We should be away first before she realizes our importance.
By airasheila
@airasheila (5454)
Philippines
February 7, 2012 11:41pm CST
Good day Fellow Mylotters,
I am really thinking if it is really hard to show appreciation towards your fellow. That, as a parent, is it difficult to show it to your child whenever she have done something extra mile. Well, I am just trying to figuring it out, as my mom really does not know how to show appreciation to us her children. That she just realized our importance whenever we are not here in our home. Hence, we should be away before our mom realized our importance. Just like now that my sister was away and assigned out of town due to her job assignment. That due to my sister absence, my mom is now asking, how is my sister then. It is somehow sad, that, we should be away first before she realizes our importance.
2 responses
@mintbee (6)
• China
8 Feb 12
yep, admittedly, many parents, especially those who grew up in 40-50's,even before, were not able to show their love or appreciation to their children. taking a extreme example, most couple grew up in that time even could not say "I love you" to each other. So I sense that it is not your mother's fault. she might feel so shy to express her emotion to children. Therefore, only when you or your sister leave home, can she share the miss to the other children.
If you really want to change this condition, i suggest you to communicate with your mother, tell her that her appriciation is quite important for you, and you and your sister is quite eager to know that mom is love her children very much. Through this way, you may encourage your mother to show her love, and find the problem.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
8 Feb 12
hi there mintbee,
honestly, i have already done that move. but, apparently, my mom is just taking it for granted.
@Archaiwy (599)
• China
9 Feb 12
yeah,i agree with you. While my mother alive i didn't think of how i could show more fealty to my mother,i thought she would live longer.But It was just after she passed away that i notice that i hardly do something to my mother.The focus is on my work ,my family and my child.I always thought as soon as my child has grown up , i would look after my mother more.But it was too late.And now what i always think of in my mind is just regret regret and regret.So i decide that i will write something to dedicate my mother after my child goes to college.
