My friends parent's wont let her leave home for college
@arianne_mae_2012 (243)
February 5, 2012 1:45am CST
My friend is graduating this march from high school here in Bicol and she's one of the candidates for valedictorian. Her teachers are encouraging her to apply in the big universities in Manila for college, but her parents don't want her to leave the province! They say she might become "wild" even though she always been good. She think it's because her cousin came back from Manila pregnant, and former schoolmate dropped out from school and he became a drug addict. Her parent are still want to pursue her dream of going to UP or Ateneo. How can she show them that she is mature person and can be trusted?
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@sid556 (30959)
• United States
5 Feb 12
Hi Arianne,
Welcome to MyLot! Well, she can show them that she is the mature person that can be trusted by just standing up for herself and being that person. She is an adult now and even though mom and dad don't agree with her choices, the fact is that they are her choices. She can play the child role and obey mommy and daddy or she can be the adult and do what it is she wants in her life regardless of whether they agree or not. If they don't accept it then that is their choice. They did their part in raising her and now it is time for them to let go. If she holds herself back now just to make them happy then she is not mature enough to be on her own.
@arianne_mae_2012 (243)
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5 Feb 12
That's what i told her, and promise her mom and dad to reassure that she'll be a diligent student and that she'll give nothing to worry about. And if her parents decide to agree, do keep her word and study hard for her future.
I really appreciated that!i hope i can also reach high rates and level, i will do my best to mylot :)
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
my parents agreed to send me to a better school (away from home) since high school until college. Its true that there are a lot of temptations but its really up to your friend if she wants to join the fun or stay grounded.
I survived student life as expected and thankful that i was able to balance everythng. It was really hard. I had my moments, bad times with bad company.. Enjoyed a lot during happy hours.. And got through almost every bumps without anybody helping me out.
@fortunebee (509)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
A person's attitude can be strongly influenced by the environment and especially the people around them. It will be a challenge for your friend to make the adjustment when she is allowed to study in Manila, however, all the outcome that happens in her life depends on the decisions she makes.
The decision she makes is how well she has been prepared by her parents. How well the academics will coincide with the common sense in her adult life. Having a good head on her shoulders is how she can achieve her goals and her parents who wants her to go to U.P. or Ateneo. The parents need that assurance and trust in their daughter in how they have raised her properly.
When her parents allow her to pursue the university in Manila, remind your friend to surround herself with positive people!
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
5 Feb 12
it only mean her parents does not trust their daughter when it comes to her decision. maybe it because of her current attitude, every parents want their daughter success and not become failure. they may be doubt of her upbringing may change and become influence by the new lifestyle so for the reason being far from their care and eyes. Her parents may only trust her if she show some change of her attitude.
