Destiny and Choices
By bokal2703
@bokal2703 (802)
Philippines
February 13, 2012 8:27pm CST
"There is no such thing as destiny. You've made those choices yourself."
That is a statement in a korean series that I have just finished watching. I think that it is correct. However, it is much easier to believe that things are destined to happen so one can feel lighter over things that happened against his likeness. It is but normal that a person will find ways to make himself/herself feel better with regards to the choices that he/she made that turn his/her life the other way around.
How about you? How do you view life when it comes to destiny or choices?
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5 responses
@ladyeaglefeather (228)
• United States
14 Feb 12
I think, you are very wrong. Yes, it is up to the person to make the choices. But, something are predestined and meant to happen. I truly believe, my husband and I were meant to be together. Our grandfather worked in the same coal mines together years before either of us were born and in another state. We are to of a kind. Yes, we do have our differences. But, we are much a like. Our families are intertwined, through out history. Never before us coming together in marriage. Bur, we found out the his great uncle dating my great aunt. Just one of many things. These two families were meant to be joined some how.
It's not just my husband, that makes me believe something are destined to happen. I am a true believer, that everything happens for a reason. There is always some kind of lesson to be learned, from everything that happens and everything that we do. I do believe, that one's will plays a big part in all of this.
Thank-you, for bring this up. I could write a book on the subject. There is so much involved.
@ladyeaglefeather (228)
• United States
14 Feb 12
I have a question since you don't believe in destiny. Do you believe in God or a higher power?
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
14 Feb 12
I believe in that... But somehow I have also thought why there are some unwanted things that happened... when you really didn't made any choice. You waited for someone or something, don't know whether it is a choice to wait - but it is what you believed it would happen as you made a promise or somebody made a promise. But when it did not happen, is it a destiny? Or would you consider it a choice, because you choose to wait even when nobody tells you to wait, but just believe?
@bokal2703 (802)
• Philippines
14 Feb 12
This is really life's mystery I guess and human nature, to perceive things the way where it can be thought of less complicated.
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
14 Feb 12
the concept of destiny is a rationalization of events that happen in our lives. it is to make us surrender from this life, a passive participation in life. i like the concept of choices since it entails an active participation and control of life. this is what i prefer, but of course, i submit to the will of my God.
@bokal2703 (802)
• Philippines
14 Feb 12
Good point about thinking destiny as a passive participation in life. A way to think that it is the way that it is.
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
16 Feb 12
Indeed, our life is rather shaped by the choices that we make. There is no predetermined plan, no destiny that we have. If there was, it is rather just going to just invalidate the point in living. When someone has something that doesn't go right, they try and whitewash it, saying that it is destiny. No, it is because you messed up royally.
We have made our good choices. We have made our bad choices. And we have just made a lot of those choices that we have no idea how it is going to turn out in the end. But in the end, that is just life to say the very least. There are just times where we are the masters of our ship, through the maze that is life. Hopefully we can steer ourselves on the right path.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
14 Feb 12
i think the choices we make create our destiny. choices are influenced by our perception of the situation on hand and carefully trying to weigh things based on our expectations and sometimes anticipating the outcome vaguely, thus creating a destined path either by right or wrong choices.. and in concept, destiny is affected by choice-related decisions in life and if we refer to it as a route or path towards what we certainly expect out of life itself.
@bokal2703 (802)
• Philippines
14 Feb 12
I agree on you on this. I think we share the same thoughts about how destiny and choices are connected. Thank you