i think i forgot the feeling..
By daniel_chang
@daniel_chang (75)
Philippines
February 9, 2012 3:22am CST
I am missing something here. I think i miss the feeling of being inlove and being loved by others. During my single time (i dont consider myself single right now that i have my child with me) i used o have lots of suitors. Its either classmates or friends. I dont know what love was then but i miss the feeling of goosebumps and chills as i receive messages from my suitors.
Aside from other people loving me, i also have my family. My dad always papers me with toys and treating me like his little girl. That's why i grew up as a papa's girl. My mom usually visits me at my dads place (my dad is assigned at the city and my mom is assigned at the rural areas due to there job) and want me to stay with her. I felt to LOVED and maybe inlove those days.
Things changed, my family now lives in one house, me, mom, dad and my son. they are all shouting and we dont have those laughing conversation anymore. I mean i miss the family bonding the discussions, the hikes we sometimes make with my mom the meal my dad we used to order aat fast food and the chilli sauce my brother usually eat when it is saturday.
What do you think i coulld do to smoothing out?
I mean if the problem is me (they always are arguing about my laziness and irresponsibility)? i was raised this way... As they say "you cant teach an old dog new tricks". The only thing i can think of to make them happy is earn money for them. I cant, am less experienced to earn money. I was raised with a silver spoon in my mouth(not to brag but we're not that rich i am just that spoiled) even i have my own child. Actually i was thinking of running away but i think because of my laziness i cant do it(just kidding).
what do i have to do???
7 responses
@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
11 Feb 12
Looks like you are having a family crisis there. Mine is already ended. They divorced. Once a blissful family is now nothing more but ashes of pain. In your situation, there may still be a turning point though. you mentioned that their fought about you right? if that's the case, you should tell them that you are willing to change and you don't want to see them fight again because you guys are a family. after that, act and change who you are. This is for your own and family sake.
@Leocen (178)
• China
10 Feb 12
if you want your problem solved ,the excuse of raised with a silver spoon should also be put away~~
why not be independent?why don't stand on your own feet?
you've grown up as an adult with a child,you have to make your own life with your son. three generations together always has shouting,i understand,maybe you really have to try hard to earn money to live in a house which is seperated from your parents,or you could have a talk with your hubby,to make your own life
@mr_pearl (5018)
• India
10 Feb 12
hello.. I can sense a lot of complications mingled with confusions... First of all, you need to stop the blame game and start figuring out what has gone wrong... Once all of you, together, find the cause, it is easy to fix it... Blame game will break your unity and after some time no one will ever know the cause...
Take care...
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
10 Feb 12
since admittedly confessing your laziness and being a spoiled brat, then probably it would be of significance to you and your family as well if you could take the initiative to change! i do think you should start reassessing your status [especially having a child of your own], and it is quite important to have the tendency towards to make yourself better in terms of not having to depend on other people.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
10 Feb 12
Here is what I confused about your discussion. You were saying that you miss the feeling of be loved, by other men mostly, about your age, and some suitors. Now you are jumping to your family, and you want to contribute something to this family financially and ask advice for it? Now, all you need to do just find a real man who really love your or provide what you need, in financially secure. Or you have to tough up yourself, and get a real job. It means if you have to work for a fast food restaurant, you must suck it up too.
@shylade (3132)
• Philippines
10 Feb 12
its not an excuse to say you were raised that way to not change for the better. remember you have your own son and you have the responsibility to him. its not also excuse to say you have to experience to have work because how will you have an experience when you are trying to have one.
you can do it girl. you can prove them you can. or do it for your son. eventually he will grow, would you want him tell lazy mom you are? believe in your self and never say too many excuses because if you want to prove something do something. if you really want to work then go and find one. you can't have the ideal work you want but i'm sure you will find one that will fit you.
as for your relationship with your parents, it will gradually back to normal when you show them you can stand up and change for the better.
@sweetajlo (175)
• Philippines
10 Feb 12
nice story and experience you have too...since you have a child and still living with your parents...why not try to stand on your own feet...here in myLot you can start earning an income...though you parents pampered you when you are still small you still have a chance to be more mature enough for your child's sake...if you sense that you are the reason for there arguments why not prove to them that you still are mature enough to deal your own life since you have a child already...not that easy but you have too...don't blame that they grew you up for being a spoiled..prove to them that you can chance that and don't do that to your own child...good luck then....
