Why do people speak high of someone unnecessarily

That's really bad. I know how you feel because my aunt and my grandmother are like that too. They always compare my cousins to me. That feels bad.

Mothers are like that, get used to it. I have my Mom who tends to speak about my brother and me like we are the only people who have had success AND we are not that successful in our education. We would just softly elbow our mother to give her the signal to stop and sometimes it does irritate us when we know that what she speaks of is not so great. Of course we do know ourselves and our mother is just pointing out the good part. It also seems like mothers are competing to see who has the better child and that is the part that makes me sick. My brother and I try to find something to do to get away from such conversations.

Wow, we must be related because I have an Aunt who does the same thing. In fact I have 2 Aunts who do that. I agree with you, it is very irritating. I don't see my relatives much anymore but when ever we did have get togethers, I would ask myself, 'why am I wasting my time with these people?' All they would talk about was themselves, their kids, grand kids, friends of grand kids. Who cares?!?! If someone asked about how things were going in my life, it was the pleasant exception. I could count on one hand the family members who took the time to care about me.

Hi punee, lol, I know what you mean! :) I have had many people who always speaks about their children's greatness. I am sure you're feeling as though your unties are putting you down and comparing you with their children. It's obviously normal for you to feel such a way. It's hard to tell coz I don't know your unties so well. Let's just put it this way. They feel proud that their son is doing well (which is according to their standards) Everyone's standards of doing well varies. All you need to do is just SMILE...and praises MORE of his sons and then you will starts to hear the mother (which is your unties) started commenting abit of negative things about their son. LOL I know..it's about psychology...people when they're in love and happy, they say good stuffs about others. It's just an act of affection. It can motivates you too to do even better! So, I'll jusr say, do well yourself. hope your mother will find her turn to praise you in front of your unties.

I can relate to you're post. I also have an aunt who speaks highly of somebody even if she doesn't really know that person. She also blames people of things that only she has thought about. It's like this, you go home late at night and you look groggy, she'll tell people that you came home drunk even if she's not sure of it. It's really annoying.

I can understand what you feel, I have encountered people like these too in my life. They only praise themselves or their own family and children. I can understand that tehy feel happy with the success of their loved ones but they should consider the feelings of others too and appreciate and praise others also who are worth praising

i think it is natural for people to do so.. i mean, this is of course common to most people and this is because we are proud of the people we speak highly of... and somehow of course we speak highly of them too because we know somehow we share the same achievement, its like we are part of the success so we do feel the need to share.. =)

Hi Punee, I can understand how you feel, since my aunt is also like that. When others are better than her children, she gets jealous, and talk bad about the others. I think those people are too shallow. They have nothing better to live for, and nothing better to talk about. Just hope that we are better persons than them.

hi there puneetrajput25, i do understand what you feel. that they are not bother enough to consider other's feelings. that, perhaps, they forgot to think, everyone of us has its own differences. thus, it is not appropriate to compare one person to another. i remember, as the old saying goes, people are really different to one another, same as our fingers are not the same to each other. so there is no point to compare each one to another one. well, i do hope you can able to encompass that situation friend. cheers.

Hi! It is but natural for parents to be proud of their children especially if they have achieved something. I think she does not mean anything. Of course there are other people who have achieved more than her children but for her, since she have been with her sons and she knew how they strive to become successful then she felt so proud of them. You will understand that when you become a parent yourself. Just don't feel offended, instead strive harder too so that you can be proud of yourself and your parents will be proud of you too. That way, you can show your aunt that there are others who can be more successful than her sons.

she must be very proud of them.but of course i think she's exaggerating things and she doesn't see other people. i also have aunt who compares her daughter to me,im not comfortable about it though she gave me praises.i just want her to think of her children too,their good traits.i dont know either what to do with this kind of people.