People depend on me too much

I was in your same situation, too, when I was younger. All my classmates know me only when they copy my homewoorks and after they say horrible think to me. Now, it isn't like that and I have a lots of friends in a new school.

thats unfair for you why you did not blamed too them if they started to blamed you?/ you can say, its your problem..why are you angry with me, if i cant give solution to you??

It sounds like you need to learn your limits with people and begin saying no to people when you are overwhelmed. You are right. It is not fair for people to blame you when your help doesn't produce the result they wanted. In fact, this seems that you are not appreciated. Being kind hearted is a beautiful thing but don't condemn yourself to being a door mat. Having limits is completely acceptable and healthy. Be good to yourself.

I can kind of understand how you feel with this, as I am often the person who people rely on to get work done and things like that. I have often been the leading member in group work and the rest of the group have just sat and done nothing while I have had to stress myself out and get all of the work done. This isn't fair by any means, and it is something that needs to be sorted out in the future if I am ever going to be happy. We should never be relied upon, as that is far too much responsibility to be placed on the shoulders of any one person.

Ahh, so you are a helper, is what you're saying! LOL. I hope these people don't take you for granted, they are lucky to have someone like you in their lives!

I think that while helping people is all very good and all, there are times where you can get something rather frustrating going. Where people tend to come for you for every little thing. They don't have the ability to think things through themselves, they don't have the ability to solve the problems themselves, and thus it is just going to be something where they just come up empty. No one person has all of the answers. I can give you advice that might work, it might not work. However, there are just going to just blindly follow everything I said, with any thought to themselves, then it is hardly the fault of the person given the advice. But some people naturally tend to like to take none of the blame. It makes me want to beat my head against a wall.

That is really unfair. The next time friends or classmates ask for your help or ask for your advice, why not try saying some sort of disclaimer. I mean, you could tell them that this is your opinion or this is what you're gonna do but make it clear to them that there's no assurance that it'll work and let them decide if they want to follow your advice or your help or not. If they agree and it doesn't turn out well, then they have no one else to blame but themselves :)

Hi Arianne Mae, Per your stated message, they are your friends...being a friend, you just want to help them and let them know that you're always there for them. But it is always inevitable to encounter such people that could not appreciate what you have done to them, and even has the courage to blame you even just in a manner of joking. For you, it is normal to feel the way are and if it's natural for you to lend a helping hand, you better know the people before giving them advices, and always remind them that you're just giving your opinion but they're still the one to make the decision and it is always up to them which and what to do. In that case, you can just let them know your stand if it is you in their situation thus giving them the chance to think and decide what to follow and not to follow. You don't have to blame yourself, besides trusting their problems to you means that they ask for your opinion. So be it. You're just giving your views. Hope this will give you peace of mind. Good luck and happy mylotting.

that good for you it mean they trust your advices and for any opinion you could give to them. it rare to trust any person nowadays especially your secret not to reveal since some are betray. so you have a special gift since you been trusted and your words are being heard. to trust need a lot of trust and good character you must posses such behavior.

I can sense that you are a good friend however if you are letting your friends to depend on you too much seems like you are teaching them to be parasites. Parasites because they are depending to you. If they are blaming you sometimes it is a wake up call that they don't appreciate your efforts and they are so self-centered. You have to let them grow up and face their own problems since you also have your life.

dont worry about it,Its not what people think about you that count, Be who you are and say what you feel because In the end the ones that mind dont matter and the ones that matter dont mind.... Trust and self confidence is essential for survival here......if u think our past is bad,its only creating way for a clear future.After some time you will realise that you tried to help them and they did accept the help.....If u feel that you are not accepted,jus rememba No matter how dirty your past is,your future is and will be spotless

I know exactly how you feel. I finally gave up and told people that theres nothing I can do to help because they were stressing me out so bad with their problems. But yes I agree that it is unfair for others to even go as far as to blame you when they do try to help. But deal with it the best way that you can. Let people know that you have your own problems too.