I regret it.
By edsss17
@edsss17 (4394)
Philippines
February 15, 2012 3:44am CST
Since the 5th grade, I already have a diary. I write everything there every end of the day.
On my 1st year in high school, I've burned those 5 notebooks that serves as my diary because of some reasons and just recently, I went back writing in a diary again.
Last night, I've write something that I shouldn't have wrote. Its something about my parents. Yes, yesterday was Valentines Day and instead of showing love, they were fighting and I'm so tired listening about their arguments over and over again.
And today, in Facebook, I saw a youtube video in one of my friend's profile. Its a song of Kari Jobe, entitled You Are For Me.
??I know that you will never forsake me in my weakness.??
That was one of the lyrics.
I feel guilty. I should have extended my understanding towards my parents and people around me.
But seriously, it still bothers me why parents fight. They tied their knots because they love each other and after few years of marriage, it seems like the love/spark was gone. Why?
My parents were talking about having separate ways and I hate it. 
Any advice for a daughter like me whose parents are thinking of annulment?
The song actually enlighten my mind but in another issues. Not this issue about my parents.
Thanks myLot for being such a good outlet when I can't write this in my Facebook wall or Twitter timeline.
Any advice for a daughter like me whose parents are thinking of annulment?
The song actually enlighten my mind but in another issues. Not this issue about my parents.
Thanks myLot for being such a good outlet when I can't write this in my Facebook wall or Twitter timeline.1 person likes this
11 responses
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
So sorry for what is happening with your parents. I guess what you can only do is to talk to them seriously about what is going on and why they have come to that point. I know it's hard but I guess this is the only thing you can do - try to do in the right time. Maybe they have such long issues they cannot fix anymore. I guess sometimes separation is better for both of them to be happy, if that is what they really want.
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
17 Feb 12
Hi enelym! :)
My parents are fine now. They're okay.. They're sweet again and as if nothing has happened few days back.
I just hate it when they fight. They don't consider how we; their children feels when they argue.. It hurts us especially when they talk about annulment. It can't just be a joke, right?
I'm hoping it won't happen again.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
18 Feb 12
I am glad they're sweet again. Maybe they just mentioned it because they're so hating each other at the time they were fighting. It's just a word for them and I guess you just got so worried about it.
I can feel you, I also don't want my mom and dad fighting even in small and silly things.
We can easily get affected since we always wants the best for our family.
We can easily get affected since we always wants the best for our family.
@shaieen (257)
• Philippines
17 Feb 12
Hi, I understand what you are feeling right now. I hate when parents do things like that, its like they are being selfish to their children. They built a family, and when a misunderstanding comes, it's so easy for them to think about separation. They don't even realize how bad it could cause to a child. Luckily, I'm not a child anymore. But still I feel same things as you are feeling right now.
I hope they reconcile one of these days. I'm just like you too wishing for a happy family. God bless you! :)
@shaieen (257)
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
Good thing everything is fine now. I'm so happy for you, girl. Just keep going with your life. Don't let their fight distract you of your studies and whatever you are focusing to.
@Christoph56 (1504)
• Canada
16 Feb 12
I can't believe you burned those old notebooks... you shouldn't be using them, then shunning and forgetting what you were. They are great to look back upon, and see how you should be improving yourself.
@chrystaltears (3392)
• United States
16 Feb 12
That spark doesn't last long in most marriages. At least I don't think it does. Sometimes, most of the time, the arguments are because of some other strain going on in life that neither of them can help and they take it out on each other. Maybe you can go to them together or separately and ask them or talk to them about it. Who knows, God may use you to say something that makes them stop and think about how they are behaving or that they may need to step back and take another look at what's going on. I have to tell my daughter sometimes to calm down and look at how she is blessed. Sometimes people get tore up over the smallest things just because chemistry has caused them to have bad nerves.
