How much do you value your family?
@jessajoycbismanos (21)
Philippines
February 11, 2012 8:41am CST
I am 23 years old now and is living away from my family since my college days. I decided to live and stand on my on then, cause i want to be independent and do what want. But this doesn't mean that i don't value my family and don't love them. In fact, I love them so much. That all my struggles, endeavors and success are all for them. I'm currently working in an auditing firm, and it requires devotion and time commitment which led me to not going home every holidays. Some people would ask me if why i don't go home during christmas and other holidays sounding as if i don't value my family. All I could answer is that I have work. Well, that's true, I'm working so hard for them, but I know also that my family needs my time, a quality time and not my money alone. But what dictates my mind is that, now that i still have the strength to work, I should work, so that time comes when I already have enough money in the bank, can afford to give all the comforts my family needs and to provide them relaxing pleasure, then that's the time i would spend my days with them. That's how i care and love them, I want to be their providers. Now, am i that selfish and brat? How about you? How much do you value them?
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8 responses
@bashabasha (400)
• Philippines
11 Feb 12
You are right. We work hard for them but somehow you should find a good time to spend quality time to them. I know for you its not easy because of the field of your work. If its hard to find a time to spend to them, then maybe you need to file a short vacation because we never know what will happen in our family later or in the future. Only God knows. you should try to do it so you will never feel regrets. And give some quality rest for yourself. This is my piece of advice to you because I experienced what you feel right now.
I value my mom ,sibling and my nephew. Before I'm away to them because I lived with my father in my college days and 3yrs without seeing my mother is really heart breaking. Now I lived with my mom and my field in my work is not complicated so I can spend more time to my mom ,siblings and nephew ! and I'm very happy about it. I missed them so much when I'm away before ! now I'm spending my time to them 
@jessajoycbismanos (21)
• Philippines
12 Feb 12
Thanks for the insights bashabasha! I'm happy to hear that you are living with your mom already. And probably i'll do your advice and the others to file for a short break, most probably a week or so. Thanks much! God bless my dear!
@sjvg1976 (41711)
• Delhi, India
11 Feb 12
Hello jessajoycbismanos,
For me too family is more important than anything else in the world.
I live with my parents,brothers and my family.I get offers from many companies with better salary but i always deny them as i don't want to leave my parents and brothers.I know money is important but the salary which i am getting presently is enough to take care of my expenditures so why to move separately.
I live with my parents,brothers and my family.I get offers from many companies with better salary but i always deny them as i don't want to leave my parents and brothers.I know money is important but the salary which i am getting presently is enough to take care of my expenditures so why to move separately.
@jessajoycbismanos (21)
• Philippines
12 Feb 12
Good for you sjvg! If you have all the means and had enough then there's no reason for you to work far from your family. I salute you for choosing to be near with your family than accepting anything else the world could offer.
@Hazelrose (2179)
• Philippines
12 Feb 12
I Do value my family as first in my priorities .Life is so short and we should make the most of it.Yes money is important but,the most are we would show our love to our family especially to our parents.We don't really know if tomorrow they were still alive.What we need is to care for them, Showing our love by seeing them as often as we can.That is what I really wants as a mom to my children.Even though they come home with nothing but still I'll be happy,because I can feel that they valued our family.
@heartbit (237)
• Philippines
11 Feb 12
hi, i value my family a lot too but i still dont have much responsility as you do as im still studying. honestly, i admire you being hardworking for your family but on the other hand, i really think you should be giving yourself time during christmas and holidays coz its really a time when family should be together. yes, you may have the strength to work no but you cannot bring back the lost times of being together as a family and the happy memories it would bring. nothing wrong with being a hardworker really but you need to give yourself a break once in a while. goodluck always!
@jessajoycbismanos (21)
• Philippines
12 Feb 12
Yes, I think I should get some break once in a while. I will take that from you heartbit. I'll try to spend a week or so with my family this summer. Thanks heartbit!
@sishy7 (27166)
• Australia
12 Feb 12
I also lived on my own since I was very young. I had my share of mistakes that I made on how I connected with my family then. Still, I've always loved, respected, and surely valued them. The mistakes I made even strengthen how I value my family. Especially now that I have family of my own, I try my best to show my children the precious value of a family.
@vistavasanth (45)
•
11 Feb 12
greeting to mylotters....
you are very much true... as you say your parents does not need your money they just need you to be with them. what you said is also true but then it is your response to take care of our family. a small advice from my side, you cant go to your parents place at holidays but you can make them to be with you. i felt this is a correct idea to make them happy.so that you no need to miss your parents....
@jessajoycbismanos (21)
• Philippines
12 Feb 12
Happy to hear from you vistavasanth... Thanks for that tip. Probably, i will do that on summer. God bless my dear!
@ajalitus (127)
• United States
11 Feb 12
I have 2 brothers and a sister. I probably don't value them as much as I should because they help me everyday with the little things. I'm happy to have them as my family but I don't always express it. My parents are a different story. They have hard rules but I still love them for who they are. We might argue from time to time but we still care for each other in hard times.
@shashaffd (1)
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12 Feb 12
I love my family i wouldnt change them for the world. It may not be perfect but its good enough for me. They come before most things but not all, theres just some situations where my family comes after.
