Friend please help me

@dilrajj57 (1757)
Pakistan
February 5, 2012 10:56pm CST
Hi Friends of mylot, please would you like help me and tell me what i do? i am already married but now one a girls 25 year age start with me love affairs and she wanted wants marriage with me, but my ex-wife will not accept so, now what i do, i also want this girls as she very love with me and if i refused she will fall in very trouble and will very sad, pleas now yo tell me what i do?
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@nyang1984 (464)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
hi! dilrajj57 If you’re already divorced with your wife think a hundred times before marrying again. Maybe for now you love/like that girl but how about the following days??? Maybe the situation you had previously might repeat again if you won't think twice. And you're going to hurt this girl probably.
@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
7 Feb 12
friend not already divorced with my wife now. I love with new girls but i also love with x wife too. i want that if new girl want me then she will accept my x wife too, meaning live together. but i not told my ex wife in this matter.
@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
7 Feb 12
friend not already divorced with my wife now. I love with new girls but i also love with x wife too. i want that if new girl want me then she will accept my x wife too, meaning live together. but i not told my ex wife in this matter.
@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
7 Feb 12
friend not already divorced with my wife now. I love with new girl but i also love with x wife too. i want that if new girl want me then she will accept my x wife too, meaning live together. but i not told my ex wife in this matter.
@mavil85 (348)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
do you need the permission of you ex-wife to marry your current girlfriend? because i think that is the rule in Islam, you need the permission of the first wife. if that is the case, talk to your first wife, everything can be settled with communication. weigh the advantages and disadvantages. then only you can make the final decision.
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@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
7 Feb 12
hi friend mavil85, your good reply, in Islam it is must to inform the first wife as we know that Islam permission for more but with agreement and to deal good with everyone not ignore to any, meaning some rights have give them. thank you for reply.
@mavil85 (348)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
have you asked your first wife of her permission? because i think that would be your only problem if she doesn't agree, if she doesn't, poor girl you have there you cant marry her.
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@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
7 Feb 12
hi friend, still now i have not asked my first wife for her permission. You right think that is problem and you told about her that if she the x wife doesn't poor then i cannot marry the other new girl, really the first is already my close relative family girl, but the new girl is also problem for me as she love and want me. i thing about her and dont like to see her sad.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
10 Feb 12
You are already married to someone or have been married? If you are already married than you need to only be with your wife, but if you are divorced, it should be yours and her decision where this romance should proceed from and not your Ex wifes. Even if there is children I would think you should be the one to choose. But like I said if you are married better off to leave her alone and work on what you have before you.
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@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
10 Feb 12
Thanks of friend nice suggestion to me about confusion in which front of me, what to do and what not. My X wife here not divorced system in my place, here up to 3 wife kept by some people. If a woman want to re-leave from husband the she claimed in court for re leaving from husband, is she not do so, the she remain continue sly man wife with other wives too and living together. but i know my X wife will not agree for this.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Feb 12
The honest truth is that you need to stay away from this other woman while you are married. Now, if you are in the process of getting a divorce, then you should go through that process before you persue a relationship with this other woman. If you are having problems with your current wife, having an affair with another woman is not going to help you at all in the process of going through a divorce. I certainly hope that things work out for the best for you.
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@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
10 Feb 12
Hi Dear Friend, Thank you for your suggestion you said that as honest truth i may need to stay away from the other woman, while i am married, but now i thinking for other desired and for other pleasure life too, means that i i should also look to the other new girls desired too as she not be in sadness for me then i can stay away from that, but if she want me from heart, then i thing about her heart that she not become in difficult. The other thing i also take care of my X wife too for her life and for her pleasure.
• Hungary
7 Feb 12
hello if you already divorce with your x-wife so go for it for that girl who love you so much.
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@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
7 Feb 12
Friend aizabasiga, that is the problem the i not want to divorce x wife and the other new girls want merry with me hard, hard love she is with me.
@boylopez (382)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
Your married, if you married again the case file against you is bigamy. Friend don't make a things that in the future you will suffer.
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@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
7 Feb 12
thank you friend for your reply, but the other she want to marry with me.
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
If you're not yet divorced or your marriage to your ex-wife hasn't been officially annulled, then you really can't marry the other girl. Otherwise you could be sued for bigamy. Well, this is the case in my country. I advise that you consult your country's laws regarding marriages. If however there are no legal impediments, I mean, there are no laws that would prevent you from marrying again, then you could marry even if your ex-wife doesn't approve of it since she no longer has any legal hold on you.
@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
7 Feb 12
Okey Friend beamer88, you briefed me about the divorce and annulled, In rules in our country nothing for other marriage, but is one is not want to husband she keep rights to free for husband if in in difficult.
@Graceekwenx (3160)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
Hi Dilrajj! In the first place, does this girl know that you are married? She should be able to understand that.
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@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
7 Feb 12
hi dear friend, you said very well but now it upon she, i already told her, still she not leave to deal with me.
@Bhadine (594)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
If you are no longer in love with your wife then file a divorce so you and your new girl will get married. As they said if you do not want to be in a great trouble you shouldn't have done having relationship in another woman. But since you are already there, choose..
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@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
7 Feb 12
friend your reply that i no longe in love with my wife the file a divorce. Here no any divorce many can manage for 1 or 2 or 3 marriage. in religious its allowed but due to keep that to happy other should not be done.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
6 Feb 12
I really don't know anything about your religion, so i can't say what is right to do. But here in the Philippines, if you are already annulled in your marriage, then you are already free to marry again.
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@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
7 Feb 12
Friend in our religious we allowed 4 marriage, but in the religious it mentioned that if you can, its meaning that if any one efforts two or three or four marriage then he allowed but if any one not efforts more then not allowed,
@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
6 Feb 12
Hello Dirajj, I would suggest you not marry that girl as unnecessarily you will destroy 2 lives by doing so. Try to persuade that girl and tell her that you can't leave your wife.BTW don't you love your wife?.Is your relation not good with your wife?.If it is so then you may go for divorce and then marry that girl.
@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
7 Feb 12
yes friend, you give me suggestion, i try for that and will try to new wanted girl who want with me.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
6 Feb 12
dilrajj, your post is kind of confusing...are you still married or divorced..you call her your ex-wife...so if she is your ex-wife, whats the problem with marrying the 25 year old... What do you mean if you refuse she will fall in trouble.. If you love her and want to marry her then go for it...your ex-wife should not be in the way if she is your ex.....
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@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
7 Feb 12
ok friend than you for your reply, i self really in confusing, think what should done she want me really and she know that i am already married person, but instead of this she want me.