kill you or rape your kid.
It's not wrong to give turst or make friends (no matter where) but keep asking yourself questions at every story that is told and don't just go meet a stranger (alone).
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@maryldacullo011710 (90)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
If you never meet them in person, it's hard to trust them.People can tell you about themselves, but until you're there with them and seeing for themselves what they really like, all you have is an image that you've built based on what they've said online.As for gaps between talking, I don't see how is this different from the offline world.
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@soulist (2985)
• United States
3 Mar 12
I dont think it is a good idea to trust people online too easily. I take time to get to know a person but even then I still don't tell them important personal information. We talk about things that are of mutual interest like anime or writing or something. It takes me a long time to trust someone offline, it just takes longer to trust someone online.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
i think so too myself. meeting people over the internet is not the best! i mean, why would we want that when we can meet with our friends that is not online. though there are quite a number of people who caan be trusted in the internnet, of course there are amounful of people who are out to scam someone... or worst, hurt them. we should always be ready not to give our trust fully these days.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Feb 12
hi surekharathi welcome back have missed you. I read this and remembered a year or so back here a young woman mylotter had been having an online romance with another young man online., finally the young man arranged to meet her. This was a disaster as she realized he was a controller and that he was actually starting to be a batterer . each time they met he began b y pushing her, then finally he slapped her because she was not ready to commit to him. she had realized she did not even like the man.
He began stalking her and it got to the point where her father had to take out an restraining order with the police to stop this young man from having anything to do with her. finally in desperation the father moved his whole family to another stare including the young woman mylotter. I had not seen any more discussions from her, It could be she was afraid
this horrid young man might find out where she now lived. I do not trust easily online and must know someone before fully trusting them.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
6 Feb 12
Ohhh God aunty really horrible incident. Why people trust easily on unknown people why not understand everywhere is evil. Dont trust on anybody without knowing them dont share any information about income or family members or about our work. I miss you too mam. Where is my sweet friend hardworking girl do you know? I was missing you and her when I was not active here. I dont know why but I feel you both are like my family members. I know we are not see to each other but some time heart feeling is god wish.
@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
6 Feb 12
Hello surekha,
Its terrible how people just get close to someone and take advantage of them.I never trust much on online people because net is a virtual world and you cannot say anyhting about anyone unless you see him/her and talk to him/her.
On the contrary it is also true that all the people are not like these fellows there are people who are really good ones and are real friends.
I never trust much on online people because net is a virtual world and you cannot say anyhting about anyone unless you see him/her and talk to him/her.
On the contrary it is also true that all the people are not like these fellows there are people who are really good ones and are real friends.@surekharathi (14146)
• India
6 Feb 12
Yes friend really this terrible how human being can do this evil activity. Yes now no one is good dont trust on any of them without knowing them. But most of the friends are jealous with our success or income or nature so we should careful.
@nurseclare (2209)
• Philippines
24 Feb 12
Hi sure, i miss you and your responds so much! how are you?
I usually don't trust online friends, i just like them..
It isn't a good habit to fully trust online friends, unless you guys have a very close friend in common and just met in the internet with a friend..
That's a sad story, why he did trust so easily with strangers..
@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
5 Mar 12
yes its true to make online friends, i see self many here to merry with, why you like that, i want to know that you married or not?
