Is the Relationships based on money needed???????
By Arya
@arya007 (306)
Tirupathi, India
13 responses
@woolscupiee (185)
• Philippines
19 Feb 12
As much as I don't want money issues to interfere in a certain relationship but its really that important to give attention to it also. Money is very important for survival. For practicality, its better to consider money in a relationship.
@jenzai (388)
• Philippines
21 Feb 12
Lets face it money is needed in our daily living its part of us the we need to survive in this civilized world. But in my opinion money alone as the basis in any relationship will not prosper, it might end in a divorce or betrayal in marriage. I believe it should be part of the consideration when deciding for marriage because its difficult if both have financial incapacity.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
20 Feb 12
I don't think relationships are based on money. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years and the focus of our relationship is working together as partners. We stress and struggle with bills sometimes due to my job being somewhat sucky, but just because we don't have a lot of money doesn't mean our relationship will fall apart.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
20 Feb 12
Now a days, one must think first before engaging or be committed to a relationship. Today, we can not survive by love alone. Before it's okay if one of the couple had a stable job to support their family, but the situation now is different. Most couples preferred to help either the husband or the wife to have an income as support. We are now living in a materialistic world, so some thought first what will be their future and in doing so most preferred if possible partners who have stable job, meaning with stable income.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
20 Feb 12
Well I think money is need in life to buy things we need like a home and food. But for love no you don't need money. To be happy you don't need money to buy or get everything you need. I don't think a relationship based on money will last to long. I also tell my husband I would rather be broke and happy that we have a home for daughter and soon to be new baby with food then be rich with money.
@kaeirole (668)
• Philippines
20 Feb 12
based on money? i think the only relationship that is based on money is that when a person is only interested with his/her partner's money..that they'll do anything for the love money, even if it means they are using someone to get what they want..
yeah, we need money to survive..but we should never base our relationship to it..
@jodenton (222)
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20 Feb 12
I firmly believe that it is not the money that is needed to be in a healthy relationship it is that you and your spouse's attitude towards money has to be compatible. For example, if you are both happy to live in a cardboard box then love is really all you need. If you both value materialistic things then that is fine also. It is when one of you values materialistic things and the other values savings or does not value the work ethic at all that problems will start.
@dodo19 (47317)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
19 Feb 12
As much as money is important for survival, and some relationships may be based on money, I think that it's better if the relationship is based on love, and it can be dangerous if it's based on money. I do think that money issues should be discussed in a relationship, but I don't think that the entire relationship should be solely based on this.
@GemmaR (8517)
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19 Feb 12
I don't think that relationships should be based on money, but unfortunately it is not always something that can be helped in our culture. I have the problem with my boyfriend because he doesn't have a job at the moment and I have one, and this means that if I wand to do something that he can't afford, I have to pay for us both to go myself. It isn't that I mind paying for him as such, it's just that it can get a little bit annoying after being with him for three years and still going through the same money problems that we've had right from the very beginning of our relationship.
@lologirl2021 (5542)
• United States
19 Feb 12
My relationship here in mylot is about the money. I need the money and i would like to acheive my goal of jsut getting the payout every month but its hard at times when i work a full time job as well.
Now my realtionship with the boyfriend isnt based on money but we do live on the money we make and we need to get more money in life as well. I try to make as much as possible but really am needing more now.
@Reyachan (589)
• Romania
19 Feb 12
Hello, arya! After a few years and some relationships I can say this : it's not the money that's important, but the occupation. I mean , first of all, you have to love a person. It's the first condition to be met, otherwise it has no meaning.
If a person isn't rich it isn't a good reason not to love him/her, but if the person is a lazy slob that doesn't have an occupation or the necessary means to help you or contribute in any way to a life together, then he/she desearves no love.
What I mean by this is that money isn't important, but it's a means of survival. And I don't think it's fair that, in any relationship, one of the partners works and gets money while the other lays around doing nothing or not even trying.
A relationship is a partnership and both people must give their best and hep each other. If that help includes also working , having a job, etc, then yes, it's important. If one of them has enough for both and gives the other one the approval to sit around an do nothing , it's their own business.
But personally I don't like people like that. Because an occupation and activities in general are what keep people going , make them better and help them develop.
So in my eyes, being poor is ok, being a lazy slob is not.
Happy posting!
@rajthingom (20)
• India
20 Feb 12
Nowadays people become selfishness even in relationship. A good, firm relation means one can sacrifices everything, sharing in happiness, sorrowfulness etc. But there are some people who only think of money, they do not care the value of good relationship. In India we will find some people marry a woman only for money, they demand huge amount to bride at the time of marriage (in hindi it is called "daori"). That type of person does not know the meaning of relation.
@vt689586 (584)
• India
19 Feb 12
Yes many relationship are based on money but in my opinion if any of your relationship based on money then it will not long lasting .and don't believe on that type of relationship.and if it feels very bad if you that your relationship is based on money.
In that type of relationship when all thing are dependent on money there will be no feelings involve.