she fell down my phone,,,

@asliah (11137)
Philippines
February 19, 2012 5:10am CST
greetings to all of you guys,i dont know what should i feel a while ago at my work,because my friend fell down my touch screen phone i think in 3 feet high,i feel annoyed a bit and anger to her but i dont want to show it to her because she is my friend,though she apologized to me and i accepted it.how about you,what usually you feel or do if your friend fall down your special gadget/s?why?will you blame him/her?why?
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13 responses
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
well, just like you i would pretend not to be mad at her but if my phone get broken and could not be fix anymore. she got to pay me or have a replacement. that kind of a friend should keep in her mind that she should not touch other phone again if she is not careful. good things you retain your self control if that happen to other people, surely they will shout on her and call her names in nasty ways..
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• United States
19 Feb 12
I kind of feel that pretending not to be upset about it is passive aggressive. It's not honest feelings. I think she should tell her friend that she broke it and she needs to replace it. She doesn't need to be angry but she needs to say what she means and mean what she says. Her friend will probably not replace it as long as she is not asked to.
• United States
20 Feb 12
I am sorry, I am not familiar with your terminology: 'fell down my phone'; perhaps you mean "dropped my phone"? What was your friend doing with your phone to begin with? If your friend was making a call with your phone, what led to her dropping it? If she had the phone in her hand and physically 'fell down', it was probably an accident. In this case, just go your way, forgive her and forget about it. If the phone is damaged, you SHOULD show it to her whether or not she apologized and give her an opportunity to offer repair or replacement. If the issue is not resolved thoroughly, you will always feel annoyed and angry with her. I am a 'little old lady' in terms of life experiences; 70 years worth of life experiences. I learned many years ago that if I treasure something, I don't 'loan' it to a 'friend' or anyone else due to being very picky about how they care (or don't care) for MY things! It is best to just refuse to let 'friends' use one's items than to feel anger and disappointment toward that person. At this moment, I have a girl staying with me who is an artist (I am an artist as well), she has none of the items with her which she uses as an artist - I have let her use my precious and expensive table top easel box and asked her not to get any paint on it - I just discovered dried smears of paint on the easel side of my precious box where she went off the canvas and painted streaks on the box. I have already done a painting on the bottom of the box and planned to do another on the 'working side' - but now, that plan is ruined unless I can get the paint off - probably not as it has dried for several days and will probably never come off. So, what does one do when this 'friend' just takes whatever I have to promote her livelihood and makes a mess on my things? She also has used my paints for some of her paintings and sold a couple which she used my paints for rather than buying her own and has not offered to reimburse me for the cost of what she used! I like to keep my painting supplies clean and neat - I would have put a piece of waxed paper between the canvas and the box if I had been using a canvas smaller than the easel holds. I asked her not go get any paint on the lip of the easel where the canvas rests, but guess she didn't carry that request over to the rest of the box. So, my advice to you, young lady, is to not allow ANYONE, friends or not, to use your items. Now, to solve my delima!
• United States
20 Feb 12
I am sorry, I didn't mean to post basically the same answer three times - I edited it twice and the result is here as three posts with the last one the final draft. Thanks for overlooking this error on my part. Sometimes I get in a hurry, think I am finished then think of something else.
@toniganzon (72551)
• Philippines
6 Mar 12
This is an honest answer. I never got angry when somebody would accidentally do that with my phone. So far all the phones that i've been using are really sturdy and yes they've fallen down the ground several times. I always thought they're just gadgets. Now if a friend of mine accidentally did that, i wouldn't get mad at all. I knew she would feel awful for dropping the phone as she knew how expensive that is. A thing can be replaced. That's what's always on my mind. Now if i would get mad and tell her that, i might lose her friendship and i guess it would be very difficult to replace that. So i'd rather choose a friend that couldn't be replaced over a material thing.
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
22 Feb 12
If that was my iPhone, I would be going crazy. I spent a lot of money on that phone. And besides, I would never let anyone use it. Thats how I am. I know it would have been an accident, but if it broke I would expect them to replace it.
@dilrajj57 (1757)
• Pakistan
23 Feb 12
not to be angry for fell down you phone by friends, she not want to do so but it happened and when she apologized to you that right that you accept, hope you will get a new one better that.
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
24 Oct 12
I feel a little bit angry but if she means to say sorry then I would accept that. Besides, we can see if that person is really apologetic or not.I think she has no intention to drop your high definition gadget for if she has that intention she might just want to annoy you or want you to get angry.
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
Accidents happen. I don't think I'll get mad at my friend if he or she accidentally damages a gadget of mine. I would probably feel disappointed and frustrated not at my friend but the whole incident since fixing or replacing a gadget cost money, and I can't ask a friend to pay for it if it was an accident. If however he or she offers to replace it, I would accept their offer. I haven't actually had a gadget damaged by a friend. But I had experienced my car's taillights getting smashed when a lady friend of mine accidentally bumped her car into mine. I actually laughed and teased her about it, but I didn't get mad.
