gender scan wrong
By C
@ShyBear88 (59347)
Sterling, Virginia
February 10, 2012 12:29pm CST
How would you react if your gender scan were wrong about what you where having?
Well I haven't had this happen to me yet. But if it did, I would be a bit upset with the ultrasound tech, but this also the reason why I don't buy everything in one gender just in case. There is a small percentage that the person can be wrong but most of the time they are spot on with it. I will still love my child regardless of what I was told and expecting to see. This is also why before we find out what we are having me and my husband come up with a name for both genders that we like.
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@leinrix (490)
• Philippines
11 Feb 12
i remember my father told me before that when my mother had an ultrasound they told her that she is expecting a baby boy so they bought things meant for a baby boy but its good that they by unisex things too but the name they prepared was meant for a boy
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
11 Feb 12
I'm sure when your mom had you that back then the technology wasn't as good. I know when my mom had me there weren't as clear as they are these days. You can get a 3rd scan of your child moving in early time its so cool. Even now they some times make mistakes but not as bad as it was back when I was born.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
13 Feb 12
Almost as those they are in arms not quite its in yellow you can't see what they will a 100% look like. I kept all the ones of my daughter. Normally a gender scan is only give if the parents request it other wise they don't do it but the doctor will still make down in there book what you are having. You have to set up a gender scan there when its okay with your insurances company because there is only so many ultrasound they are allowed to do in some many months. The 3d even the 2d is really good these days. We did a normal 2d gender scan for our daughter. I got the 3d ones off and on through out my pregnancy but I never asked them do it the tech did it when she wanted to. Most of the time they where for face pictures. Still to do this day some times they can be wrong but most always correct.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
13 Feb 12
With my daughter, I really did want to know what her gender was because of the fact that she was the first grandchild on both sides and also my first child. However, when it was time for my son, I didn't even want to find out what his gender was until he was born.
Well, he wanted things to be differently and the first thing that I saw when they turned on the ultrasound machine was his plumbing.
I wouldn't have been too disappointed if the gender scan was wrong, but I do think that it might have made things more difficult.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
27 Apr 12
I wanted to know with my daughter weather it was right or not about her gender. I wanted to know what to call her other then baby. It drives me crazy calling my babies baby. I plan on finding out if I'm having a boy or girl with my second so I call him or her by there real name other then Nugget or something.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
13 Feb 12
My disabled son went to a playgroup for disabled children. I knew a boy from there whose mom was told she is a girl during the twenty week scan. The lady went out and bought loads of pink stuff including dresses. She bought pink wallpaper and decorated her daughter's room. What a shock it was when the baby boy was born. Another lady from there had a very similar experience. I know a gender scan can help a mom identify with her baby and then help her choose a name. I love my babies whatever gender they are, able bodied or disabled. I had a detailed scan at the fetal medicine unit at sixteen weeks pregnancy and I said okay what is the babies gender. The consultant looked carefully and said a girl. He was right. I bought yellow coat hangers just in case. She is now a happy little two year old.
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@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
13 Feb 12
Way before I have any gender scan with both of my pregnancy I have a name for both genders on my mine and so does my husband. I know its not always correct they are close but some times they can be wrong because of the placenta and the way the baby is laying. I never when I found out I was having a girl got all girly stuff, I really don't like pink so I got any other color that wasn't pink or too boy for that matter. Which is what all moms should do. I don't think it helps identify with that you are having regardless of the gender you will always identify to them because its your kid.
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@greysfreak (1384)
• United States
11 Feb 12
I'm not pregnant now, but I want to have a baby, so I definitely have feelings on this subject. I have heard of this happening. I am friends on facebook with a girl I went to school with, and throughout her pregnancy she was told she was having a girl, then a few weeks ago she posted that she found out now, that she is actually having another boy, and she is due next month! I do think I would be quite upset if I was told for 5+ months to prepare for a girl and then all the sudden it was a boy. That said, it really wouldn't matter in the end, I would be happy either way. But I would probably need to take a few moments to let is sink in, and I might be upset with being told wrong. But I know I'd be too happy, and too excited about having a baby to be too upset about being told the wrong gender.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
13 Feb 12
That is why in case the tech is wrong I don't buy anything that screams out girl or boy. Yeah I knew I was having a girl in my first pregnancy but I really hate the color pink so we got clothes that weren't pink soft blues, greens, yellow, dark purple can go either way, red, black, gray, organ. It happens some times the placenta can get in the way and make things look like a boy or girl some times. But normally the tech is a 90% correct when they do a gender scan.