@chrystaltears (3392)
• United States
18 Feb 12
That is so precious. I am so glad to hear that good knews. That goes to prove how sometimes we worry so endlessly when nothing happens after all. If we weren't so human, we could wait and do the worrying after it does happen instead, but we aren't made that way, are we?
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
18 Feb 12
True. The spark may gone sometimes in most marriage. Some may survive living together without spark just for their children's sake and for other reasons they consider and sometimes they just can't get a hold of each other anymore so they let go..
Good thing my parents is now fine and they are sweet as a love bird as if like nothing has happened few days back.
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@ladyeaglefeather (228)
• United States
15 Feb 12
So, sorry to hear about your problems. You should never stop writing. Believe me, it will help you feel better. As for your parents, all I can say, is just be there for them, if they need you.
@leeannahewitt21 (97)
• United States
15 Feb 12
i am sorry to hear it but i really don't know what to say
@nyang1984 (464)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
hi!
sorry to hear your problems. i really don't know what to say. i'm married for almost 3 years and 3 mos to be exact, and we had a child. my partner and i also have fights due to some matters. and we never slept on our problems and etc.
their love to each other is not gone it's still there it only needs to be awaken or something... Always pray to God and ask for enlightenment.. and i think you try to talk to your parents... maybe you can do something by talking to them...
God is good...:)
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
17 Feb 12
Hi nyang! :)
Good thing you guys doesn't sleep until your problems are solved. How I wish my parents can be that responsible too. I mean, they should solve their problems peacefully and should not announce it to the world and us; their children hear them. It just hurts!
But, as of now, they are fine already. They are sweet as love birds! :)
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
15 Feb 12
Hi Edsss, look at things positively.
As long as your parents keep talking to each other, they still love each other.
Much better than to have cold war, and they do not want to see each other or to talk to each other again.
Most of us tend to keep a distance or keep quiet when we are angry at someone.
if this happens to your parents, and they even want to sleep in different bedrooms, then you can really start to worry.
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
17 Feb 12
Hi scheng.
You are right! I will just worry when they don't sleep together anymore.
Its crazy, they are now fine again and sweet. As if nothing has happened few days back!
They just don't know what I've been through when they have that argument about annulment. Shocks! 
@shibham (16977)
• India
15 Feb 12
Hi..
sometimes a married couple shows their love, affection and understanding by quarreling. It does not mean that they are disturbed with each other. But sometimes they argue too oddly that separation seems much needed. It happens for lack of understanding.
You cant finally do anything but can try.... you have to play a neutral role and participate on their argument with proper judgement.
have a nice time.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
Why don't you try talking to each parent separately. Maybe they will open up what they don't like in each other. Then , you can convince them to compromise and try to do something to save their marriage.
But when you have done everything to keep them together, but still they want to separate, i guess that's the time to give up and accept it. Just have them assure you that they will still be parents to you, even if they part ways. 
@ajagogo (153)
• Philippines
15 Feb 12
Hi Edsss, I know how hard it is for you,but you should put yourself on your parents shoes. I'm sure its hard for them too,to fight with each other and planned to have annulment. But if you look on the brighter side, you will see how they will learn to forget and forgive. Maybe it is better to be that way, to maintain their respect with each other. What is the use of still being together if all they do is fight and fight. Just let them do whatever they decide to. Just be there for each of them. Understand them. They need your understanding in times like this.Just let Jesus guide you.
@salma07 (639)
• India
16 Feb 12
i think i can give you advice on the constant fighting of your parents, because my parents fight too, its funny to think because they are going to celebrate their 25th anniversary soon, yet the fight like two puppies and even though i make it sound cute and funny, their fighting is far from being cute and funny, it hurts a lot as a child to hear a parent fighting, but if you think, its not because they hate each other or something its because they dont respect each other, at least the one thinks that the other doesnt respect him/her. Well, they'll figure it out soon enough that they love each other, and sadly all this crap will happen when we are in our teens, mine is similar story too, but now its ok, but still the fighting continues,i just ignore them, its hard i know but you have to ignore them.
