Families' Bread Winner: Are you still doing some other house chores?

I think this is very unfair to you, considering that you have to work to feed the whole family. I would not hesitate to question them why they have not done the housechores even if it means quarelling.

I was the breadwinner of the family then but now it's a shared thing with my wife. Well, actually, her salary's thrice the amount I get. But still, we've divided our living expenses almost equally. As to household chores, I do most of them. I like doing some of the chores especially cleaning and organizing stuff. Probably I'm a borderline case of being obsessive-compulsive :) But everyone in our household pitch in. No one just bums around watching TV or something. I admire your patience with your family. It could really be frustrating when you're almost the only one doing everything. Maybe you could have a talk with them and sort of assign responsibilities.

Since I am somewhat partially retired--haven't made up my mind what I am yet, really. Anyways, I go over to my daughters and keep my grandson sometimes during the week. While I am there I make beds, wash clothes, pickup and so on. When I spend 4 days per week at my 86 year old mom's, I vacuum, dust, do dishes, beds, clothes, dogs, take care of her c-pac, etc, etc. I don't have to do any of those things, but do you know that I still get complaints? Whatever!

Hello there mobhomeir! It's sad to be in a situation like that and I think most of families do have experienced such situations.Are you he eldest of all children in your family? If so,how many siblings do you have and do they have a job as well? Sometimes someone has to speak up for such situations which we feel like small things that can lead to arguements. But still think of it as part of being able to help one another. If you don't speak of what you have inside of you, it will cause you more suffering when in fact all of the family members should help one another specially in household chores. As for me, I always do household stuffs whether I work or not, it's still the same thing. There are times I really felt bored, weak and feel so much suffering when all the others are just lying around. I say, even we do have work or not, tired or not, it's still everyone's responsibilities to help in household chores. Do you agree?

Hello mobhomeir, I am also the only earning member in my family still i also do some house chores when reach home from office.I have 2 kids aged 3 years and i know its not that easy to keep them whole day one get tired in doing so but my wife keep them without a complain.Therefore to help my wife i do some house chores but she never force me to do it.

I work full time and consider myself a breadwinner though I am not expected to do the household chores. That would be too much for me. If ever I work at home, that is considered voluntary, out of my own will as a form of exercise, a reason for me to stretch my muscles. Since I lived with my 72 year old mom, I do not expect her either to do the household chores instead I have two college working scholars with me who would wake up early to prepare our breakfast, do the laundry and ironing of our clothes, clean the house and its surroundings and some others chores to be done on weekends when they don't have classes.

Nope I am not the bread winner but I give help to my mom in some of the expenses in our house. Chores, I specifically do it everyday, sometimes I almost got fed up of the fact that in everyday, I wake up I clean the house, prepare food and other stuff over and over.. but I guess that's life, my mom is old and she cannot do some things anymore, I am an only child so I don't have someone who can help me. I always wanted to be the bread winner but my business is still new so I am still adjusting to monthly expenses, but I hope by next few months I pay all those things..

I don't mind doing some things around the house, but I do expect everyone else to pull their fair share too. I don't want to be stuck doing everything all the time. I am very lucky in this aspect.

Hey Daddy Mob! Oh oh! I feel bad for you on this thing because for me, there should e a division of labor at home. Well in your case, it will be better if after work, you can come home and have some rest to recharge for the next day's work. Too much work will not be good for your health and not only that, I feel like you are being more stressed with your situation, and again that's not good for you. I just hope that its that's easy to talk to your wife and make her understand the situation, but I know its not. haha you spoiled her! I think both of you should attend the seminar for couples again to refresh the obligation of each other to one another! haha

hello Martin I am not the breadwinner (but some sort, looks like one) I also do same thing when I was still working. I went to work at midnight and came home around 11am and have to cook lunch and prepare dinner (cooking for two meals) before going to bed. Usually I sleep around 1pm or 2 because I need to do some tidying before retiring to bed. Wake up by 8 or 9pm to prepare going to work again. Good thing I only worked 4 days in a week. But the stress is unbearable- doing stressful office works and home chores. So,I decided to resign (lols) I admire you for being patient and not everyone can do what you are doing Have a great weekend my dear Martin

hahahaha what a thought hindi ka nag-iisa... I did... i can't afford a helper hahah but we are only three in the family, my daughter and my wife... maybe that's the difference

it must be really tiring for you to work the whole day,go home and do chores.Here,in india,husbands work, in most of the households,and the wife looks after the house and kids.