Do you think Valentine Day gifts are essential in a relationship?

Hi viju Our Wedding anniversary and Valentines day fall in the same month. So what we do is combine them and celebrate the Gifting Part once(to keep the value of Gifts and make us feel they are precious). The Dinner and chocos do get on the tables twice - once for each occasion. There is not much to say that our relation exists and depends on Gifts - they arent important - but yes, I do feel happy when I can buy her anything from my savings (as it is not a so very regular thing to happen). And yes, I get her a bunch of roses and Dairy Milk Pack from cadbourys(ok, I have the most of it, but still I get it for her)... other things or gifts included.

Hi viju! I think exchanging gifts among partners/couples/lovers is sign of expressing love. Giving gift to your loved means that you 'care' for him/her and think about him/her. Though, there is no surety as such that giving gifts/exchanging gifts means that there is deep love between partners. I love to exchange gifts. . I do not believe in exchanging or giving gift on a particular day, it could be any day of the year.

No. But gifts are essential to shops and commerce. I think the best present is a good session of love making. That really says it all and far beyond a bunch of flowers. But then I thought the real fun of Feb 14th was to contact people you don't really know. I thought the whole idea was to receive flowers or a card from someone who claims to be an admirer but is anonymous.

I don't get the point of buying a gift on this one day Just to say I love you. If my guy Never says I love you All year around save this one day, I wouldn't believe him. Besides flowers when given to me mean a fake apology. Candy is sweet but I have Never finished a box of candy ever. There are so many I wouldn't like to eat!I don't want diamonds or jewelry. G-d help the guy who thinks this is what I want or need. So this " Holiday" is useless to me. Luckily my guy Shows his love Every day of the year.So He doesn't have to buy a " symbol' I hate, food I won't eat or items I would never wear. All he has to do is say , in words or deeds , that he loves me. i really feel sorry for the couples who wait until Feb 14 to show they love each other. The women who except the most expensive gift , like somehow that Proves he loves her. And the men who are running around trying to get the " best" gift. To me the best gift is being loved and to love in return.

Well, for me that's not important. The important gift of all was to give love wholly and faithfully to the one we love the most

In my opinion, it usually depends on the girl and your financial capabilities. Your partner will definitely understand if you are unable to give a gift and spending time together would be enough. If you are financially capable in giving a gift, I suggest that you do so. Flowers are most romantic and most girls love it, trust me. You do not have to give chocolates or gifts but it still depends on your partner, you should know her by then. I still find chocolates romantic and I enjoy seeing the joy they have when they consume it. Though I knew several girls who do not enjoy chocolates. Anyways, based on experience, I planned to give my girlfriend the gifts during our day out and not immediately when we meet. Unfortunately, it did not turn out well because she did not like the idea. She was jealous of the other women who were carrying around flowers and gifts from their partners. For this valentines, I will be alone as I have broken up with my girlfriend for over a year now. I am happy being single at the moment. You go enjoy your valentines if you have a date

We have no plans yet for Valentine's, but last year what we did was we went on an out of town trip. I don't think we will be spending Valentine's day at all since we are both saving our money now because we have a target amount in mind because we want to put up a business. It doesn't really matter if you give gifts or not. It's just hype and marketing propaganda making people believe that they have to spend even if they really can't afford it.

I would not say that Velantine's Day gifts are essential, but more of a choice. Between young couples maybe, but then they may not choose to celebrate a day because others say it is special and may be fully satisfied with the fact that they are together and in love. My wife and I have never bought Valentine's gifts or cards. We have been together for over 26 years now and totally support and love each other. Birthday and Xmas cards and gifts are all we give. Some of our friends are horrified by the way we are, but they cannot know our relationship, as I cannot know their. Each couple in my opinon, needs to work this out for themselves. _Derek

