He is cute and rich... but I don't think we will fit.

Philippines
February 6, 2012 9:07pm CST
I just came home from the grocery store and I again saw the Chinese owner of the local grocery store which I frequent. I have been noticing him because I always caught him staring at me and just this day, he approached the stall where I was getting an item and talked to the sales lady, joking with her. The guy is really cute and he is rich. But I don't think we will fit each other because one, we have different culture and another, he never had the courage to actually introduce himself. Though I know he knows my mom and my niece who usually goes to his grocery store. Anyone here who's been to a relationship that initially they thought they would not fit but still got into a relationship? Can you share your experience and thoughts about it?
6 responses
enelym001
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
HI snowhy, I think this is not the best time to judge whether you and the guy won't fit with each other. He hadn't come to you or talk to you directly yet so it's still really early to know whether the staring he makes means that he likes to know you or just attracted to you. But if he ever gets the courage to come to you, introduced himself to you and asked you out. Never let the chance slipped. Better to get to him first and then see whether you two can make the relationship work.
snowhybiscuis
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
Hello enelym001. It's nice to hear suggestion coming from you. Don't you think it would be too forward? You know, I'm still from old school and quite shy. Thanks again for your advise. Have a great day ahead!!!
Jkct02
@jkct02 (2874)
• Kota Kinabalu, Malaysia
7 Feb 12
Have you ever come across someone whom you knew would fit into a relationship with you? If you have such an ability to foresee things, I assure you yourself will get rich in a very short period - then you will be like him - cute and rich! :) Anyway, from what you said, it was only your opinion that he likes you. It may be true or it may not. Since your impression of him is not bad, I think at least he is fit to become a friend for you. Don't worry too much about whether you two fit or not. Time will tell. If you and him can get along well, your relationship with him will develop from friends to lovers later. If not, there is no harm to have a new friend.
snowhybiscuis
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
Hello jkct02. You know, you are right. I may just be thinking that he likes me. But the next time I see him, I will just try to smile at him and see where it will lead to. I said that we were not fit because he was soooo rich. But that does not matter much to me. I am not insecure and I have a good job so I can actually interact with anyone of different status. Thanks for your reply and have a nice day!!!
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Jkct02
@jkct02 (2874)
• Kota Kinabalu, Malaysia
7 Feb 12
I think it is not fair to judge people by how much money he has. Regardless whether he is poor or rich, you should just treat him as someone you can be a friend with. You make it as if being rich is bad :) or needs to adjust for. You are a confident and well-manner lady. I am sure a lot of qualified bachelors will want to know you. Take your time. Just act naturally. After 3 smiles later, he certainly will not be so shy anymore. God speed!
mr_pearl
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
7 Feb 12
Hi... If you have never talked with him, how can you know that you don't match each other??? Don't be afraid of welcoming love in your life... If the guy is genuine then go with it... Don't go for those looks or riches, they won't last; but a good heart will never die, go for that... He is probably shy and fears that you will say something that will hurt his feelings for you... If he is shying then you take the initiative... Just remember, before giving your heart away make sure that he is the right person... Take care...
snowhybiscuis
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
Hello mr_pearl. Thanks for the advise. The problem is, I'm quite shy too. Lol. Anyway, you are right. I should not judge him prior to hearing him talk. My grandfather told me that to see what's within the person's heart, listen well to what he is saying. Have a great day!!!
dynasty790715
@dynasty790715 (20)
• China
7 Feb 12
Are you sure you two made a spark of love with each other only no courage from him? anyway,go ahead please to clarify it.i am from china,sincierly hope can help you. please share with me if anyupdate.
snowhybiscuis
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
Hello dynasty790715. You know, I am not really sure. I grew up in this community and had been seeing him for so long already. I actually grew up buying on that store and we never met. There are times that he would come to the counter and pack my things despite that he's the owner. But we never get to introduce ourselves to each other. I am quite shy and I don't usually take the first step in introduction. And there are no instances that somebody would be able to introduce us to one another. Anyway, I'll try first the suggestions of our friends here. I will just smile first and try to be comfortable if ever he's around. I'll tell you if it gets improvement. But if not, still, I'll share my relationship stories here. Thanks for supporting me. Have a great day!!!
luckygrey67
@luckygrey67 (765)
• Indonesia
7 Feb 12
How do you know about relationship fit or not without try it before ? Sometimes difference in relationship can be interesting than if you make a relationship with someone who know you everything. You will get bore. You can try and give a chance to him....and then you can feel and judge about your relationship. Is it fit or not.....
snowhybiscuis
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
Hello luckygrey67. You know, the responses of the people here to give it a try excites me. Lol. I'll try your suggestions and see where it will leads to. I just hope that I will get the courage though. I'm quite shy too.
soaring_06
@soaring_06 (2)
•
7 Feb 12
There are many relationships which are considered as impossible initially, but develop into a true relationship in the end. Do not close your heart before love. Since he is a nice guy, and you two have different culture background, it's good to have a foreign friend. I'd like to have a foreign friend all the time. Also love is not always been found in the first sight and from the first feeling, wish you good luck, and of course, the first thing you have to do is talk to him.
snowhybiscuis
@snowhybiscuis (1882)
• Philippines
7 Feb 12
Hello soaring_06. It's nice to hear that. You are right. Having a foreign friend adds sparks to life. Thanks for that thought. Either we become friends or not. I'll be friendly towards him should I get to meet him. Have a nice day ahead!!!