help me please !!! Check the description :(
@Glenmercerrolls (15)
February 5, 2012 6:37pm CST
My friends treat me like rubbish and don't respect me ! I try to mix with more and more people but already have a poor reputation and I haven't really done anything wrong! Just people spread rude remarks and these people are my so called friends! If I leave them it might increase the matter and in retro spect I'll be lonely whereas if I stay with my friends I'll be unhappy cause I know they treat me badly yet I won't be alone! and as I'm young there no opportunies to move away start afresh!
I have already turned to social media and have gained huge followings on twitter hitting over 100,000 followers already
But these can never replace real friends :(
The problem with my so called friends is that when I turn to them they can't hold my secrets so I have grew to not trust them! They lie about me and spread rumours they call me names and always get into arguments with me! Yet although they treat me badly I have no one else to turn to!
I have already slowed down the rate I which I see them, and conceal myself away because again there is no opportunies to meet new people gain trust and I am stuck :(
Please offer your advise in this matter!
And Thankyou for your time!
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6 responses
@roberten (3128)
• United States
6 Feb 12
Glenmercerrolls, I will lend you my personal motto: "I do not need anyone to help me 'do badly', I can do that all by myself." Quit looking to your friends for validation, look internally to discover why your self-esteem is so low as to allow others to treat you badly. Get yourself right and others will treat you right because, if they don't ,you won't tolerate them nor their mess. Man-up and love the person that you are.
@wajeehamaryam33 (2)
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6 Feb 12
Yes , I totally agree.instead of self-pitying u should think about what u r doing wrong. Are you honestly sincere with your friends.ask ur self,look deep to get the true answer,do u really really really... feel about ur friends the same way u urself want to want to b treated? Really? One thing iv lrnt in life is that every relationship needs constant,conscious effort to b healthy and fruitful.otherwise the only thing left would b resentment and dissatisfaction,it will rot from inside.i feel love always responds with even more love,its all upto us.As they say "the more you let yourself go,the less others let you go. may God help you,stay blessed! :-)
@silence777 (121)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
If your friends are being not nice, you should find better friends.
Or maybe your just being too sensitive?
If they tease you or play tricks on you, just "go with the flow" don't get upset or mad or else they will tease and make fun of you much more.
And learn how to fight if they gets too far.
Hope I helped. :)
@angelwithkids (1256)
• United States
6 Feb 12
i was recently told that if you want to change your surroundings, you need to change yourself. it's usually the first step. it sounds like you've started in the right direction. slowing down contact with some of those so-called friends. if you believe in God, then start praying for Him to bless them, as He blesses them, He'll bless you. Continue being yourself, others will see that your reputation doesn't describe the real you. It won't happen overnight, but if you keep working it every day, you'll start seeing a difference in your life and you'll be happier.
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
You could try really talking to them. I mean, sit them down and ask what really is the problem and why they're treating you that way. But do it individually. Don't talk to them as a group. It could be that only one person is instigating this and the rest are just influenced by that person. Usually, there's at least one person amongst your friends who does not really want to be mean or rude but he or she's might not be strong enough to go up against the group or the dominant person in that group.
@joystick (1675)
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6 Feb 12
My friend had a friend just like what you are saying.She has had enough of all the back stabbing that this friend as well as another friend were doing and I am going to tell you now, she is a lot happier for not having them around.My friend stays at home and she plays wife as well as a mother, so she is a lot older than you, but one of these friends she has had for a lot of years and like I say, she wishes she had parted company with this one years ago, as all she is, is a back stabber and a gossip.I know it can be hard to start to make new friends again and I know it is no fun just chatting on the internet, but trust me you are better off with out them.Find yourself a job or change your job if you can, that is if you work with them and that way you will get new friends.There are also other ways of meeting new people and these people belong to groups.Keep your chin up and keep a smile on your face for all to see.
@annelisle71 (275)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
Hi @Glenmercerrolls!
I think that you are obviously mixing with the wrong kind of friends and I believe that you are better off without them. A true friend never lets you down nor spread rude remarks about you. A true friend is someone who criticize you because he/she wants to be become a better person and never put you down. If you have rude people around you, then, they are not worthy to be your friend.
If you think you are doing the right thing and have never stepped on anybody, don't worry. Good friends will come your way. Just be yourself and never pretend to be a person you're not just to win their friendship.
There's a saying that goes, "Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you are." The kind of friends or people you hang out with will tell something about you and I don't think you will be happy to be friends with backbiting people and rude ones.
So, it is not your loss if you don't have a million worthless friend. One true and faithful friend is worth more than gold. So make quality friends instead of quantity friends.
Thanks for reading this post!
