Do you afraid of being single?
By dandan07
@dandan07 (1906)
China
February 7, 2012 4:27am CST
Last month was the Spring Festival, all the relatives get together to celebrate the traditional festival. Being single have been a big problem for me, all the relatives asked the same question that why you are still being single. They thought I should find a partner as soon as possible and get married and set up a family.
I enjoyed single life, and do not want to end up soon. But being single at my age seems a great fault in their eyes.
What can i do?
8 responses
@Piloncitos (305)
• Philippines
14 Feb 12
I seem to understand that the reason of you being single is that you actually chose that path. Your relatives may not understand it for now. But the next time they ask you why you're still single, tell them: "Yeah, I should have a boyfriend by now. Can you recommend someone for me?" I'm sure they will give you someone who is good and will never do you harm. After all, they're your relatives.
Happy Valentine's Day! Xie xie!
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@dandan07 (1906)
• China
7 Mar 12
Thank you for your advice.
Now i try us the way o get me a boyfriend.
It seems that all of my friends are not single now, and many of them became parents. I hope I can have a boyfriend as soon as possible and have a cute child.
That is good thing in my life.
@Piloncitos (305)
• Philippines
8 Mar 12
Getting into a serious relationship or marriage is not a race? Would you rather be married to the wrong guy today only to regret about it later? Or would you rather be married later and be with the guy who will take you no matter who you are? You decide.
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@dandan07 (1906)
• China
16 Apr 12
Develop and keep a serious relationship is a very important things.
If choose the wrong guy, my life will be exhausted and sadness. So I try to take time and energy to find the right guy.
But my parents and people around me do not think so.
But in other word, there is nothing to do with them.
I will make progress by my own.
Thank you very much for your care.
@Janurmas (642)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 13
I am not afraid of being single. I enjoy being single. But I also want to get married with someone that really loves me. Now I am looking for a girl. There are a list of girls that I would like to know about them. I hope one of them can be my marriage partner later. Just enjoy your life being single.
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@Junesun84 (4)
• China
8 Feb 12
yes, i am afraid of being along for the whole life.
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@megalia (60)
• Indonesia
2 Mar 12
hi there.. I have read all of the comment on this discussion and i read that u never been in a relationship... i have some suggestion for you.. first, maybe u can try to find a right person (i mean don't simply choose one person to be in a relationship, cause many people out there is thinking a negative way in earning money - i told you this is not to make you afraid but it is my bad experience) and having a relationship cause i read that u don't have any energy to keep on a good relationship so finding a right person is important even u still need to spend a bit energy on it.. but at least u can still concentrate on your job. Understanding is very important in any relationship. and second one, maybe u can simply find a person to be in a relationship just to have an experience on how to keep a good relationship, to understand how the way a guy or a girl think about having relationship and if their good for you and serious in the relationship, u can be easy to keep on a good relationship. this is the way i think, still you are the one to choose which one is good for you.
if you ask me do I afraid of being single? of course Yes if I'm old enough to worry about it. but now, i enjoy my single life. maybe it is because i have a bad experience so till now i still afraid in having a relationship. this make my mom worry and afraid that i don't have a spouse later.. ^^
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@dandan07 (1906)
• China
16 Apr 12
Choose the right person is the first and most important step for developing a serious relationship. But to me, I find that I can not find the right one. Many people think I want to choose a perfect one, so I can not get one.
I think I just want a man with Bachelor degree and independent. But many boys here even in their 30s called their parents money for a live. I really do not choose that one as my boyfriend or husband.
@sedrasmith (25)
• India
13 Feb 12
Have you ever been in a relationship before? If NO then your parents worrying about you are right from their point of view. I suggest you to at-least try to get in a relationship may be then you will enjoy life more? but may be not. but what i am trying to say is first experience what it feels like in a relationship and then if you can continue then go on otherwise continue to be a single.
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@dandan07 (1906)
• China
14 Feb 12
I have never been in a relationship before. There are many reasons for that. So my parents are worried about me, as they are afraid of i am lacking of the ability to keep and develop a relationship.
But i can make friends easliy, but till now i do not find that there is anyone who i want to have a relationship with. Most of them are suitable for a friend not for a partner.
@li123456li (101)
• China
7 Feb 12
I think you should find a partner because the press from social will become bigger and bigger if you keep being single and keeping single dosn't condcive to your development.
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@dandan07 (1906)
• China
8 Feb 12
My relatives make me feel that if I am single, I am a loser.
So maybe find a partner will let the social pressure away from me, but to keep a good relationship takes a lot of time and energy. I now try to start my career and do not have energy time to take care of a relationship. That is the biggest problem.
Thank you fro your attention.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
7 Feb 12
Does it matter what others think about your life style? The most important thing is you feel happy. You will always meet people, no matter where you live, who will find it weird you are not married. And you will always, no matter where you live/are, meet unhappy married people. That is how life is. Ignore it and do what is best for you and makes you happy. It's your life.
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@dandan07 (1906)
• China
7 Feb 12
I now keep my own lifestyle is very important.
But I am not a strong person. When my parents and relatives talk with me about marriage every day and night, it makes me crazy.
I know if I getting married, they will stop doing that to me, but i think i am not ready for a marriage now.
Thank you for your attention.
