You both lovers decide to marry but the GIRL cant marry due to Family situation!

Yes sweetychandu, that's a difficult situation but your close friend for sure would have a special blessing for following her parents. She sacrificed her true feelings I just hope she will learn to love the guy her father decided for her and also the guy must truly love her.

good day sweetychandu7, honestly, if i will be placed in that situation, i will stand on my decision to marry the man i love. that i will still explain to my parents especially to my father, that i will be the one to face the married life after the wedding ceremony. and my happiness is the most important. i will also explain that i do understand his point why he chose a guy for me but, i cannot go on his decision to marry the guy he wants for me instead, i will choose that one i love. yet in this instance, there are times, our parents try to persuade into our decision that they are sometimes not conscious that our own happiness is the one at stake here. that in due time, we need to stand firm on our decision and run our own life.

I believe when there is a arranged marriage. The parents of both future husband and future wife should bring them up knowing that there is a arranged marriage. Allowing them plenty of time to get to know each other from childhood. Not to just spring the surprize upon them once they have fallen for another. This shituation is the parents fault.

That's totally a very odd situation when the girl will be forced to marry a guy whom she didn't even know personally and have met before. for me, That's a very unethical way of arranging a marriage plan.

Actually,I have also heard the similar experience,that is my friend,her boyfriend's mother don't like my friend,but they love each other very much,so her boyfriend din't listen to what his mother said,he stuck to be together forever.After half one year,his mother allowed to consider my friend(the girl)again.Maybe for the boy's insistance,maybe his mother felt the girl all right,now they are preparing for the wedding.Hope everyone wish their happiness.

i will always marry the girl i love , be a man and fight for the girl

Poor girl she is torn between her parents and her lover. If she thinks of her long term happiness she should go along with her heart's desire and for once reject her father's choice. No doubt it would infuriate his father but rest assured it is only temporary. Match-making is no longer practical in this modern age. Going through match-making to please others will be a living hell.

If I were the girl I would slip away and marry the man I loved just as I did as its my life not my parents.I loved my parents too but I was mature 32 and in real love.I married my beloved despite all myy father did to stop our marriage. I respected my parents but they had no right to dictate to me whom I should marry.it was a good and happyu marriage. I am now widowed and still miss him very much.

I take it that you are an Indian. Otherwise it would be rare to find an example of a marriage which is fixed much before the girl or boy come of age even. I mean the promising of a girl to a boy by the father/mother or both parents as if the born entities have no say in the marriage. I have married through the arraned marriage route. It is not as bad as it made out to be. But it is necessary in these days when marriages happen between mature individuals only as per the law of the land. n my opinion the girl must confront her father and let him know that she is in love with this boy. Her father also should move out of his 18th century stand and take a look at the boy the girl has in mind. In 21st century this- going by a promised marriage, as if boys and girls are commodities- appears as an anachronism. Our TV is replete with stupid soap where too much of Joint Family and Family hierarchy is being shown which defitely is not true for the majority middle class.I hope they are not too much of a propertied family with business interests. If that be so, only God help the boy and girl.

Clearly this is no more than a communication problem.She should ask her parents: Do you love me enough to allow me to marry the only man I do love??? If they don't love her enough to say yes, should she really be concerned over who they think she should marry? Clearly they do not care about her. The only reason anyone should get married is for true love.

This is a normal situation that majority of lovers had to face these days. The decision should be left to the girl. If the girl loves her parents so much then obviously her parents also love her the same. if her father comes to know that she is already in love with your friend then he might re consider his current marriage proposal, his word is not that much important than his daughter's happiness. If the girl doesn't have the guts to tell her father about your friend then she is not eligible to love or she doesn't love your friend that much. The least she can do is tell her parents about her love. If she can't even do that then I pity your friend for loving her. Whether her parents would agree or not is another issue but they should know and it is her responsibility to tell them. Who knows her father might agree if she convince them. Ask her to inform her father immediately. If she doesn't want to do it then ask your friend to forget about her. She is worth his love if she is not willing to tell about him to her parents

If you are both willing to take all the consequences and challenges against all odds then nothing wrong to get married even though some factors are dealing with in your relationship, but if this is just only for a one man fight then better to think of it million times, because marriage is not like a brand of underwear that you can change it anytime!

I consider that the lovers should be together. If the girl married the guy chosen by her father who she didn't love grudgingly, their marriage will be a tradedy because they are a odd couple. No doubt that parents are very important to us, but we don't have to gamble our happiness and life in order to satisfy them. Some time we should make choice for ourselves and chase our own happiness.