how can you decide one is your friend or not?

its very difficult. Most people will not show their true self until they are faced with a critical situation. In times of need and trying time the one who stand by is a real friend

Hello dandan07, Friend in need is friend indeed! One who help us in trouble are our friend and those who don't are not that's the simple definition of a friend. To make real friends we also need to support our friend in need as this is give and take relation if we don't help them we should not expect them to come to us for our help.

It depends on other people, we all have different definition of 'friend'. Others would say that their already friends even though they just met 30 minutes ago. For me it takes some time to call someone as my friend. If there is a person that I just met, I would define him/her as n acquaintance. If we get to spend more time, then that's the time when I'd say that we're friends. It's easy to have friends nowadays but it's hard to find real friends. I actually don't have that many friends since I prefer to have few real friends who would be there for me in hard times than friends who are simply... friends. I would say that I'm proud and happy that I have them in my life. Though they can't really help me that much when I am in a very big problem, they still do what they can to support me. And by their presence alone, talking me and giving support is already enough. Finding a real friend is hard but what I did is just I never gave up and I believed that there are people/someone who I can be connected with. And now my circle of friends in college is just what I prayed for. We have different likes, different status in life and different interests but we all connect. Don't feel hopeless that you don't have a real friend or something like that. Who knows, he/she might just be standing or sitting right next to you. That person will appear to your life someday until then, stay positive and of course, don't forget to always smile :))

I too don't have a best buddy. But why should I care, I have myself to play with. There will come a time when you will find one, or perhaps a life companion who'll be your best friend for the rest of your life. So don't loose heart. Let others think as they may please. You were not made in their image so stop acting according to what they say or want you to.

I think u should find best friend.Female or male same,up to u.That important they always be with u if u have problem and u happy.And u too always be with ur friends if they have problem and feel happy.Enjoy ur life with ur friends.

A true friend has not to be the one who is always around you. Those people who go shopping with you, party with you, and gossip with you can not be called real friends. I do think that the best friend is always the one who may not live in the same place with you but understands you the most in the whole world. A true friend may not often call you and chat with you, but he or she will surely be the first one to stand out to help you out when you have any trouble. He or she is the one who cares you the most not in words but in actions.Though you don't contact with each other frequently, you can understand each word the other one says as long as you talk.

Comes a time in your life when you realize who matters, who never mattered not who will not matter and who will always count. But until then, have a thousand times for those who do not have mattered. And you neglect those that should matter. You make plans and you make great illusions about those who would not count. Pay much importance and we are giving those who do not matter, but then you realize that you do not have mattered to them and will not count. You shall lose those that mattered, because they knew when they matter. Friends are not lost ... Friends do not leave you when you are wrong, even when going through hard times. Friends do not look only when they need help, or you have company. Friends do not judge you for how you manage your life. Your friends know enough, that do not hear rumors about you.

There's a saying "a friend in need is a friend indeed". So if you help those people who need you while they don't do the same to you then they're not your friends. They just people who are using you. And you have to leave those kind of people. If you think so far you can solve your own problems, then keep doing it. Don't worry, a real friend will come to you someday. You only need to wait because a true friend is not someone that we can create or force. However, keep making friends, but don't be so close yet. Refuse to help them sometimes, just to test them. In time, you will know who is your real friend and who are not.

a real friend is always there especially when you need them, when you have a problem they're always there to support you to help you in any kind of situation even in good times or in bad times.

There's a girl, she used to be my colleague, we often call each other and text, or chat on Messenger, talk about our life or work, I think she is my friend. One day, she called me when I was at work, and I was very busy because there were lots of banking users waiting out of my window, I told her that I couldn't talk to her, and I hang up. After that day, she dosen't answer my phone call, I text her but get no response, I don't know if she was my friend. If she is, how could she be angry with me?