I don't want to fall in love.

You can take it easy to fall in love at your age, it will come naturally. You may have a one sided infatuation with this girl for now, not love, because love relationship is mutual not from you or her only. Until you are 100% sure she is also interested to fall in love with you, then you can call it 'love'. For now, it is just friendship, so my friend, keep it that way and let it grow naturally, don't force yourself upon her to accept your 'puppy love'. It is bad for both of you. Yes, you need to focus on your study and man up so that you can be become successful later. Forget about fallen in one sided love, it is all just an fantasy on your part and will distract your study later on. Stop it now or else you will be regret later. A word of advice from your friend here.

hi leoshuaige, I think that I understand what you feel. We are on the same boat. The only difference is that you are a man and I am a woman. When my Chinese friend visited me here, I noticed that my days become more colorful. All a while, I thought that he is just like my best friend or a brother to me, but I think I am wrong. When he went back to China, that was the time that I feel something for him more than a friend. I tried to ignore it many times but I cannot. Every time I will go in a place where we had been before, it makes me think of him. I also cry sometimes because I am missing him a lot. It is so difficult for me to let him know my feelings. Like you, I am afraid to lose our friendship because of my feelings. I am older than him for four years but he looks more mature than me. Now, I am also trying to forget the feeling I have for him. I know that someday, God will give me the right man. I will hope patiently for that day to come.

oh realy? its real. its part of your growing. learn from it...

i got same situation like you,i think your friend take care of you if you was said the trully story about your heart. and the girls can choice between you and him. i am sure your friend understood about your love, because love never know friend or friendship. love from the god and it is gift in our life.

Do what you think is best for you and for her. I fyou are really meant for each other then the right time will tell. Make the best for your future so that you will never get hesitation to propose to the girl you really love!

Hi ,leo ,it is my first time to response your discussion .I think you feel afraid to deal with the problem of the balance of study and affection .maybe you think that if you fall in love someone leading to bad effect on your study.But you do not think of it maybe have a good side on you,such as making you more concentration on your study .

If it is love you're feeling, you should embrace it, not run away from it. Falling in love...Well from my experience it seems like a once in a life time kind of thing. By not accepting it and trying things out with this girl, you will never know. Maybe she would have made you incredibly happy....

that's a good! if you will you are not ready then do not go. you still young and i think love can wait. in God's time, if you are meant to be, you will meet her again at the right place. finish your study first so you can have a better future. good luck!

Whoever the girl you will end up with in the future will be so lucky. And I think your decision is right. You should study first before you enter in any relationship that needs commitment. What am I saying? Every relationship needs commitment of course. How silly of me! Good luck dude!

I agree with you. If you are not ready to be in love, then don’t put yourself into situations where you will be attracted to a girl at all. Your education is most important; you will have time for love later after you have reached the end of your schooling and gotten the job you want to support yourself. There will always be time for love later. Being in love now could just ruin your life, especially since you already know you are vulnerable and likely to give all to a relationship while neglecting your school work. You have a good head on your shoulders. Love can wait. It’s best not to say anything, and just be friends without any romance.

Its a good choice. Your still young and have a lots of time to fall in love in the right time. First,focus in your study until you finish in schooling and after that you can enter in the relationship ,and focus into that.

Great!Great! Its rare to find a boy with such a matured thinking.You definitely deserve applause.Currently,you concentrate just on your studies,as u said getting involved in such things will distract you.But you need not be afraid of love.Because you have already conquered it.It is under your control and you are not under its control like many teenagers.You will definitely succeed.But if you are truly in love with her then you can propose her at a later stage after u build up your career because she,being your friend will be under your notice.Keep in touch with her.Leave the rest for destiny to decide.All the best!

It is so important for you to NOT be afraid of being in love. You must always keep your mind and heart open if you truly want to enjoy life as it is meant to be enjoyed. This is not to say you must depend on another, but rather embrace them and allow them to enhance your life. Being friends with this girl is a major plus for you; the foundation of the best relationships is a friendship. Your partner should be your best friend. Finally, you sound like a very intelligent young man. I believe you have the ability to balance your studies and a girlfriend. At 13, I don't think you should rush anything...there will be many loves before you find the right one, as I tell my 14 year-old son. But enjoy being 13 too. Embrace a budding romance, but keep school and family your top two priorities. Good luck!

Don't run away from it. There is going to be a time in your life when you will have to try to get into a relationship, why not try today. It may not work, but the experience should be worth it. Also, it will help you balance things out in your life, you should focus on your studies, but also on other things. Good luck with your decision!

Some people can handle both love and studies well. But if you are certain that you are gonna lose your focus on studies then I think you are right that it is better to try to put aside the feelings for now. 'Though try to still be friends with her, in the future you and her might be together still. So if you really love try to be a close friend to her and just treat her special.

hi, boy, i admire your good self-command and i think you know clearlly what you want. But confiding the thing in mylot, i guess, you are still stuggling intensely inwardly. On the one hand, you are afraid that amativeness may infect your study which is important. On the other hand you love her so much. I support your choice. In your age, study is the most important thing. You can begin your relationship when you are ready. That time you will be more mature and steady, then you can handle the thing more properly.

hello there well i must admit that you really know yourself very well and understand the need of the time. but there is nothing harm in falling in love with someone you really admire.but you should also know what is important to you. well once you learn to balance your personal life and studies you can go for proposing your loved one. but now for the time being if you really feel that you do not want to fall in love or do not want to go for proposing someone then its absolutely fine. you need to concentrate what seems most important to you. but i think you can not plan and fall in love .. it just happens!! all the best.

I think you should let her know. Yes it might ruin your friendship but you'll never know if she likes you back if you won't try. Or if you're okay with her just being friends, then don't do it. Just prepare to hold your silence forever. Or until you have the strength to do so. Hope I helped. :)