Hello Viju, So you are shopping and searching for the prefect gift for your best half. No and never that is my answer for giving a gift on this particular day. The same time I agree 'a gift' is a representation of love and can increase the bond in between but we can give a gift at any day. No meaning to wait for a valentine day once in a year. However, no objection to those who value this particular day and celebrating it. It is all their personal choices. Moreover, business people are forcing people to celebrate different days (mother’s day, father’s day….. etc) and giving much importance through media to add their profit.

viju, first of all i would like to tell you that both of us share the same name.Now coming to your topic.Valentine`s Day is a day dedicated to love, and if there is true love between partners then it does not matter whether one gives a gift or not.If one expects a gift from ones partner then it is not selfless love but love with a rider.I personally do not believe in such a kind of love.Valentine`s day is a Western concept and formerly this day was never celebrated in our country.So does that mean that there was no love before this?Of course not,love between partners has always been there and will be in the future.Valentine`s day is a media centered commercial celebration where people are forced to buy gifts so that there will be a huge amount of sales of gifts and cards.Why not have this celebration 365 days a year and express ones love everyday?Why restric it for only one day in a year? And this goes for all the other days too.

Ok, first of all, great post. Secondly, I see a lot of commenters giving a huge thumbs down for Valentine's day. Ummm, it really means a LOT to a girl, especially an American girl. If a man forgets Valentine's Day, that's a big No-No. Sure we love you guys, but it's like forgetting our birthday. After all, it's only the most ROMANTIC holiday of the year-Hello? Plus, guys, listen UP! If you are in the dog house, it's a GREAT way to get out.:) Just sayin' And no cheap chocolates-we can tell the difference. In fact, cheap chocolates are an insult. Can't afford descent chocolate, forget about it.

I don't think Vday gifts are essential, but I think it's nice to give and receive small tokens of affection (flowers, chocolates, etc.). I think it's important to do something nice and coupley too, everyone is so busy these days, it's important to stop and remember what's important.

hello viju0410, For me and to my partner we celebrating both with a simple dinner, and dating in mall, and for us we not important even without a gift to each other the most important to us is celebrating the valentines together.

Valentine's day is not the only day to show your loved ones that you care. You should tell them all the time. My husband kisses me every morning before he goes to work and he says I love you almost every day. I think that's better than celebrating your love on just one special day. Although it is nice to do something special on Valentine's day, like make a special meal or go out to dinner especially if you don't do out much like us. As far as gifts go , if I get something it's nice but if I don't I don't miss it. I used to like getting valentines from friends when I was in school, it showed that they liked me and I appreciated it. I think that if you celebrate it's an individual decision, I guess. Whatever you do don't forget your loved ones every day. Life is short and we should remember people that are important to us.

Hi Viju, I think it depends on what you have always done with the people in your life in regards to this day. Of course everyone would love to have some amazing gift, but it just doesnt always go that way for everyone. I have been with my hubby for 11 years and its not something that we pay much attention to. He doest see it as a big deal, so its whatever. Its one day and it doesnt really change all the other days of the year. We dont gauge how we love one another on gifts. They are nice sure, but I think of the days that he comes home after a work out when I am just waking up with my favorite coffee in my hand is sweeter.

not really. hubby and i have been married for almost 25 years and we dont often get each other valentines day gifts. i will give him some cinnamon hearts sometimes but what we do is send each other a free e card each day of the week. we dont have a lot of money so we have to be creative.

I don't really think that Valentine's Day gifts are essential or necessarily in a relationship. I don't think that it's really what it should be about. I think it's more about spending time with the ones you love.

No, I don't think so. I think it really is a nice special day to spend with someone that you love. But the economy being so bad, I would understand if people couldn't be able to buy stuff for each other. I don't think it really is that important to get such gifts from people that you know love you lots. But it really is a nice way to show your appreciation for them.

My husband and I have elected to take a weekend trip for our anniversary, in June. rather than exchange gifts for Valentine's day.

hi friends... yeah it is not true no gift means no love. gift is to keep them happy with all there expected things inside. it is not forcing for gift. please don't under estimate them. if they call and wish at night it is more valuable them gifts like gold and diamond. i guess you not yet come across these feelings