Single and alone in your 30's
@mchelgutierrez (26)
Philippines
February 15, 2012 7:01pm CST
When your in your teens, you are very much excited to have your first relationship, your first love, when you reach your late 20's you experience love and know that it can be a happy feeling but it can also be a source of excruciating pain for the pain caused by a broken heart is very hard to heal. Then you reach your early 30's you are still blessed w/ optimism that you will be able to meet the love of your life and then when you reach your late 30's you have your hands up saying..."ok, cupid...I'm done!!!"
12 responses
@mchelgutierrez (26)
• Philippines
17 Feb 12
Koreans are very beautiful. I believe that the reason we get hurt is because we are being prepared so that by the time the right one comes along we are better persons than we used to be.
@pelgerhuet (136)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
well,I'm 30 going 31y/o and yes i'm still single. i agree t what you've said.hehehe.at times i wanna give up the idea of meeting that someone 'special' but i still pray about it.hoping that someday i'll meet him.but for now look for ways not to think much of this.i like going on a trip with friends.i feel like something is missing if i don't go out.but if i don't have a chance to travel then it's still ok.just keep yourself busy.
@mchelgutierrez (26)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
Well for me I got very busy w/ teaching, taking care of my dogs and going out w/ friends I totally forgot that at my age I should have a family of my own. Well, I'm still enjoying single blessedness or maybe I like to keep myself in a much safer place because subconsciously I have this fear of experiencing a broken heart for the Nth time ahahaha. Thanks for the comment.
@annierose (21583)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
I understand what you feel. I am now on my late 20's and I can feel the pressure around me. I am also a teacher and my colleagues are always asking me to get married or else I will be single for the rest of my life. I am single for more than a year now after a very painful love experience with the person I thought is already the right one but eventually is not. I do still believe that somewhere out there, we will meet the man who will give us love. It maybe not this time but I think that it will be soon.
@mchelgutierrez (26)
• Philippines
17 Feb 12
hey, annierose. I think that too. Don't worry you are still young. Who knows love may come knocking at our door...maybe tomorrow? Let's keep our hopes up and let the right man find us.
@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
16 Feb 12
You are right! By age 40 for me, still nothing. I don't mean not good relationships, I mean no relationships. Two years later still nothing. It just wasn't meant for me to find anyone. I was never going to have my own place. But there was something I enjoyed. Kareoke. I went every tuesday. Where same people go up and sing and you learn people's names. At 44 years old I was still going. some people would see me and say hi. One day I walk in and see a few friends at a table so I decided see who all was there. One of the people was this girl that would say hi to me and I would say hi back. This time we talked. We found we had alot in common. So we went out. A year later, we were house hunting. We have now been together for almost 11 years.
Do not ever ever ever give up on love.
@mchelgutierrez (26)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
Wow marty I love your story. It's a great lovestory. I'm glad you found your true love.
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
16 Feb 12
I would not give up yet if I were you. I have a few friends who find their true love after 40. Have faith!
Hang in there. 
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
I guess a lot of people would share your sentiments about being single in your late 30s. Although I was fortunate enough not to be in a similar situation, my sister however had. But she eventually found her husband and had actually gave birth to a son. I really don't think there's any really good advice on what to do in such a situation. I mean, love can come at any time (most of the time when you least expect it) So I guess you just have to keep a positive attitude. But you can help it a little by being outgoing and meeting new friends. I mean, if a person shuts himself up to the world, it would really make it hard for love to find him :)
@mchelgutierrez (26)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
It's true what they say that when you keep yourself busy you tend to lose track of time. That's what happened to me. I enjoyed teaching kids and I enjoyed the company of my friends so that's the reason why probably I didn't have time to feel alone. But I think it's more of the dictates of society that pressures a person. ahahah. thanks for the wonderful advice.
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
you generally put to words your experiences or stories that you heard? of course, there are so many exceptions, in fact, it may be the rule that girls find their men eventually in their late 20s or early 30s. there are many good stories telling the wonderful ride of singlehood to marriage. i am sure you will have your own share of good story.
@acey76 (1276)
• Philippines
16 Feb 12
well me Im in my mid my 30's, single and an only child but never have i felt that i was alone, because I have my friends with me, and besides i don't find love i like love to find me :-) what ever destiny may I found still no regrets and will take it positively
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
16 Feb 12
Well dear friend, you must know that I live a somewhat unusual situation.
I know that at first glance may seem very strange, but you know that I arrived at the age of 37 still single, never had a love.
By this I do not still a problem, because, just between us, I'm fine, too.
@jricky1 (6800)
• China
16 Feb 12
I understand what you say and yea,people would feel differnet after the first relationship.Of course,people would change as time flies and time would change all of us,so just don't be afraid when you really meet someone meant to be with you.Good luck to all of us!
@gustin09 (35)
• Indonesia
16 Feb 12
you can tell the cupid that you're done with the whole love things, but one thing you should remember is that those cupids are stone-headed, They don't give up easily! ;) u know, you will fall in love again, those cupids will find the right angle to shoot your heart! The right person will come, so don't give up okay.. well, like the others' sayings before, love is wonderful!
