Will you allow your 18 year old daughter to live with his 18 year old boyfriend?
By eljayo
@eljayo (1105)
Philippines
February 14, 2012 7:11am CST
Hi guys! I am just bothered with this situation.In western countries this may seem normal but in Oriental and conservative countries this is truly an issue.In this world, teenage pregnancy increase and teens tend to be more aggressive than before. This is indeed a wild and modern world compared to the world my parents taught me to have. I know of this girl, her parents are separated and she is a spoiled brat and a favorite of her dad. Now she lets her boyfriend live in their house and st times she lives in their house she just goes home to change her clothes.Her parents are tolerating such activity. I talked to her mom who lives away from their home and its okay with her since she said she cannot do anything about it and its out of her control. C'mon, this is outrageous how can they tolerate such. Do they really care about their child? If I will be a parent I will never tolerate this since my parents never taught us to do such thing. I feel sorry for her because she is so obsess with her boyfriend and I hope she won't regret that she gave everything for him even if it was not good. What are your thoughts about this?
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8 responses
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
No, I won't allow that kind of crap to happen. Our neighbor's daughter is living in the house of her boyfriend. That Child haven't reached the age of 18. 18 is too young for a child too live with his boyfriend.
@eljayo (1105)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
Hi! Yes indeed. It is very rampant in this generation. As I have said 18 is a legal age but not a mature age. There are still a lot of things to learn in life. Most teenagers today are very reckless and aggressive to do their own way.This is a sad truth and hopeful in our own family this will be prevented.
@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
14 Feb 12
hi friends, you disguised about to allow 18 year old daughter to live with his 18 year old boyfriend? It not good to do so, as i think it not in any religious it allowed but with proper marriage.
@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
16 Feb 12
yes friend, with you allow them (18 year old daughter with 18 year old boyfriend) the do something wrong in this period, the to feel something in one they reached to refuse. then the 18 years old daughter live will destroyed.
@thelmadacullo112659 (642)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
as parents with our children, we are much aware of their whereabouts.we dont want themto go for a wrong decision.we are looking forward to their good career and success.we are happy to look them them satisfy with their lives.thats why we monitor them every now and thenbut if ever they wanted to live with their partner at the age of 18,then thats their will already...i wont neglect nor block their way, for that is their wants..bcoz by not agreeing their wishes,would mean to me,sthat am blocking their happiness..so i will never hold their wants..i will allow to live with their partner if that is their will...by means of that, am sure thay will live happily ever after.
@eljayo (1105)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
Hi! I think as a parent we should always be aware where and whom with our child goes. That is why communication is very important. Sometimes although it may hurt them but we want them to learn the right thing. It may be wrong for them for a while but in the long run they will appreciate and understand it. If a parent really cares about their children they won't tolerate their reckless activities.By the way not all who live together out of marriage will live happily ever after.Most of them do separate after knowing their partner's true character. But then and again, God has given us freewill to do the things we want to do but remember that we will answer for all our actions.
@Ernnesto (180)
• Slovak Republic
14 Feb 12
My opinion is that It´s too early for them together. They should wait for a some time to think about such serious step in life. In this time is quite hard for everyone to have a children and also have a good income. Such step can complicate teir life later.
@leeannahewitt21 (97)
• United States
15 Feb 12
i agree with you there, and i think they should wait until they are married and then move in togther
@dandan07 (1906)
• China
14 Feb 12
18 years old means they are adults now according to the law. Though the marriage law here do not allow people get married before 20 years old, they have the right to live together.
I think if her parents do not like her boyfriend, they have the right to make him leave their house. In most case, her parents do not want to lose her so let her do what she like.
If she can take the responsibility of the relationship, I think there is nothing wrong.
@eljayo (1105)
• Philippines
14 Feb 12
Hi! I think although 18 years old is considered an adult but it is still not a mature age. I respect your opinion and in some cases you may be right. But for me, if they want to cohabit ate then they should just get married as well. To know that she is the one convincing the guy to do it.I do not think its morally right. I just hope nothing goes wrong.Thanks.;)
@deodavid (4150)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
Hi there eljayo,
Being also from an oriental country i think we should think about this matters there are a lot to consider in situations like this and it is wrong to judge in general i have a friend that was living in at 18 and the guy lived in girls house and has become the bread winner for his and her own families, the girl works but only part-time and with a menial job while the guys goes to office and has put up a small meat stall in the market the guy is practically tireless and since the girl has 2 elementary brothers and the mother of the girl has diabetes the couple share the burden of expenses. SO I think it is very situational but for the case that you are discussing about i dont think that is right and the parents of the both should intervene.
@eljayo (1105)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
Hi!It really is an issue in oriental countries but in the case of your story it has turned up very well. I guess he owes it to them since he is living in their house.But it is still against my principles. However , it still depends on the person if he is willing to do it or not , or is there a question of morality in doing it. Sad to say in the story I told you they cannot control her because she is a brat and both her parents are tolerating it.