• United States
20 Feb 12
I am sorry, I am not familiar with your terminology: 'fell down my phone'; perhaps you mean "dropped my phone"? What was your friend doing with your phone to begin with? If your friend was making a call with your phone, what led to her dropping it? If she had the phone in her hand and physically 'fell down', it was probably an accident. In this case, just go your way, forgive her and forget about it. If the phone is damaged, you SHOULD show it to her whether or not she apologized and give her an opportunity to offer repair or replacement. If the issue is not resolved thoroughly, you will always feel annoyed and angry with her. I am a 'little old lady' in terms of life experiences; 70 years worth of life experiences. I learned many years ago that if I treasure something, I don't 'loan' it to a 'friend' or anyone else due to being very picky about how they care (or don't care) for MY things! It is best to just refuse to let 'friends' use one's items than to feel anger and disappointment toward that person. At this moment, I have a girl staying with me who is an artist (I am an artist as well), she has none of the items with her which she uses as an artist - I have let her use my precious and expensive table top easel box and asked her not to get any paint on it - I just discovered dried smears of paint on the easel side of my precious box where she went off the canvas and painted streaks on the box. I have already done a painting on the bottom of the box and planned to do another on the 'working side' - but now, that plan is ruined unless I can get the paint off - probably not as it has dried for several days and will probably never come off. So, what does one do when this 'friend' just takes whatever I have to promote her livelihood and makes a mess on my things? I like to keep my painting supplies clean and neat - I would have put a piece of waxed paper between the canvas and the box if I had been using a canvas smaller than the easel holds. I asked her not go get any paint on the lip of the easel where the canvas rests, but guess she didn't carry that request over to the rest of the box. So, my advice to you, young lady, is to not allow ANYONE, friends or not, to use your items. Now, to solve my delima!
• United States
20 Feb 12
I am sorry, I am not familiar with your terminology: 'fell down my phone'; perhaps you mean "dropped my phone"? What was your friend doing with your phone to begin with? If your friend was making a call with your phone, what led to her dropping it? If she had the phone in her hand and physically 'fell down', it was probably an accident. In this case, just go your way, forgive her and forget about it. If the phone is damaged, you SHOULD show it to her whether or not she apologized and give her an opportunity to offer repair or replacement. If the issue is not resolved thoroughly, you will always feel annoyed and angry with her. I am a 'little old lady' in terms of life experiences; 70 years worth of life experiences. I learned many years ago that if I treasure something, I don't 'loan' it to a 'friend' or anyone else due to being very picky about how they care (or don't care) for MY things! It is best to just refuse to let 'friends' use one's items than to feel anger and disappointment toward that person. At this moment, I have a girl staying with me who is an artist (I am an artist as well), she has none of the items with her which she uses as an artist - I have let her use my precious and expensive table top easel box and asked her not to get any paint on it - I just discovered dried smears of paint on the easel side of my precious box where she went off the canvas and painted streaks on the box. I have already done a painting on the bottom of the box and planned to do another on the 'working side' - but now, that plan is ruined unless I can get the paint off - probably not as it has dried for several days and probably never come off. So, what does one do when this 'friend' just takes whatever I have to promote her livelihood and messes it up for me? I like to keep my painting supplies clean and neat - I would have put a piece of waxed paper between the canvas and the box if I had been using a canvas smaller than the easel holds. I asked her not go get any paint on the lip of the easel where the canvas rests, but guess she didn't carry that request over to the rest of the box. So, my advice to you, young lady, is to not allow ANYONE, friends or not, to use your items. Now, to solve my delima!
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
This one is a bit tricky. Of course, if she accidentally dropped my gadget and it broke off or was damaged, I will surely demand him to fix it or buy a new one again. It is her responsibility to take care of the belongings others have entrusted on her. But if there are no damages and everything is working normally, then there is no need for blaming and angry words in here. It will really depend on the end result on the gadget. But if there are any other issues like she intentionally dropped it or she don't have the money to fix it or buy a new one, then I will have to discuss with her some options in order for her to appease me of what she had done. An individual should be held accountable to his/her actions.
• United States
19 Feb 12
Did she break your phone? Do you mean she dropped your phone or she fell down with it? I'm thinking you mean she accidentally dropped your phone. So your phone is broken now? Did she replace it? If she broke it, then saying she is sorry isn't enough. She needs to replace it since she broke it. Did you let her use it? There are so many possible answers here for this one and I don't know all the facts to make a proper response. I think from now on you will be careful not to let anyone touch your phone. If anyone breaks my phone it had better be me, because if anyone else does they are going to have to 'eat' it and buy me a new one.
@timetravel (1425)
• United States
19 Feb 12
Rule number one: No matter how good a friend someone is, do not let them use anything that would be expensive to replace. Because no matter how close, most people resent shelling out money for something that goes to another person, such as a new cell phone. If a friend insists, I would ask straight out if they have the money on hand to replace it if they accidentally drop it and break it. If nothing broke and no harm was done, just let this be a lesson - unless you are willing to assume the risks involved. I'm not big on "blame" - I think we overuse the word. Same with "fault". Things happen - the word here is responsibility rather than blame. Blame her - or hold her responsible for damages incurred?
@hunibani (720)
• Philippines
20 Feb 12
I would get mad! But in the end I don't show it. I don't want them to feel awkward afterward. I'm gonna start saying things that they need to pay if something bad happen in my phone hehe