How to say hello to ex?
By picture59
@picture59 (64)
Malaysia
February 13, 2012 12:34am CST
We had been separated for almost 3 years and lost contact. Someone was once so closed and yet became a stranger, I wish we could be friends again, just friend, who can sit and talk or grab lunch. However, my friends always told me that's not necessary and just forget it. But I still feeling there's a hole in my heart and needed to be filled in, and only by this way I can really get it over. What should I do?
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10 responses
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
13 Feb 12
i think it was not easy
it need your biggest heart for say hello for him/her..
but it was so strange in the first time when you say Hello to him/her..
do you think it was easy when say "hello, how are you?? it need a biggest heart to say hello with your ex lover...
and when you imagine that he or she now live without you...its so difficult for you..
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@lovelysofie (294)
• Indonesia
13 Feb 12
U should try to forget ur past.U and her/him can be best friend.U can try to contact by phone just to say "hello,how r u?"or try to having fun with her/him.
@lovelysofie (294)
• Indonesia
14 Feb 12
I easy to forget my ex.For example now i easy to forget my ex husband.I hate him.So i want remove him for my brain memory.I try to trhow away something about him.If i meet him, i didnt feel love again with him.
@picture59 (64)
• Malaysia
14 Feb 12
Hi lovelysofie, will you ever try to forgive him? I personally think that forgive might be a better option rather than hatred, because when I hate a person, means I still care for him/her. For me, I don't hate anymore, the memory is still there, but the feeling is different now...
Thanks for all the comments and suggestions, really appreciate all:)
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
14 Feb 12
Personally that would be between you and them. If they wanted to at least be friends this would be their choice. No one else really has a say in Relationships and what should happen, or that can be a reason many never last. But if you have lost contact it could be time for you to maybe move on to someone else as well. Give it time and weigh out the odds. If they are not meant in your life anymore even as friends, there is a reason and better things will come.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
14 Feb 12
I agree with the first person, if you ended on a bad note it may as well just be something you shouldn't look into. Unless you absolutely feel like it's the only way you can experience 'closure'. If you both ended on OK terms, he might be open-minded to the idea of becoming friends or at least having lunch once to catch up. Try hitting him up on Facebook to get a reaction from him.
@puneetgzb (61)
•
13 Feb 12
It is very easy to make a friend but it is very difficult to make true friend someone, bcz if we make someone our true friend than we start sharing our every feeling with him/her and some time these feeling become so personal, and we become vey much upset on leaving that person. with the same situaion i went through, so i can understand ur situation, either search ur mutual contact this is the only way by which u can meet ur lost partner.
@nicola531 (43)
• Italy
26 Feb 12
The point is: can we stop loving someone? or Can we turn someone whose we loved so deeply in just one friend? have we got that strength? I'm not sure I so strong.
Probably if I can't have someone because something went wrong it's better not seeing him/her anymore so the wound will stop bleeding. Yes it will be sore forever probably but it will not bleed at least.
@emdjay23 (1575)
• Philippines
13 Feb 12
Honestly, some people would love to be friends with their EX, and some people don't want it to happen, if you feel the need to be friends with that person, GO! but just make sure that your EX would still want to be friends with you, if not, I guess you should stop wanting it instead move on with your life..
@larish (2234)
• Philippines
13 Feb 12
I can never be friends with any of my ex. I can say "hi or hello" if I see them in gatherings but calling & having a conversation with them is not the right thing to do. If your concern is that hole in your heart, I think you didn't have a closure with your relationship with him. I think that is why you still want to be friends with him. But if I were you don't push too hard to make friends with him rather make an appointment with him and be honest with him that you need his help so that you can already move on.
@bhonti (1246)
• Philippines
13 Feb 12
Depends on how you two separated and how you feel about each other. If you separated not in a good way, i think it would be hard for the both of you to gain trust even as friends. But it is still possible.
Second, if you are sure that you just wanted to be friends, then it is okay. But if you are not sure, then I think it would be hard. You have to be sure that you two have moved on from your relationship to avoid complications.
@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
13 Feb 12
Times will heal all wounds, they say. But how long, it's all relative. Some can get over a break up in matter of days, some takes a life time. Take your time.