I would be upset of course not at the baby. But the tech, I would be yelling her for making a mistake it happens. I would be like oh man I was mentally ready for this and not this.
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@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
11 Feb 12
Hello ShyBear,
In my country gender scanning is totally banned and no one is allowed to talk about it.Reason being in INDIA people don't like girl child and if they come to know it before the birth of child they kill it.Though the trend has changed but still people do it.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
13 Feb 12
Yeah people on that side of the world some times just make me want to shake my head at them and bring so cruel to hurt and unborn baby because they aren't what they want. But I do know that the doctor's will know what the parents are having they have noted what you are having in there files even here in the US a gender scan has to asked for other wise they won't do the scan but the doctor will noted what you having.
@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
6 Jun 12
This is a non-issue for me because I didn't choose to have a gender scan. Nor would I choose to have a gender scan. I enjoyed not knowing the gender of my precious babies until they were delivered into my loving arms.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
7 Jun 12
Nothing wrong with no knowing at all.
Me I can't go with out knowing. I wanted to know with my daughter if I was having a girl and I told my husband when we first found out we where having her that it was a girl. I just knew and the gender scan came up we wanted that so that way I wasn't walking about calling our baby baby I wanted to give my child a name as soon as possible that was me. The same thing with this pregnancy I wanted to know if we where going to have a boy or girl. I guessed we where having a boy and we are having a boy so the tech said.
If its wrong its not a big deal. I will be slightly upset but not with the tech or the baby. I would be more upset with the fact that now I'll have to return all of those and get girl clothes again. But I'm sure they are correct its not often that they are wrong with gender scans.
It's always a personal choice if someone wants to know or not. my dad didn't want to know if I was having a girl or boy and I'm not sure if this time he wanted to know or not or if he is waiting. He didn't say anything this time. So I'm assume he is waiting till his third grand baby gets her to find out. He really wanted me last year to have a girl. Some people he wanted my husband to know the joy and feel more protective of his child because he has a little girl and also because he already had a grandson.
@PageTurner (2825)
• United States
7 Jun 12
The biggest concern I had was that my babies were born healthy. I knew I would love and feel protective of my beautiful babies no matter their gender. It was a non-issue for me.
@marguicha (222999)
• Chile
14 Jun 12
When I had my babies there was no scan. But Iwas in first line for the scan of my eldest granddaughter as the doctor is my closest friend (like a brother to me). He got all the chairs from the sittung room so we could all fit in. But I love my chidren no matter which gender.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
15 Jun 12
Normally they are correct and gender scan is 90% correct so there is little room for error that is why they normally don't do the gender scan till your in the second or third trimester it's hard to mess up then. I would be upset just with the fact that now i have to get new clothes.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
7 Jun 12
My sons are 23 and 26 years old. When I was pregnant, even though I had ultrasounds my doctor would not tell me the gender of my children. The technology was still fairly new at the time and he said it was too easy to make a mistake so he didn't believe in telling people what they were having. I can imagine it would be very disappointing to think you were having one gender, buying and preparing everything geared towards that gender and then having the other.
Personally, I think that knowing the gender of your baby takes a lot away from the joy of being pregnant and having a child, but that's just me. I know there are a lot of practical reason people want to know but to me it takes some of the fun and surprise out of it. Kinda like knowing what all your presents are before you open them. It's just not the same.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Jun 12
We bought a mixture with our daughter. We did genderal nuteral stuff because I really hate pink and all baby girl clothes are pretty much pink. But we had a few pink outfits that family bought us that we kept till she was born and either she wore them or she didn't.
For me it hasn't take away any joy I know some people feel it does but it doesn't. It doesn't change how you feel about your baby. I hated calling my babies baby or him or her. I wanted them to have there names as soon as I knew what they where. Today they are right on spot most all of the time with everything so its kind of hard for them to be wrong.