Psychologist explains why marriages so often fail

I think he's definitely on to something. I don't know about fathers, specifically, but I read a similar study that blames the romance industry, romantic comedies especially. That the films and books geared toward women, the romantic comedies and even the sad love stories that come out happy in the end, give women a false sense of how things should really work in a relationship. In these entertainment vehicles, things are easy. Boy meets girl, boy wins girl's heart, boy acts like a baboon, girl cries, eats ice cream and sleeps on sister's couch, boy performs some elaborate, romantic gesture, girl cries some more but now they are tears of joy, they embrace, cue the doves and swelling orchestra. In real life... boy meets girl, boy wins girl's heart, boy acts like a baboon, girl screams, boy screams, girl punches boy in the stomach, boy leaves and never comes back. Or some variation of that story, perhaps with role reversal. Overall, whether you blame the woman's family or the entertainment industry or the cavemen we are descended from, the point everyone is trying to make is that marriages fail because people enter into them with unrealistic expectations. And to that extent, I think there is a lot of truth in these studies. As for censoring this researcher, I am a writer and an artist so I'm firmly against censorship of ideas in any form.

I disagree with his statement, fathers, so spoil there daughters that they grow with such unrealistic expectations that they are never satisfied and never learn to accept responsibility for themselves. My dad taught me how to take care of my own vehicle, more than just putting gas in! He taught me how to fish, hunt, and that I could accomplish anything I set out to do. Along with that he and my mom taught me to be a responsible person. I have been married (and divorced) 3 times, the reasons, the first time, too young; the second time, married for money...doesn't buy everything! and the third lasted for 16 years, divorced because of lack of communication and he was not able to let me be independent. I think the biggest cause of divorce is lack of communication on every level. That and lack of trust from the start.

Yes I agree with him but this is just one of the cause and its not always holds true but holds true in most of the cases .I have seen this in my life in many cases father really spoils there daughter to have unrealistic expectation and dream in life and they want others to help them to fulfill those dreams that makes them more and more unrealistic.....causing failure in married life Hare Krishna Ganesh

Hello. I think this psychologist is wrong. What about daughters in families where there is no father figure? Unfortunately there are many single parent families with daughters where no father figure exists. I think this psychologist has got it wrong. Or did he only look at families with both parents? If he only looked at families with both parents then he should really do some further research looking at all family types.

Hmmmm... I agree with him to an extent. My father spoiled me, I'll admit. But he also taught me to be a strong woman and rely on myself. I don't want a man to spoil me. If I had someone give me anything I wanted, it would only make me feel guilty. I just want a man to be faithful to me. LOL. I look at my parents' marriage, and that's the kind of relationship that I want. They have been married since 1970. They treat each other with total respect. They are best friends. Neither of them could live without the other. While they are complete opposites, their personalities compliment each other well.

The Psychologist is correct. For us women, Our Father plays an important role in looking for a husband. Their might be a different reasons on why a marriage fails but all I knew is that a Father has its part. If we grow up to have a Father who makes us feel better and who makes us happy, chances are, we look for a man who is exactly the same of her father. If you grow up having a father who neglects you and he is the one who makes you feel uncomfortable, you look for someone who is different from your father.

Hello urbandekay I guess up-bringing of a child and their environment contributes a great factor of a happy and accomplish family in the future. This would create a legacy of good breed as generation goes by.. Nice post.. Mobhomeir here..

I think marriages failed because there are other people around them who interfere with pesonal problems. We don't know why those people interfere. Some probably don't like this couple living happily, someothers probably just can not control their tongues and say something without thinking that this will bring about bad effect to the couple.

Chances are you be familiar with somebody who has undergo the pain of an unhappy marriage or had to swallow the harsh pill of divorce. Even though we read and hear the upsetting divorce statistics day-in and day-out, hardly ever do these facts appear to bother the masses. Undeniably, this is cause for everybody who desires to marry, have a family and leave a healthy legacy - to step back and ask these kinds of questions, “What’s going on? What are we doing wrong?” And most significantly, “How do we fix this distorted web that we have weaved?” But unfortunately, for most men and women, it’s business as usual as they continue to marry and then divorce at an intense pace.

Marriage fails for many reasons. Not just because the father spoils the daughter. Marriage pattern have change alot in this century and many failed to understand that those changes have weaken one party and strengthen the other.Meaning to say,woman have been challenged throughout all these years and they have transformed to be stronger, more independent, charismatic and a provider. On the other hand, men have been challenged to be better and to upgrade themselves. Many not able to embrace the changes and women supersede them. Marriage failed because they are not able to bend the rules and com promisingly to accept each others flaws. Family brought up is another issue which contributes towards a broken marriage. I always believe this.Not everyone can get married. Marriage requires a great deal of understanding, good financial, similar family background and level of educations in order to prolong better marriage. Whenever love have gone, what remains are those realistic life.

I Hate to admit it but to some extent i totally agree. my father raised me to be a boy im very self suffeciant.. but many girls want it all an not have to give anything back in return. but its unfair to blame women for all the failed marriages out there....lol