I fell in love twice with a wrong guy

I'm so sorry to hear about your love story. There is nothing wrong with you, I guess you are just too kind that your husband and significant other cheats because they think they can easily get away with it. It is wise that you did not take them back. Better to be alone than be cheated with guys. Hopefully someone will come to truly love you and never hurt you.

Hi friend, to see your discusision i felt very very sad for left many time, now you engaged or not?

Firstly, if your avatar is a photo of you then you are actually quite lovely. You are like me, fully trusting and loving forgiving and generous. The way I see it there are people who are mean and nasty and untrue and their victims. It's all about balance you see. You, like me, fall in love with people who will ultimately hurt you. Your self esteem is badly damaged as is your ego. You need to become stronger and to love yourself more. Until you love yourself properly, no-one can love you as you deserve to be loved. It took me a long time to figure this out and so I now know I am better off and happier on my own. You are younger than me and so you still have time to find the one who is right for you. Try not to give too much too soon, hold back till you are sure he truly loves you. Be true to yourself always.

You are not the only one who experienced this. I know some women who have been cheated on by their husbands. The husbands left them and got married to others without them knowing it. Just persevere with it. One day, there will one who will take care of you. I am sure of that.

Cheeeers! Hindi ka nag-iisa... many people are not given relationship seriously as it is... broken family and relationship is real problems... sad to hear that it happened to you... I hope you will find comfort in spite of this situation you have go through... and learn from it to be better person. Don't lose heart, there a better future awaits for you. Please trust God.

hi yahnee really really sorry to hear about your story, I just felt bad hearing such things especially that you are saying you are a thoughtful, forgiving and very generous woman and people are telling you that you have a kind heart, you don't deserve this heart aches, but it does happen and we can't do anything about it but accept it because in my opinion it's worse if you keep fighting for someone who already gave up on you, just try to live happily despite this sorrows you've been through. I hope one day those guys will realize that they've made a big mistake in doing that to you.

hello ,my friend. i have seem and it has also happen to me, but one thing i found out is that, it better to fall in love with someone who u do not like but love or loves u so very much, this is my reason, when guy found out, u love them so much they start to misbehavior in all manners, because they believers that when they go and come, u will here for them, but not all come back to their ex love ,some because they were not love by their new call lovers, and some, nature turn back against them. so, my dear friend , i sure, u might have try calling back but nothing good is happen, best thing is to forget about him, move ahead with life .Please a new guy will come on very soon but do nt fall in love but let him fall for u. And with kind heart, that will lead u in life.

It maybe right that your unlucky enough to pick a right guy in your arms. But you can still pick the right one soon... I am also in great depress about that situation because our fate is different. I am the one who hurt with my partner but I don't say this is a kind of bad luck but this might be seems that way because I pick a wrong lady...which always give me pain at all and makes me depress all days in my life...really sad that there are ladies like a man which is want more and not contented with only one because of money...

sooner or later the right one will come along, one who is God sent, and one who would see your kind heart. don't despair and don't get depressed, life goes on and surely you need to have the proper perspective to live your life. by the end of the day, there is always someone up there who would surely guide you in the decisions you make, and hopefully the right one would find you soon.

My hubby was there in your country as visiting professor, he has good friends in Davao, Cebu , Manila etc, he was telling me, such situation is common in your country because of the high female to male ratio and because there is no divorce.. you are certainly a kind woman, but it would be good if you file for annulment, though that costs several thousand Peso. Happy posting, cheers. Kalyani

It is hard to say. I let my fiancé go because the only thing I wanted him to be is happy (his mother was the problem here and he was too much coward to go for me, so I left behind alone, 17 years old and pregnant). I did exactly the same with my ex husband for many years, I tried with him 3 times all over again. In the end I left. 3 Children the youngest a baby. I did the same with my bf (who never accepted his 2 children) after years of trying. They all had other gf's/relationships btw. And after me they all still had them. Except for no. 1 the others kept stalking/bothering me for years. They all turned out to be big losers, ofcourse left their gf's too, left them behind with kids too, have no cent to spend, etc etc. There was a moment I thought it would have been better if I had fought for what I wanted instead of letting them go. But if I see them now I can't even imagine what I ever saw in them. I am also very happy I made it alone (although it was very hard and it still is). I think if I would have been sharing my life with them I probably killed myself or been in the mental hospital already since years. So no regrets. My only advice is: make a list of your likes and dislikes and be picky! No matter what people say or think about that. It's the only way to find someone who really adores you and is willing to show that too. And this will only happen if you believe in yourself, love yourself, find it worth to be pampered. So start doing this with yourself and live your own life! If you start a new relationship he has to add a lot of extra/great things to your life, otherwise it's useless and way better to stay alone.

hello yahnee, i am really sorry for what happened to you. but i would like you to tell that do not make yourself granted for others. people when came to know about your weakness and dependency on them they tend to take you as granted and give no second thought of hurting you. so all these worst experience might have helped you in becoming a strong person both mentally and judgmentally. try to be generous but not for those who actually do not deserve your forgiveness. take care. Best Wishes.

I am sorry for you that you were unlucky in love twice. I have been married twice. I had a lot of boyfriends when I was young but I married the first time when I was only 19, and then I divorced after about 5 years and two children then I married again and am still with my second husband. I wish you better luck with your next love. Good Luck, my friend.

hello yahnee.. Sad to hear that from you. I think there's nothing wrong with you.You just gave love.You just did, and you gave your all. That's the pathetic part of being in love that you gave it your best shot but unfortunately it's nothing for them. But I know god has his purpose for everything.Just believe in him and he will take the rest.Not just the rest but eventually the best. Goodluck.

You know yahnee, you're beautiful inside and out. I am really sure GOD has a much better plan for you. Just don't give up. If there is life, there is hope. It is GOD who is the one who gives us a prudent husband or wife as what is written in Proverbs 19:14. "Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD." In GOD's will and perfect time, GOD will give it to you. Search Him first and leave everything in His hands.

I would say to let it go to me he does not deserve you! if you have to fight for love it means the love was not there in the first place! go on with your life and make the best of it for your self! you deserve it...good luck.

it really up to the man conscience if you fight for him and he accept you but if you fight for a longer time and it has no effect. it think there is no need to cling to him longer when he show no remorse or guilt from what he done to you. all you need to do is to move on and start fresh again. if ever you could love another man.make sure your the only one and he never get tempt with other woman.

I definitely think it was just bad luck. Unless you tend to go for a certain type of guy. Do you tend to go for men who have the tendency to stray? If it's only two guys who have done this to you, then I honestly think it's coincidental and I think you'll end up finding a man who treats you how you deserve to be treated and won't disrespect you like the others have!

You didn't do anything wrong you just got unlucky.Be brave don't let your past dictate your future.Those dummies are your EXES and now it's time to move on.If you let their stupidity rule your life now,then you're still giving them more of your time than they ever deserved.I hope #3 is your knight in shining armour

Hi yahnee, so sorry that you are really meeting and falling for some real azzholes...I don't what is going wrong but I just think is so wrong for either spouse start another relationship with another before ending the relationship they are in.. I wouldn't think that anything is wrong with you based on the way that you described yourself...Just hold your head up high and get your self-esteem back up high...hold your own...you don't need a man to define who you are. there are some good men in this world and I am sure that one day you will meet one for you that will love you unconditionally... Time truly heals all...hang in there...your knight in shining armor will show up on the scene...